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RE: Marriage? - 1/10/2009 6:14:10 PM

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Thank you so much. That cheered me up. I thought I found someone fantastic last year, but it doesn't matter how fantastic he is if he won't show up. We'll have to see who turns up in my in-box. The in-person pickings in San Francisco are surprisingly lean, but I still have a shred or two of optimism left.

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RE: Marriage? - 1/10/2009 6:16:45 PM

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The gal who introduced us into the scene lives in Seattle - one of the greatest subs I'll ever meet!

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RE: Marriage? - 1/10/2009 9:16:05 PM

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One of the first things that I was open with Horse about was the fact that I am looking for a long-term committed relationship that will take the shape of a triad, with equality in many points and submission on others. Because I don't want to start talking about the future and have him say, "Uh, I'm just in this for a little fun beating on occasion."

I can't marry him, since I am already legally married. And he knows that, but he knows that love doesn't require marriage.

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RE: Marriage? - 1/13/2009 11:51:14 PM

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From what I have seen, most female dominants on this site are looking for marriage or a 24/7 guy.

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RE: Marriage? - 1/14/2009 12:05:38 AM

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Well, if you still have most of your own hair and teeth and are able to walk on your own and remember where you put the purse, keys, car and shopping list...you aren't there yet.

Marriage is a legal contract that may or may not become important in my life. It is not a goal or idealized situation for me.

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RE: Marriage? - 1/14/2009 7:12:33 AM

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From what I have seen, most female dominants on this site are looking for marriage or a 24/7 guy.

What most aren't looking for is to fool around with someone else's husband.

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RE: Marriage? - 1/14/2009 7:42:28 AM

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From what I have seen, most female dominants on this site are looking for marriage or a 24/7 guy

Oh honey, you leave yourself open to so many bad answers to that post.
*Nods in amazement at the lack of self awareness* M

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RE: Marriage? - 1/14/2009 7:32:45 PM

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Oh honey, you leave yourself open to so many bad answers to that post.
*Nods in amazement at the lack of self awareness* M

Dearest, I guess I am unaware. Why bad answers to things that are obviously true?

Thanks for calling me honey though!

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RE: Marriage? - 1/14/2009 10:32:10 PM

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Ladies:

How many of you entered into your relationship with the hopes that marriage would be Your end game?

How many of you say, (like Me), you may be My sub, but you won't ever be My hub?

I will never marry-- (A) My reasons are simple, I have far too many assets to be tied up in community property that need to go to said UM

(B) been there done that and won't go again

Submissives: How many of you enter into the relationship hoping for marriage as an end game?

When I divorced my husband I said never again. The marriage and the divorce were both nightmares. I didn't want to go through either ever again.

As time passed and I took responsibility for my part in the marriage, I realized that marriage wasn't an evil thing. My marriage was an evil thing, I created it, and I chose to stay in it as long as I did. I still didn't want to do it again, but I stopped sending my condolences with bridal shower gifts.

Now, I think, I might not be so adverse to marriage but I don't ever want to go through another divorce. I know that it would take an incredibly special man to be married to me until death do us part, and if I find him, I'll let you know what happens.

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RE: Marriage? - 1/14/2009 11:05:19 PM

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I'm attached to a wonderful Dominant man. We are not married. We are not looking to get married.

I am looking for a long term slave to own heart and soul. This will not be a romantic relationship but one of servitude, honour, and integrity. I expect my partner will also be involved with my slave on a level 'as of yet' to be determined. I expect my future slave will love me with all his being and I will love him in my own way. This affection will not translate into walks on the beach or hand holding - lol.

The beauty of this lifestyle is that it allows room for all variations.

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RE: Marriage? - 2/19/2010 11:36:01 PM

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Ihave to admit that I yearn to be claimed forever in marriage...and I wouldn't have any problem signing any pre-nup. Curtsey, Stacey

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RE: Marriage? - 2/20/2010 10:06:10 AM

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Being poly, Pagan, and definitively not interested in raising kids, marriage has never been high on my to-do list. Why bother supporting a monotheistic institution that is inherently bigoted and prejudiced against LGBT's and polyamory, and that buys into all kinds of assumptions about sex and relationships that are completely antithetical to my own personal views?

