velvetears
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i made a poor decision to even allow my dad the idea he could have the bowl till he died. It caused me guilt each time i saw it displayed in his house thinking i betrayed my mom, she would have been livid "that" woman had her bowl. i thought it through while away but unfortunately my dad took it upon himself to take it while he had the opportunity, i suppose he felt he had my permission and blessing to keep it till his death, but what disturbs me more is what she is saying now - he never intended for it to be returned and felt it was his all along. He's dead so i will never know and that has caused me some emotional pain. Truth be told i don't particularly like this bowl. It is not my particular decorating style and would not really fit in with my decor. That doesn't mean i am not entitled to it. That doesn't mean it won't cause me grief and guilt knowing i allowed this woman access to something my mother treasured (she collected many antiques). The bowl itself is insignificant. When it is returned to me i will probably put it in a box to give away to perhaps one of my daughters or nieces as a wedding gift from their grandmother. i have calmed down since confronting her and thinking more rationally. i have a problem and it has to be dealt with - it really is that simple. i will take steps to resolve it and what happens happens. i will attempt the legal route, although going back into a courtroom will stir up bad memories of my 5 week trial, it makes my heart race just thinking about it. i just need patience - eventually, it will leave her residence one way or another.
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