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RE: Has anyone had better luck with sites other than CM? - 1/7/2009 9:58:53 PM

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Says who, and Where is this person saying it knighted or given the right to make sweeping rules for e very one alive on the planet?

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RE: Has anyone had better luck with sites other than CM? - 1/7/2009 10:03:55 PM

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Just so you know hymens get broke all the time, and not from just having sex, Horse back riding could break a hymen and so could a severe fall if you managed to land with an object between your legs, like say falling onto the mettle part of a mens bike, if you were so foolish as to try to ride a mens bike that was to big for you to ride and you fell.

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Errr, I've tried and apparently there does have to be a male person involved which makes my life very unhappy indeed. This is probably way TMI, but I think I probably am a) someone who will never ogasm (more likely) b) someone that just needs something/anything plunged into her vagina (but I'm not doing that until marriage, I have a hymen) or c) I need a male to be there, telling me to have one .. and that it's okay and such. .. Sigh.

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RE: Has anyone had better luck with sites other than CM? - 1/7/2009 10:19:52 PM

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You should also never tell other people what to never do.

Just because You'd never do it, doesn't mean it's not ok for others who'd do it. It's called the right to choose, what you wish to do.

There's no right or wrong way for every one to address others. If they want t o demand you call them Sir, before a meeting and you wish to GO AHEAD. It doesn't mean you can be walked on.

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Listen, any where you go there are jerks in this world. You have to take your time when Looking for a Dom...a lot of men here as well as women are just trolling. If you meet a Dom and he feels that you should call him Sir on the first meeeting...tell him to Kiss your Ass. You never call a Dom Sir on the First meeting. If the Dom wants you to pay for the meal when you first meet again tell him to kiss your ass. You are always a lady, let him pay for the meal. Some men feel that if you are a subbie you can be walked overBefore he can become your Dom you first start off in a Val relationship. That is where I see some of the subbies make their mistake. Try going to munches to meet furture Dom, just don't stay on the net looking.

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RE: Has anyone had better luck with sites other than CM? - 1/7/2009 10:29:59 PM

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If I was a male Dominant, and even if I met all your requirements, you're so mentally unhealthy and come off to much as wah wah with this post and most your others, I am helpless I will drown if you don't come get me, that I'd run away from you so fast, I'd be a million miles away before your drowning ever made the news.

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I do support myself. I've been doing it for two years. I hate it. I'm successful at it. That makes me feel dead and unloved that I *have* to. If it weren't doing it for sheer survival, I may do it because I wanted to. Nevermind, I guess no one can possibly understand. If I become *independent* which is different than just education/job/living alone.. that means a lot of other things I have refused to do, like take decent care of myself etc and fully accept this life. I will change forever and I will not be submissive anymore. The *only* think that turns me on in *any* way is the Dominance/submission thing and without that there will be no romantic relationships. I know myself. I've been hanging onto my sucky life so I could be rescued while I still needed it - and letting myself get unhealthier and unhealthier in many ways so I don't let it get by. I cannot become healthy on my own without destroying my chances at ever having a relationship with anyone. I'm serious. Maybe you all don't understand that, but it's true. Oh yeah, and I have like 10 vibrators, and I've never had the big "O" btw.

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RE: Has anyone had better luck with sites other than CM? - 1/7/2009 10:41:02 PM

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Spankings are VERY sexual for me, I get hot and bothered and quite dripping wet with arousal

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Let's begin with nonsexual activities like spanking,

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RE: Has anyone had better luck with sites other than CM? - 1/7/2009 10:46:39 PM

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Quite simple really, if they don't like cold weather or couldn't tolerate it, and I love cold weather and would never live in a place with out lots of cold weather, He and I are not compatible.

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Also... what the hell do these questions have to do with finding someone compatible

"Do you like/love (or could tolerate) cold weather?"

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RE: Has anyone had better luck with sites other than CM? - 1/7/2009 11:29:12 PM

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Maybe she sould leave her profile the way it is. Until she can accept a life with in her faith without the cage she has placed around her. If she agrees to non-sex play and ends up in subspace she may come out of it without a hymen and the guilt could cause her to do something very nasty or fatal to herself!

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RE: Has anyone had better luck with sites other than CM? - 1/8/2009 1:06:50 AM

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YHMA, I was trying to think of how much play she could give a prospective Dom without sex. This serves the dual purpose of giving something to whomever takes up with her, and letting the two of them "try things on" and see if they're suited for D/s. After all, they're both new to this.

And spanking CAN be done without sex, even if it does serve as foreplay very effectively.

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Spankings are VERY sexual for me, I get hot and bothered and quite dripping wet with arousal
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Let's begin with nonsexual activities like spanking,

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RE: Has anyone had better luck with sites other than CM? - 1/8/2009 1:18:02 AM

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YHMA, I was trying to think of how much play she could give a prospective Dom without sex. This serves the dual purpose of giving something to whomever takes up with her, and letting the two of them "try things on" and see if they're suited for D/s. After all, they're both new to this.

And spanking CAN be done without sex, even if it does serve as foreplay very effectively.

