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Conversations - 1/7/2009 8:10:49 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		Yesterday i was talking with Master, and i realized we have not run out of things to talk about.  We will be together 3 years next month  ( Big smile).  I have noticed in some relationships  after the "honeymoon" stage they run out of things to say to each other.

Has this ever happend to someone  i mean run out of things to say. Long term relationship or not?

Matt's littleone
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RE: Conversations - 1/7/2009 8:14:40 AM   
T1981


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Status: offline 		Oh certaintly! That is what makes any long term relationship work, vanilla or otherwise, friends or romantic. 10 years later, that is why my husband and I are together - it's all about finding a person with whom you never run out of things to talk about.....

*is getting warm fuzzies*


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RE: Conversations - 1/7/2009 8:19:14 AM   
lusciouslips19


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Status: offline 		Yes. I was married to someone. We ran out of things to talk about. He didnt persue interesting things and what he did talk about bored me to tears. He also preferred to be left alone. Doesnt work out when an extreme introvert ends up with an extrovert.

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RE: Conversations - 1/7/2009 8:23:58 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		There are times when we're tired or listless and nothing really comes up.  But we still have things to talk about, just not much.

For us our pace is a few brief phone calls a day, a few brief emails during the day and then pretty much ongoing conversation when we both get home from work.  We love the DVR because both of us hate talking over a show but we often get inspired or remember things or want to make snarky comments.

Long term relationships for me are about growing into eachother and growing into who you become together.  This is why I don't understand a lot of people saying they need to keep pushing limits or keep finding new things to do- life finds new things on its own, you just have to be open.

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RE: Conversations - 1/7/2009 8:28:27 AM   
VampiresLair


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Status: offline 		Fox and I dont always have things to talk about, but we dont always need to be talking either. It isnt that we have run out, but sometimes for a day we have discussed what was on our minds and we are done. There is something nice about being able to be with someone and not HAVING to talk that I never had with my ex.

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RE: Conversations - 1/7/2009 8:30:27 AM   
oceanwynds


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Status: offline 		It happens at times, and we are alright with it. Sir and i both like quiet as well. We are not good at small talk. Life is ebb and flow, and sometimes it is just good being with each other and enjoying their essence without words

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RE: Conversations - 1/7/2009 8:32:11 AM   
GabrielleSlave


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Status: offline 		Hmmmm, i honestly think that Master and i have more to talk about now than when Wwe met.  Granted Wwe have only been together two years, but it's great!

*is getting warm fuzzies too!*

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RE: Conversations - 1/7/2009 8:37:37 AM   
BondageBarbieX


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Status: offline 		No,that has never happened to me,I am a born talker

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RE: Conversations - 1/7/2009 11:19:20 AM   
aravain


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We always had things to talk about, in my last relationship (2.75 years...) but sometimes it was nicer just to be in the same room, not talking, and doing different things (either in different mediums, or sometimes even both on (different) computers)! It's nice to know that they're there, for me.

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RE: Conversations - 1/7/2009 2:51:58 PM   
kallisto


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Long term relationships for me are about growing into eachother and growing into who you become together.  This is why I don't understand a lot of people saying they need to keep pushing limits or keep finding new things to do- life finds new things on its own, you just have to be open.


Agreed and very well said.   I'm a talker.  Probably way too much at times.    But even that quiet that you have with each other is never taken for granted and is very much wanted and appreciated. 

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RE: Conversations - 1/7/2009 9:28:07 PM   
proudsub


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Status: offline 		We've been together 40 yrs and haven't run out of things to say.  We go out to breakfast almost every morning so that we can talk without distractions.  He works at home so it also gets us out of the house.

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RE: Conversations - 1/7/2009 9:57:51 PM   
nafakcha


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Status: offline 		I have to agree with this. I think it is important to have the ability to talk, to not run out of things to talk about in the perpetual, long terms sense (as in you haven't had anything to say for the last two weeks to the other person) but sometimes the most memorable times for me are spent not talking and just enjoying being with one you love.

Keiko

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ORIGINAL: VampiresLair

Fox and I dont always have things to talk about, but we dont always need to be talking either. It isnt that we have run out, but sometimes for a day we have discussed what was on our minds and we are done. There is something nice about being able to be with someone and not HAVING to talk that I never had with my ex.

