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RE: Dominant/Master skills - 1/21/2009 8:25:47 AM   
JadedSin


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MASTER SHALL PAY ATTENTION TO THE DETAILS OF HER DESIRE: A Woman's Emotional and Physical pleasure points are chinks in her "armor" that allow her to receive erotic pleasure and fulfillment. Find and touch her personal, "pleasure points."

2. MASTER SHALL STIMULATE HER SENSES: Looking good is never bad. But women are less visual than Men, so it's vital that you speak to all her senses. Say arousing things, be clean, smell and taste pleasant and remember she is sensitive to touch. Explore the sensual paradise of her body.

3. MASTER SHALL COMPLIMENT HER MEANINGFULLY AND OFTEN: Compliment her body, and she'll be more likely to want to share it with you. Respect her mind, and she'll give you the key to unlock her desires...Just because you've told her you want her once, doesn't mean you shouldn't tell her again--and again.

4. MASTER SHALL ENCOURAGE HER TO SHOW AND TELL WHAT PLEASES HER: Reassure her that it's okay for her to tell you what turns her on. Tell her to masturbate for you and watch her carefully, not just for your own pleasure, but to see how she likes to be touched.

5. MASTER SHALL LISTEN TO HER THOUGHTS: Learn about who she is, what she's been through, in her life, what she needs and what she desires. Talk to her, but most of all, listen to her, and she'll never stop sharing herself with you. Discover the little girl inside your sub. Play with her, and she'll never grow old.

6. MASTER SHALL MAKE HER LAUGH: Amuse her, be a fool for love. Laughter is a mental orgasm. If her Master can make her laugh, her soul will be revealed and her mind/body will belong to Him.

7. MASTER SHALL GIVE HER REWARDS AND GIFTS: Every woman since the dawn of time has responded to a gift as if it were an erotic act. Reward her when she is "good" and surprise her at random times. The specific "gift" is not important, it could be emerald earrings, sexy lingerie, a flower plucked from a field, or your emotional support in a crisis. It is the "giving" that will win her heart and soul.

8. MASTER SHALL RADIATE CONFIDENCE AND SENSITIVITY: Master's confidence makes her feel secure. His strength excites her. His sensitivity makes him accessible, warm and lovable. Demonstrate and talk about your feelings.

9. MASTER SHALL UNDERSTAND AND ENJOY FOREPLAY: The key part of foreplay is "play." Be patient and sensual. Tease her mind and body. Learn to kiss, lick, and touch every part of her and allow sufficient time for her to enjoy her pleasure and reach that bliss that she seeks.

10. MASTER SHALL EXPLORE HER DREAMS AND ENCOURAGE HER: Listen and help her to explore and understand her dreams, hopes, and ambitions. Guide and encourage her efforts to achieve her goals. Talk about and explore her sexual fantasies and help her to realize them.

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RE: Dominant/Master skills - 2/9/2009 9:10:47 PM   
TruthSeekerLA


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Status: offline 		^^ I like JadedSin's approach... seems like a knowledgable guy

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RE: Dominant/Master skills - 2/10/2009 10:58:13 AM   
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Common sense, good observational skills, honesty, good organizational skills, and the capacity to delegate without becoming an ass (or a b*tch)

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RE: Dominant/Master skills - 2/10/2009 12:10:42 PM   
Lynnxz


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Status: offline 		Take the "A Master Shall" away, and it reads like dating tips from a GQ magazine.  "She'll like it if you bathe every once in a while."

No way, really?


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RE: Dominant/Master skills - 2/13/2009 11:57:39 AM   
bound4more


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Status: offline 		Thank you all for your thoughtful and thought-provoking responses. I tend to view personality characteristics as, yes, necessary, however only as strong as one wishes to develop them. I see this as the "skills" I mentioned. For example, I have natural musical ability. Left on its own I may or may not be able to play an instrument, likely not well. And there are those who can rely solely on their natural talents. I'm not one of them. For me to reap the benefits of these natural abilities, I've had to study, practice and open myself up to new ideas. So I am addressing those of you who identify with this concept regarding your Mastership.
 
Although I am submissive by nature, it's not all of who I am. Although I am a musician, composer and producer, they too are not all of who I am. So I tend to view the human being as a mini-universe containing a multitude of characteristics, traits, etc. I believe what separates humans from animals is our ability to choose which of those characteristics to focus on, develop and express. So as Masters, I'm sure, that although this may very well be a natural part of your nature, it seems in order to inspire your sub/slave to deeper surrender, you utilize particular behaviors, skills etc. that you've learned affect your charge in the ways you wish them to respond.
 
So I'm interested in experiences in this regard. Yes, I understand that dominant or submissive are part of who we are. Yet, I don't tend to think that this alone is enough to rely on in the development and deepening of a Master/slave relationship. Some of you have been extremely gracious and explicit. I extend my gratitude to you and hope that this subject has inspired thought for all.

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RE: Dominant/Master skills - 2/15/2009 5:17:43 AM   
NorthernGent


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quote:

ORIGINAL: bound4more

I hear about Dominant or Master skills. What are these? I'm not referring to how well one uses a flogger, but what are the skills you have learned/developed that arouse and inspire submission or surrender?


If you can remain calm no matter what someone throws at you, then that is a pretty good start.

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RE: Dominant/Master skills - 2/23/2009 3:30:41 AM   
SirDarkside357


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Status: offline 		What Iron Bear said.

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RE: Dominant/Master skills - 2/23/2009 7:44:32 AM   
SirJ40


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Status: offline 		Northern Gent has a great point.. I'd like to start by saying +1 to that. Self control is essential.. if you can't control yourself, you probably won't be good at controlling anyone else (oh THAT has never been said on these boards before)
Although it's likely to get Me egged by some.. I'd say some level of empathy is important.. it's tough for someone to talk with a ball gag in their mouth.. if the Whartenberg wheel is getting too intense, it's handy for the Sadist to be able to read the body language and think "Hm.. apparently that hurts a LOT, and it's not something this sub is enjoying".
What they DO with that is up to them, lol.

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RE: Dominant/Master skills - 3/10/2009 9:13:31 PM   
masterlink65


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Status: offline 		i think they are more of a trait than a skill. skill is something practiced and rehearsed. dominance and confidence, are like common sense, you have it or you dont. you can be taught skills can you be taught dominance?

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RE: Dominant/Master skills - 3/11/2009 2:42:26 PM   
MasterRaid


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