I think the idea of her trying some non sexual D/s activities is a great one. Right now she is so focused on the White Knight fantasy and not really thinking about reality.

We have all heard the story of the girl with the fantasy of being spanked. When it happened for real the Dom said "well did you like it?" and the girl replied "no no it hurt. In my dreams it didn't hurt to be spanked"

Fantasy is only good when backed up with a healthy dose of reality.

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RE: Has anyone had better luck with sites other than CM? - 1/8/2009 3:44:39 AM

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dont give up Hermione. God loves you. all you have to do is pray from the bottom of your heart instead of wasting time on the internet. if your soul is pure, your knight is on his way, bearing gods message.

i noticed you cite Mother Teresa as a role model. have you considered being like her? She's a virgin too, like you. and in all probablity, started her journey just like you.
i will pray for you sweet sister. your knight is on his way, riding down your moonlight mile.

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RE: Has anyone had better luck with sites other than CM? - 1/8/2009 3:51:08 AM

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lol!
what just happened here? :D
too funny

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RE: Has anyone had better luck with sites other than CM? - 1/8/2009 4:34:45 AM

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you can have all the orgasms you want hon, and still be a virgin. I promise.

No, you really can't promise that. I've tried til I cried instead of orgasmed a million times. I can't.

How have you tried?
Get Betty Dodson's book Sex for One and For Yourself by Lonnie Barbach...

or try this:

http://www.doctorg.com/sexual_products/aqualove.html

As for thinking yourself a masochist because you behave in self destructive ways... I disagree with that.

I would suggest a kink aware therapist

http://www.ncsfreedom.org/index.php?option=com_wrapper&Itemid=75

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RE: Has anyone had better luck with sites other than CM? - 1/8/2009 8:21:42 AM

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DarkSteven, oh I know it doesn't have o have sex to still be a good spanking, and it was a very good effort, and finding a solution to the problem. I was just posting because I can lol.

Well that and they DO turn me on So since they do turn me on I personally don't view them as non sexual, personally at least.

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YHMA, I was trying to think of how much play she could give a prospective Dom without sex. This serves the dual purpose of giving something to whomever takes up with her, and letting the two of them "try things on" and see if they're suited for D/s. After all, they're both new to this.

And spanking CAN be done without sex, even if it does serve as foreplay very effectively.

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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

Spankings are VERY sexual for me, I get hot and bothered and quite dripping wet with arousal
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Let's begin with nonsexual activities like spanking,

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RE: Has anyone had better luck with sites other than CM? - 1/8/2009 9:50:17 AM

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lol!
what just happened here? :D
too funny

OH Boy!!!!

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RE: Has anyone had better luck with sites other than CM? - 1/8/2009 11:22:48 AM

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you can have all the orgasms you want hon, and still be a virgin. I promise.

No, you really can't promise that. I've tried til I cried instead of orgasmed a million times. I can't.

How have you tried?
Get Betty Dodson's book Sex for One and For Yourself by Lonnie Barbach...

The OP mentions that she's tried.

Just for the record, her situation is maybe not so unlikely. I know a woman who can orgasm from cunnilingus (multiple times, even) and even from vaginal intercourse if she can grind her clit the right way while it happens, but she's never been able to masturbate herself to orgasm.
And she's tried every vibrator from the tiny egg and that rabbit thing to the magic wand, and many in between.

Not to say that there aren't other techniques she could try.

I've recommended porn, myself, but she hasn't taken me up on that yet, for example.

I'd imagine there are more ideas in that Betty Dodson book, too.

(For instance, if the OP has "tried until she cried", then she might not be in a conducive frame of mind, etc.)

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RE: Has anyone had better luck with sites other than CM? - 1/8/2009 12:09:30 PM

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I haven't had time to search through all the posts, but fetlife.com is a good community site. A friend told me about okcupid.com, which is a vanilla site that addresses kink in a general way. You have the opportunity to answer questions, and you're given a match rating. Lastly plentyoffish.com has a lot of kinky people on there, however most are playing it very close to the vest. If you drop a few hints, most will give you a yay or nay. One lady just came right out and asked me,'are you into BDSM?' So there's hope!

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RE: Has anyone had better luck with sites other than CM? - 1/8/2009 1:26:57 PM

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Hermione I have a guy on my friends list and he is a virgin...check him out.he is 25 and lives in Ohio and is a real cutie.

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RE: Has anyone had better luck with sites other than CM? - 1/8/2009 4:27:12 PM

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I recommend www.mydommespace.com. The admin there personally verifies via cam that the person posting is for real.

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RE: Has anyone had better luck with sites other than CM? - 1/8/2009 5:46:54 PM

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if your soul is pure, your knight is on his way, bearing gods message.

Umm... so, if her knight doesn't show (with a bouquet of roses in one hand and a message from god in the other), it means her soul isn't pure?

Lil twisted, that.

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RE: Has anyone had better luck with sites other than CM? - 1/8/2009 6:49:11 PM

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What on Earth makes ya'll think I haven't been whipped and spanked? :P I'm not *that* pure. I may be the driven snow and all, but geez, I started that with neighbor boys at about 4 years old... ;)

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