DV



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RE: Conversations - 1/7/2009 10:22:59 PM   
Aszhrae


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I love to read and find out interesting facts. Those that know say that I am 100% introvert. They would be wrong, those that really know me, I have a down time, which does not mean sitting in front of the television. It means going out for walks or just to meander about for a bit and then its go until I pass out. I am awake 18 hours a day and I am always doing something. I hit upon a subject, I just can not stop talking about it. Most of the time I will try to involve the other person, get them involved. I tend to be experimental, wanting to build something or create something, usually drawing up plans for something that I will later build. Now what a great world it would be to build furniture with a mistress and then have it used on me.
The interesting thing about a whip is that a real good whip takes two people to make. That long length of leather that is the lash is sometimes a weave or braid. Need someone to hold one end while the length is being braided while its either wet or oiled, then pulled, braided and then pulled again. Oh how lovely it would be to have someone take part in such a creation and then use it upon the sub that helped their dominant fabricate the leather whip. Can just feel its sting.

What shall we do today? Same thing we do every day? Get you to the point that you pass out from delight. *giggles*



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RE: Conversations - 1/7/2009 10:37:52 PM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		We always have stuff to talk about, but we're perfectly comfy in shared silence.

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RE: Conversations - 1/7/2009 10:47:29 PM   
MarksFantasyGirl


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Status: offline 		My ex and I ran out of things to say, and started finding things to SCREAM.  We fought all the time the last year we were together.  It got to the point, that I didn't want to talk, it always ended in a fight.  So we stopped talking.  Till we called it quits.

Sweets and I on the other hand.... We both get bored.  At the same time usually. However, it's never when we are together.  We get bored when we are talking on the phone or the computer.  That is when we argue over who loves who more, who misses who more, and who is sexier. Yes, it gets annoying. But I don't really mind. I love arguing with Him about things like that.  Those are the only fights we have (Now, we have been a couple for only 6 months, but have known each other forever). 

Now, when we are together, that is a whole differant story.  We don't get a chance to see each other much. So when we do get to see each other, we are so wrapped up in what we are doing, and how we don't want to let go, that we don't have much to talk about.  The last time I was with Him, it was after not seeing each other for over 2 weeks.  We just laid there on His bed, holding each other quietly.  I was listening to His heartbeat and His breathing.  It was the most wonderful thing I have felt in a LONG time!

Here is exactly how I feel when I am with Him.  One of the most beautiful songs ever.

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RE: Conversations - 1/8/2009 10:02:41 AM   
cantilena


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

Yesterday i was talking with Master, and i realized we have not run out of things to talk about.  We will be together 3 years next month  ( Big smile).  I have noticed in some relationships  after the "honeymoon" stage they run out of things to say to each other.

Has this ever happend to someone  i mean run out of things to say. Long term relationship or not?

Matt's littleone


Sure, it happens sometimes.  Months come and go that we talk our heads off, and then it slows down and we don't talk nearly as much.  Depends on life and what's going on.

We actively pursue very different interests in vanilla life as well, which tends to freshen topics at hand over time. It's fun to listen to what's happening with his goings-on, and also to tell him about progress with mine. We're absolutely not the joined-at-the-hip type couple, and that works well for us.

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RE: Conversations - 1/8/2009 10:49:39 AM   
susie


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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

We always have stuff to talk about, but we're perfectly comfy in shared silence.


I have never had that before. I thought a couple need to talk to each other all the time. Now I know the silences can be a very comfortable place to be.

We quite often go to visit family about a 2 hour drive away. Sometimes we talk all the way, sometimes we drive the whole way with hardly a word spoken. We are just comfortable with each other.

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RE: Conversations - 1/8/2009 12:03:44 PM   
KatyLied


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quote:

i mean run out of things to say. Long term relationship or not?


Nope.  But I enjoy talking to cool people, I'm lucky in that the people I tend to choose in relationships are often those who keep me entertained.  And we can always talk about pro football, work, and our families.


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RE: Conversations - 1/8/2009 12:23:03 PM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		nope - never had that problem.

there's always something new and different to talk about from bands i've met and snapped photos for to the normal mundane stuff that happens in our lives.

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RE: Conversations - 1/9/2009 6:03:35 AM   
slaveluci


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

We always have stuff to talk about, but we're perfectly comfy in shared silence.

Yeah, that sums it up for us as well.  We don't feel the need to talk constantly but always have good things to discuss.  We actually share a chuckle sometimes about couples we'll see who just seem to have nothing to say to each other because it reminds us of a line from one of our favorite songs by one of our favorite song writers: 

"How the hell can a person go to work in the morning,
come home in the evening and have nothing to say?"
~from "Angel From Montgomery" by John Prine

luci

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