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miticantenslaved -> RE: I'm screwed (1/5/2006 9:43:31 PM)
quote: (laughing) You're too much, miti. bows and genuflects miti is told that, often. unfortunately, it is usually just prior to an ass-beating. sighs quote: singsong voice someone's in frenzy miti never thought of it LA, but i see now that Doms have frenzies as well. Thanks! ~miti

FTopinMichigan -> RE: I'm screwed (1/5/2006 9:45:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: abrown28 I had my first experience as a Dom just the other night. It's actually my first experience with anything relating to D/s. Now, unfortunately, I think I'm hooked. I can't stop thinking about it. I was already in a narrow enough market for women and this just narrows it even further. Yep...I'd say you're screwed. [:D] I too just read your profile, and with it explaining your main focus of wanting to "hurt" and "abuse" a woman, as a new "Dom" with one whole physical experience under his belt, narrows your possiblities. You might try to learn about what you seek to enjoy (or do). Abusing and hurting women is not the goal to enjoying a slave, or the D/s lifestyle. K

Aileen68 -> RE: I'm screwed (1/5/2006 11:31:18 PM)
I'd hate to see what you do to fuzzy little puppies. I find it just a bit disturbing that you emphasize "hurting" as your goal.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: I'm screwed (1/6/2006 6:21:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen68 I'd hate to see what you do to fuzzy little puppies. I find it just a bit disturbing that you emphasize "hurting" as your goal. I'm ok with that, that's what sadists DO. It's not always fluffy and endorphins and subspace. Some sadists just want to HURT the bottom- make them cry, make them bruise, KNOW that they are in ACTUAL pain. My issue is more that he's new and rushing and power tripping and not really understanding what his words are conveying.

Aileen68 -> RE: I'm screwed (1/6/2006 8:57:23 AM)
I agree with everything you've just said. My take was that his view of hurting might lead to a trip to the emergency room as a result of his gung ho attitude combined with a lack of experience.

MrBiguun51 -> RE: I'm screwed (1/6/2006 11:05:41 AM)
scratching my head wondering what was he thinking or better still what is he smoking

SirWizDom -> RE: I'm screwed (1/6/2006 11:10:13 AM)
Too scary for words .. next He will be asking for the use of Others slaves ! OMFG

HoosierScorpio -> RE: I'm screwed (1/6/2006 11:14:07 AM)
There is nothing more intoxicating than power and control over some one else when you play with them. You are not screwed because you have awaken with in just take your time for when you try to go too fast accidents happen and people get hurt. Remember SSS safe sane and consensual and keep reading for your education in this lifestyle is just beginning. Try attending as much events you can so you can learn from others and read as many books you can. There are events going all over the country and the world so try to go attend when you can. Go find a local munch groups in your local area so you can get to meet real people who are living the lifestyle. They are great resource for knowledge and understanding on things you need to learn and understand. Also do not forget aftercare and keeping in touch for the person will need the connection and helping with what they are going through after a scene. Always remember the emotional and physical well being is your number 0ne concern. Good books to read are Jay Wiseman SM 101 and erotic Bondage book. Good luck Hoosier Scorpio

wolffeathers -> RE: I'm screwed (1/6/2006 11:30:26 AM)
quote: From OPs profile My only pleasure is hurting you enough that you use your safe word. That should NOT be your goal. If you are hurting her to the point that she safe words, then you have taken the pleasure out of pain. Unless the sub you are with is like that, then it's fine. Just make sure you KNOW that the person your with understands you want to take her to that limit. It also sounds more like you want a painslut over a slave. As your profile itself only talks about pain. Not you wanting someone to serve you.

sweetpettjenny -> RE: I'm screwed (1/6/2006 12:38:35 PM)
Im not quite understanding how you might be screwed. You seeked it, tried it and liked it. To be honest if you feel you are screwed walk away...

