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RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respon... - 1/4/2006 6:32:32 PM   
KnightofMists


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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

I don't know...I wrote one quick note today...prolly spent five minutes on it, and when I hit send there were six new ones...they're like Gremlins or something...

Not that I don't appreciate the letters, but, sometimes there are just too many and not enough time. Really.


mmmmmmmm - looks at picture mmmmmmmm looks at my note. mmmmmmmmmmmm


um hey um xxblushesxx.... do I have deal for you! *w* *G*

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RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respon... - 1/4/2006 6:35:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

I don't know...I wrote one quick note today...prolly spent five minutes on it, and when I hit send there were six new ones...they're like Gremlins or something...

Not that I don't appreciate the letters, but, sometimes there are just too many and not enough time. Really.


It is a well know "geek" fact that the men who invented the internet and chat/meeting sites put in place a hidden malware trojan which multiplies and and then rebounds any messages that women send to guys so if you respond to one, you might get five back. Now if any womne wish to argue that men did NOT invent the internet, then who are you going to blame for all those wonderful messages?


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RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respon... - 1/4/2006 7:51:52 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

mmmmmmmmmmmmmm well ok so she's a lady in the parlour... but happens when you get her in the bedroom..... should she accept those indecent proposals??

Indecent fellows want to know!!!!

Speaking as someone who is both a slut and a lady whereever she is...people who offer indecent proposals upon initial contact never need to worry about what they can ask IN the bedroom because they never get that far (ok we all know that's not true, but it should be).

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RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respon... - 1/5/2006 5:03:59 AM   
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Speaking as someone who is both a slut and a lady whereever she is...people who offer indecent proposals upon initial contact never need to worry about what they can ask IN the bedroom because they never get that far (ok we all know that's not true, but it should be).


You crack me up girl.

I adore the indecent ones; it is the stupid ones that piss me off. But I ALWAYS reply. It is just plain rude not to. But if I say no and you persist; Master takes over from there. If I say ask Master and you don't; then there is REAL trouble.

A clear sign that a male "does not get it" in this lifestyle is one who will not ask about what my Master wants. The few who ask for Master's assistance in using me are rewarded beyond their wildest expectations. I am a slut; but I am HIS slut.

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RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respon... - 1/5/2006 6:41:30 AM   
LadyJC


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Status: offline 		Where are all these emails you ppl keep talking about? The only ones that email me are from like Holland asking me to dominate online...that's definitely a big no especially since I say I won't have anything to do with anyone who has more than a 2 hr. drive relationship wise. Friends I have lots of those that live far away, but the cam thing I never understood. Kind of like cyber sex...never got that one either.
I can be on here for an hr. and get one email chances are it's someone who lives too far away, or didn't even read my profile. The few that do usually aren't the right type. *rolls my eyes* it does get frustrating so yes I do have time to write a response saying No Thank You.
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RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respon... - 1/5/2006 6:55:10 AM   
passionfirenmo


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Status: offline 		AAkasha,,Right on sister!!!!
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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

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ORIGINAL: Petruchio

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I tend to ignore people who can't read a profile.


The problem is that it says more about you than the people who are (mistakenly) seeking to know you.

Courtesy and graciousness has always been paramount to me. I was surprised when a friend on here (sub-F) told me she also didn't respond to messages that didn't interest her.

I contended that it was better to politely decline, but she shrugged it off. Of course she's still looking.

I wouldn't have a problem, though, if up front her profile said something like, 'Sub– snooty and seldom responsive.' Then people would know what to expect.



It has been posted in many threads on this topic: The simple issue is that if a woman politely responds to *all* the emails she gets, people keep on emailing, even if the note said "Thanks but no thanks." If a woman has limited time online and wants to sit down and spend 15 - 20 minutes responding to the 1 or 2 emails that she chose, she can't respond to the others.

For every 5 minutes she is online, another 3 - 4 new messages pop up.
For every 10 emails she says politely, 6 write back "Why not? Can you at least tell me why?"
If she responds to those 6, 5 will write back again, and not drop it.
Then 5 more will write to insult her.
Meanwhile, 7 new messages pop up.

If she receives an email that clearly is not suited based on her clear profile, there's a good chance if she responds, all she is doing is opening up an invitation for correspondence. At SOME point she HAS to ignore him. He will keep on writing.

That's why women don't respond to every single email. Even the ones that respond favorably to her "thanks but no thanks" often still don't "close" the correspondence -- they ask "Do you have any advice for me? Do you know anyone who might be interested?" or "can I at least ask you a few questions? Can we be friends?"

It never ends.

