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MistressAlexaS -> RE: Anal sex issue (1/19/2006 10:11:55 AM)
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I used to be pure Domme and I was dating a guy who wanted to try Topping. After ALOT of negotiation I said ok Ill give it a try. The first 3 times it was fun and I enjoyed it though I had a hell of a time letting go. He became fixated on the topic of anal sex which we hadnt tried before. I said lets take it slow and try it when I was topping. Last time we played he was topping and had me tied up and tried to anally rape me without lube, condom anything. Luckily for me Im pretty strong, broke the restraints and got him off of me before he could damage me. He left with a broken nose and I fled the room leaving most of my toys/equipment behind.
I vowed Id never let another man Top or restraint me in any way. Well That was 10 years ago and I met my current BF who was a Dom, he's discovered he's a switch and that is something that was hard for him to admit, but he trusted me enough to open up and submit to me. That gave me the courage to try allowing a male to Top..he went slow, he talked to me the entire time, he didnt make any loud noises or abrupt movements and I knew what was going to happen the entire time because he would tell me before he did them. Gradually my fear ebbed away so that I now trust him completely.
It all depends on the person. how long you've known them and the type of relationship your in. For me love was the healer..
~Alexa
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