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What do you see as the responsibility of you as a Dominant in general?
My responsibility is to make sure that the household that I am in runs moderately smoothly, and to make sure that those for whom I am responsible are taken care of to the best of my ability. I have a responsibility to myself to be forthright and honest, to be clear about the kind of person that I am, to be clear about my expectations, and to uphold those situations in which I've given my word.
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At what point do you feel that responsibility should start/end?
My responsibility to myself is an ongoing thing, and remains in effect when in interact with others, so things like honesty, integrity, etc., and to some extent, a measure of directness (some call it bluntness).
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As a Dominant, what responsibilites will you absolutely not take on? I won't take responsibility for someone else's integrity, I won't take on someone else's mistakes or old debts, and I won't take responsibility for promises that someone else made without addressing me. I also won't take responsibility for a person who hasn't agreed to accept my management, because I will not accept responsibility for what I have no control over.
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How far do you intend, believe your responsibility should extend?
That depends entirely on the situation, and what has been agreed upon in discussions.
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Now here's the kicker, has the fact that you have "dubbed" Yourself as such actually helped you be better at responsibilities than you once were?
I've always been a bit hyper-responsible, and very careful about what promises I make and where and how I give my word about something, so I don't think that entering into authority-exchange relationships has made any real difference to me in terms of my own responsibility level. What I -did- experience was the very uncomfortable situation, while I was in training, of having to -yield- to trusting in someone else's capacity for responsibility. I was fortunate, though, in that the people that I've chosen to associate with have proven to share similar thoughts on personal responsibility as I do.
With this said, I can also say that it is possible to both have a high measure of integrity and be an ethical person and still be a slob. I've discovered that my lack of housekeeping skills in no way prevents me from maintaining personal integrity... I just don't make promises about sweeping the floors or always putting my laundry in the hamper instead of on the floor. 
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