LadyJulieAnn -> RE: I'm screwed (1/6/2006 3:44:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cloudboy --------- Hmmm, you've had your first experience and now you are already interested in: Begging Cages Collars Corsets Face Slapping Hair Pulling Mental Bondage Shibari Spanking Ass Play Blindfolds Bondage Obedience Training Chastity ------- Color me suspicious, or then again, maybe with a DOM, its all about one time ignition ------- and the line of interests just pops out like a full, ready made menu. I'm still leaning toward suspicious. I don't think that a person has to have already participated in something to have an interest in it. Be well, Julie

Sensualips -> RE: I'm screwed (1/6/2006 4:25:45 PM)
quote: My issue is more that he's new and rushing and power tripping and not really understanding what his words are conveying. Ditto. Just a little too gleeful and exuberant for my tastes. But hey, someone else may be revved up at the idea.

fyreredsub -> RE: I'm screwed (1/6/2006 5:00:59 PM)
oh i am soooooooooo glad you don't have to sing it to me anymore[:D]

DelRey -> RE: I'm screwed (1/6/2006 6:42:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: abrown28 On second thought maybe I'm not as screwed as I thought. No,,,,,,,, your screwed ! There is a huge difference between bringing pleasure via pain and just whaleing on some one. If there were a judge of the Doms and I were he, Your screwed !

cloudboy -> RE: I'm screwed (1/7/2006 2:23:52 PM)
I don't think that a person has to have already participated in something to have an interest in it. --------- I do believe in awakenings. I also believe in storytellers too.

AnnapolisSubFem -> RE: I'm screwed (1/11/2006 7:54:19 AM)
Ok now granted I am pretty much a novice.... But I was taught that a safeword was to be used if something really was NOT going right, if I was past endurance or in some kind of trouble... Why would a dom WANT a sub to use the safeword? Isn't it their responsibility (mine as well but let's face it - the paddle isn't in MY hand) to make sure they aren't harming me or pushing me too much?

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: I'm screwed (1/11/2006 8:01:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AnnapolisSubFem Ok now granted I am pretty much a novice.... But I was taught that a safeword was to be used if something really was NOT going right, if I was past endurance or in some kind of trouble... Why would a dom WANT a sub to use the safeword? Isn't it their responsibility (mine as well but let's face it - the paddle isn't in MY hand) to make sure they aren't harming me or pushing me too much? Some people use safewords as "It's getting too much for me to process" in addition to/instead of "Somethings wrong." Personally I feel using safewords in this way in the long run does more harm than good but some people enjoy the satisfaction of defeat and such. Forcing your sub to safeword? As far as your last question- it's everyones responsibility to ensure that everyone walks away fulfilled. If you accept a safeword, you accept responsibility for using it appropriately. If your partner wants to use it in a certain way, you need to know that before scening, so you can decide whether you can accept it in that way or not.

Fawne -> RE: I'm screwed (1/11/2006 8:31:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen68 I'd hate to see what you do to fuzzy little puppies. I find it just a bit disturbing that you emphasize "hurting" as your goal. I'm ok with that, that's what sadists DO. It's not always fluffy and endorphins and subspace. Some sadists just want to HURT the bottom- make them cry, make them bruise, KNOW that they are in ACTUAL pain. My issue is more that he's new and rushing and power tripping and not really understanding what his words are conveying. Thank you for explaining that so well. You are too kind. Today at least <g> I am in a rare, really bad mood[:@] this morning. I am usually so nice and even tempered la de da. OP: Yeah, you are correct. You are screwed. Stupid? dangerous? "Warden, escort needed. Theres an an open cell on block 7." Did you know that some submissives "can't" ( freeze up many poss explanations) safeword? Or that by the time they do... it is too late? It takes a lot of time, patience, growth, self disapline to arrive at ( Mastery?) such a high level of experience. "Just checking boxes... (because they look cool") Lovely. Can ya make it? I don't know. Some folks here seem optimistic. <shrug> [8\|] in doubt

amayos -> RE: I'm screwed (1/11/2006 9:05:50 AM)
Consider this a sanctification; not a curse. You are blessed.

AquaticSub -> RE: I'm screwed (3/25/2008 7:56:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: miticantenslaved dayummm....she let You beat her on the first date??? leafs thru my Subbie Handbook thinks she misread the directions on page 12 "Never, EVER place yourself in a position to have to use a safeword on the first date or outing" scarpers off, singing "I touch Myself" ~miti I never got that handbook. Glad I didn't.

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