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RE: Physical attraction vs. mutual attraction - 1/12/2009 9:06:47 PM

lecherous

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Looks are certainly important to me, but my idea of what "looks good" covers pretty much anyone who is comfortable in their body. Sure, I love redheads and tattoos and whatnot but it doesn't take long after meeting someone that I stop paying attention to things like that and focus entirely on personality. I can't speak for anyone else, of course, but that is my approach.

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RE: Physical attraction vs. mutual attraction - 1/12/2009 9:10:15 PM

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Ok, time to take of the anonymous mask for a second......

I am with someone, currently, that I do not find physically attractive.......
But I enjoy this individuals company in and out of the bedroom
I admit that physical appearances appeals to me in a sexual sense.....
but, I am not a gorgeous or handsome, so I have grown to see people as who they are, and find them attractive according to their personalities.

My sister was a model. The boys at school would brag about floggin it to her pics....
but she was and still is a bitch, so every time I look at her I see an ugly hag that churns my stomach.

Most of the men and women I have been with have never been what you would call sexually attractive,
but I was attracted to each of their personalities, which led to fulfilling relationships.....

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RE: Physical attraction vs. mutual attraction - 1/12/2009 9:46:32 PM

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Physical attraction isn't the most important thing for me, because I'm of the view that everyone is in some way beautiful and attractive - all it needs to be is appreciated. A photo just tells me what you look like.

I find physical imperfection attractive, the effects of life, of living, and a light in the eyes. If I see no life in the eyes I'll assume you're a zombie and move on.

How you come across and project yourself is far more important. Doesn't matter if you're the burglar's dog or the image of photoimage perfection, if you come across like a cretin or overly melodramatic you probably won't get far with me.

The bottom line is I look for a human being.. and human beings are far from perfect.

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RE: Physical attraction vs. mutual attraction - 1/12/2009 10:46:39 PM

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Interesting question.

I have various types of men I find attractive. I could not tell you looks wise anything specific other than not obese. It depends on the personality and a person can grow more attractive to me as we chat and what not.

That being said there has to be a base attraction from the start. If the person writes a brilliant letter and repulses me in the physical department there will never be anything more than friends there.

I want the whole package, dammit.

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RE: Physical attraction vs. mutual attraction - 1/12/2009 10:54:43 PM

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This seems to be a deep subject I will enjoy getting into. For me I hve my standards, and years ago when I was a very little and in good shape girl I was attracted to a particular men like bad boys (bikers) but they were brutal and mean even though they were good in bed and looked good. Now that I am older and wiser and alot more in touch with my submission, Ihave let down my guard a bit although personality is very important, and so is power and strength there Dominance. That is very attractive to me, the way they look at you with that sadist side. But with that said, eyes, teeth,smile, height and weight compared to height is very important and if there clean that is a real deal breaker for me, I don't care if we have talked for months online and on the phone and then when our first meet is set up if they are not clean it's over. And they have to have pretty nice teeth if they don't that's a sign of bad health. I guess I am still picky in a way. But this is a person I am deciding on whether or not to serve for however how long and I prefer it to be the right choice. I do have a thing for older Dominants more old school, pepper grey hair, or white hair mostly short, 6 ft and over, I do love mustaches but they need to be neat ok I have ocd here sorry... actually I think I have found the " One" but I don't want to jinx it yet. he's 6'5, white hair, 10 yrs older, height & weight appropriate. Very respectful, old school, retired military, Daddy/Dominant and he looks very clean in his picture. And we already read each others mind, our birthdays are 10 days apart, although I am more extreme than he is in our world but compromise is important especially on my part. He does have some physical limitations but I know we can work around those barriers. I believe he's a wonderful person and as I said only time will tell.

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RE: Physical attraction vs. mutual attraction - 1/13/2009 12:58:51 AM

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personality

personality is top of my list just because a apple looks good inside dont mean it dont have a few maggots !!
Physical attraction is so over rated since one looks good for one self not for someone esle..of course some use the Physical attraction as bait lol

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RE: Physical attraction vs. mutual attraction - 1/13/2009 1:49:09 AM

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Jaz says

I love people watching. There is something very magnetic about beautiful people and one just cant help but take a second look but thats not to say I am physically attracted to them. I am attracted to something that is pleasing to look at, just as I would be attracted to a good painting.

Personality is obviously important but to know someones personality I must get to know them first and during that time there looks may start to grow on me.

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RE: Physical attraction vs. mutual attraction - 1/13/2009 7:24:42 AM

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i am with stevie..personality flips my switch all the time.

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RE: Physical attraction vs. mutual attraction - 1/13/2009 7:38:41 AM

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I try to get to know someone first to see if any connection.
I have been with skinny men and while they are fun there is
nothing like a bald head, dark skin and nice 'teddy bear' quality
to them. That being said the person that holds my hear is light skin, full set of hair on his head and not someone I would have talked with initially.
As most things, I don't think there is a right or wrong answer to your question about whether or not you have to be physically attracted to someone before you think of playing with them. I have played with others where I did not feel a particular physical attraction but that is just me.

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RE: Physical attraction vs. mutual attraction - 1/13/2009 11:09:32 AM

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It's not either/or for me.

There has to be a good balance of both.

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RE: Physical attraction vs. mutual attraction - 1/13/2009 12:38:56 PM

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i think, honestly, i have gotten picky and raised my standards after the relationships i have been in.

i demand honor, and honesty, and decency. intelligence is also a must because sooner or later no matter HOW easy the person is on the eyes, you have to speak to them. and gods help us if all they can answer back is grunts.

a sense of humor is also a necessity if i'm to survive the relationship. (why me? cause sooner or later i'm unleashing my idea of funny...which lately ganders me a threat to be sent to the pun-atentiary!)

i'm over-the-top happy with TheEngineer. he's a tubby sasquatch. he ISNT gorgeous to look at but DAMN can he hold up his end of a conversation! and most attractive of all, he thinks i'm all that, a bag of chips, AND whipped cream on top.

just because someone looks nice doesnt mean they're going to be a good relationship fit. good lookin can mean self centered sometimes, too.

me, i'm happy to be with someone who wants me for *me*. even if TheEngineer, when asked, says my job title is "arm ornament".