Akasha


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RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respon... - 1/5/2006 7:46:40 AM   
HoosierScorpio


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Status: offline 		I always will respond to some when they e mail me. I think you are being polite not to me is a sign of some one being rude. Just remember how you react when some does the same thing to you that you do yourself. If you do not care then you will never find the right person. I have never been rude to any one until they show me disrespect as a person. I try to show every one respect no matter if they do not deserve it. Remember put your self in the other person shoes and see how you would feel. I do not like to give out all the information about myself in the response because need time to get to know the person. Why do you create a profile if not to find some one and if you do not respond to people then how do you know he may be the one you seek. Do not judge the person based on a short message they send you for they may not have the time to create a letter. You need to take the time to talk with them to see what kind of person they are also some use spell checks and some because of learning disabilities may have trouble with spelling. That does not mean they are stupid but writing is not their best skills but verbal’s communication is. I am not the best typist but I do make the effort to type any way. Remember this lifestyle is about protocol and show respect to a Dominate no matter if he is a jerk is good protocol. We should show respect to every one until they do something to loose that respect. Respect is given not something you need to earn. One more food for thought I have the kind or learning disability that I do not get all the information I read and some times I miss information when it is written. I also know some times you get in a hurry and miss what you read. This is my viewpoint and how I feel. Hoosiescorpio

< Message edited by HoosierScorpio -- 1/5/2006 7:50:43 AM >

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RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respon... - 1/5/2006 8:46:17 AM   
nelbot


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Status: offline 		I used to run into similar problems until I seemed to hit on phrasing that has been sucessful. I simply say that I am unable to accept their invitation to communicate, no explanation offered after that if they write back, which suprising they don't anymore, they are blocked- let them assume that I have some big scary Dom that won't let me talk to anyone if that is what works. I used to say simple no thank yous and got all sorts of follow up messages, as if exactly that they had opened the door and as long as they were getting a response- any response they were going to keep stringing it out as long as possible. Any more they rarely write back and usually it is a thank you for responding, good luck. Maybe there is something in the tone I have managed to convey, respectful, responsive but not available to them that seems to shut them down. When they start out their message with I loved your profile and then clearly make statements to demonstrate that what they liked about it was my picture and words were too complicated to read while typing their feverish response one handed (the other hand on their cocks) I simply don't give them fodder and don't respond after an initial polite no thank you, subsequent messages are ignored or blocked. I may be pretty unforgiving in that regard but I try to be polite but precisely don't have all day to get sucked into a conversation I don't want to be in just because I am too polite. I think I owe at least that first thank you for writing, not available response I don't owe them any politeness beyond that.

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RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respon... - 1/5/2006 9:12:50 AM   
amayos


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Status: offline 		A very good point, indeed.

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RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respon... - 1/5/2006 9:30:54 AM   
xxblushesxx


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quote:

ORIGINAL: KnightofMists


quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

I don't know...I wrote one quick note today...prolly spent five minutes on it, and when I hit send there were six new ones...they're like Gremlins or something...

Not that I don't appreciate the letters, but, sometimes there are just too many and not enough time. Really.


mmmmmmmm - looks at picture mmmmmmmm looks at my note. mmmmmmmmmmmm


um hey um xxblushesxx.... do I have deal for you! *w* *G*



Well....are ya gonna keep me waiting?!! LOL

And Nelbot...that sounds perfect! I may try that.

I am really trying to go through my emails and answer at least the ones that weren't one-liners or rude...It may take a v long time though...

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RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respon... - 1/5/2006 12:58:25 PM   
KnightofMists


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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

I am really trying to go through my emails and answer at least the ones that weren't one-liners or rude...It may take a v long time though...



Oh man ... you mean I have to write more than one line.... gggggggeeezzzzzzz this indecent proposal thingy is alot harder than I thought *w*

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RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respon... - 1/5/2006 1:33:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: HoosierScorpio
Remember this lifestyle is about protocol and show respect to a Dominate no matter if he is a jerk is good protocol.


LOL

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RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respon... - 1/5/2006 1:41:56 PM   
ownedjulia


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damn!



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RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respon... - 1/5/2006 2:55:22 PM   
Gomez


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ORIGINAL: HoosierScorpio

Respect is given not something you need to earn.

One more food for thought I have the kind or learning disability that I do not get all the information I read and some times I miss information when it is written. I also know some times you get in a hurry and miss what you read. This is my viewpoint and how I feel. Hoosiescorpio


Very well said and I totally agree with it. I have sent messages and emails to other people and some (not many) have replied with the "no thanks" but the majority never write/email back. Not nice but ah well, thats life!

< Message edited by Gomez -- 1/5/2006 3:00:03 PM >

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RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respon... - 1/5/2006 4:50:39 PM   
Petruchio


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I simply say that I am unable to accept their invitation to communicate, no explanation offered


nel, you seem to have found a fine formula, strinking a balance between graciousness and lack of politeness. Good work!

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RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respon... - 1/6/2006 12:46:20 AM   
ExistentialSteel


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ORIGINAL: AbstractSavant

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ORIGINAL: HoosierScorpio
Remember this lifestyle is about protocol and show respect to a Dominate no matter if he is a jerk is good protocol.


LOL


I give you the credit for finding the LOL, but I want to add one, too. LOL.


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RE: Finally a Conclusive End to the "Do you Respon... - 1/6/2006 2:23:04 AM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		Simple I know they're not the one because the emails I get are all usualy guys who are desperate and horny and troll every woman in a radious of 500 miles and is out of town or clearly what I said I did not want in my profile.


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how do you know he may be the one you seek. Do not judge the person based on a short message they send you

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