Collaring ceremonies, now those are meaningful. And special. :)

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RE: Marriage? - 2/20/2010 10:30:32 AM

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I have a goal of a deeply bonded emotional, sensual, romantic and kinky monogamous relationship (because that is what works best for me) with a submissive man.

How we are going to officialise that is going to be discussed between myself and he (when I find him) and only when we are ready to discuss this.

I tend to not put the cart before the horse.

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RE: Marriage? - 2/20/2010 11:16:45 AM

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Well I'm young (only 20) but I do hope to find someone to marry one day. With that said, I would marry my sub one day if I felt we were capable of having a long, successful relationship together. I would like to find someone I can build my life with and share different experiences with. Granted, that could all be accomplished without the help of a marriage contract I know, but I want the symbols of commitment and fidelity (ex. wedding rings) and to pronounce to the world that I am in a committed relationship with a wedding ceremony.

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RE: Marriage? - 2/20/2010 10:32:09 PM

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Marriage is an institution. I don't care to be institutionalized. Been there, done that, and the t-shirt wasn't worth the cotton it was printed on.

The reason divorce is so expensive... IT'S WORTH IT!

I guess you could say after 4 tries, I've proven beyond a shadow of a doubt that I am not any good at it. LOL!

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RE: Marriage? - 2/20/2010 10:53:14 PM

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I just find it a very sad thing to see how many people are opposed to marriage and that they have such a bad taste in their mouth's about it.

I had been married 3 previous times when I finally met my wife and we were married for 14 wonderful years before she passed away last March. I had never imagined I would find my one true soulmate but I eventually did. So marriage itself isn't bad, it's just the partners within them.

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RE: Marriage? - 2/20/2010 11:14:42 PM

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We intend to marry our boys, as much for the legal reasons (like being able to put them on our insurance) as any other - but it's also a way to show them how important they are to us. Holly and I have been married (as far as we are concerned, anyway) for the last 9.5 years. To show our boys that we are as committed to them as we are to each other, yes, we intend to marry them. That will also give them the safety of inheritance if anything should happen to us, with or without a will. With no replicants of our own in the picture, that doesn't matter. We trust them to do what we want them to with respect to our niece and nephew (and a future one on the way!!), or they wouldn't be with us.

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RE: Marriage? - 2/20/2010 11:33:25 PM

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From what I have seen, most female dominants on this site are looking for marriage or a 24/7 guy.

What most aren't looking for is to fool around with someone else's husband.

Looking for monogamous LTR, so 24/7 or marriage could happen, but has been said, aren't the goal.
Definitely not interested in one-night stands, in part since it takes time for the lovemaking to go from great to excellent to peerless, and I also require a vanilla relationship, not just someone else's vanilla fantasy.

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RE: Marriage? - 2/20/2010 11:35:51 PM

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We intend to marry our boys, as much for the legal reasons (like being able to put them on our insurance) as any other - but it's also a way to show them how important they are to us. Holly and I have been married (as far as we are concerned, anyway) for the last 9.5 years. To show our boys that we are as committed to them as we are to each other, yes, we intend to marry them. That will also give them the safety of inheritance if anything should happen to us, with or without a will. With no replicants of our own in the picture, that doesn't matter. We trust them to do what we want them to with respect to our niece and nephew (and a future one on the way!!), or they wouldn't be with us.

Just so you are aware, if you should die intestate (without a will), it is not a "given" that the spouse receives 100% of the deceased estate. In NJ, for instance, only 1/3 of the estate would go to the spouse, and the remainder goes to the "next of kin" which in that case, would revert back to the parents, then the siblings, etc. but NOT the spouse. I find it a bit weird, but that is the way the laws in NJ are written. So you might want to make sure that you have a will. Incidentally, while you can not legally disinherit a spouse, you can, if not legally married, dispose of your estate to whomever you choose and while many people claim that parents, siblings, etc. would contest the will, it is not an easy task and the likelihood of them winning (in cases where the people are not extremely wealthy) are pretty slim.

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RE: Marriage? - 2/20/2010 11:53:53 PM

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In IN, unless something has changed since my most recent relative died - the spouse becomes executor of the estate unless otherwise specified. So no will = estate goes to spouse.

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Even if it doesn't all go to the spouse, at least he wouldn't be left in the lurch with nothing. 2/3 is better than 0.

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