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RE: Your last relationship? - 1/13/2009 8:54:50 PM

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Yes, I would go on living and learning and experiencing and loving.

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RE: Your last relationship? - 1/13/2009 9:21:08 PM

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I'm most likely be able to move on I have in the past. But one never knows where life will take them. As others have mentioned it might be just a few days or it might take a few years for me to be able to jump into another relationship again.

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RE: Your last relationship? - 1/13/2009 9:45:04 PM

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ORIGINAL: darchChylde

This is for those who see themselves as being in a strong, healthy, fulfilling and long-term D/s relationship...

Nothing is forever; if/when for whatever reason your current relationship ends, do you see yourself as being able to move on and try again with D/s in the future?

I'm doing it now - not in an LTR at this point, not necessarily looking for one, but always open to possibilities. It's been 6 months since the last one ended. At that time I thought I was finished with D/s. But I'm determined to heal and keep moving my life forward. Now I have a better idea of what I want and what I don't. My discoveries have surprised me.

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RE: Your last relationship? - 1/13/2009 10:15:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

I'm gonna echo LA.

I thought I was done with relationships entirely...

but I'm about to get married. :)

*smooches Darch*

Congrats!! I wish you all the best!

I think I will choose to be alone for a long time, to really get to know myself. If anyone wants me when I'm done, well, we'll see about it then.

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RE: Your last relationship? - 1/14/2009 6:52:00 AM

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Well I am dealing with this now unfortunately. I never thought of our former relationship ending and never expected it to end as it did. At first I didn't see beyond the grief and anger I felt but as days go by I see that I am a strong person and have to move on. I am who I am and cannot ignore that. I am still sad over the end but I cannot live in the past and cannot be with the former because of what happened. Life happens and I cannot stop that.

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RE: Your last relationship? - 1/14/2009 6:56:38 AM

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Well I am dealing with this now unfortunately. I never thought of our former relationship ending and never expected it to end as it did. At first I didn't see beyond the grief and anger I felt but as days go by I see that I am a strong person and have to move on. I am who I am and cannot ignore that. I am still sad over the end but I cannot live in the past and cannot be with the former because of what happened. Life happens and I cannot stop that.

Believe me when I say time is your friend, in that it lessens the pain and allows you to see clearly. Time has allowed me to understand who I am, and that I can not deny who that is. While the end of my relationship did have me grief-stricken, I know that if I were to deny myself loving someone again, and submitting to someone, I would be denying a very innate part of my being. The pea-soup fog really does lift. Seek joy, and you will find it again. My warmest thoughts to you.

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RE: Your last relationship? - 1/15/2009 11:38:28 PM

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Well I have been married twice ... for nearly 16 years and then nearly 12 years ... both ended because we wanted to travel different paths and directions. I am good friends with #1 and can be civil with #2 ... so I have a good track record on ending relationships nicely! And yes, I moved on. Now i have been 24/7 with Master for over 4 years and talk often of Us growing old together (i've got the head start on that though!). i don't want that to end but accept that it could. While I am fine with My own company, I prefer to share My life with at least 1 other, 2 would be ideal. So yes, I would pick Myself up, dust Myself off ... and start all over again!

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RE: Your last relationship? - 1/16/2009 12:39:13 AM

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Wotcha stranger

I have what is termed COPD, my lifespan is going to be a shortened one by comparison to other family members who have all lived into their late 80s and 90s. With that out of the way, I would want my boy to grieve and move on, find a loving lady with whom he can share a fulfilling D/s relationship. I want him to be happy above anything else.

Should our relationship end prematurely and it's unlikely that it will, I would seek companionship but not a romantic relationship as that to me by far is more important.

It would be nice to know how you would answer the question you raise.

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RE: Your last relationship? - 1/16/2009 4:35:45 AM

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i don't think happiness can be measured when you get a relationship right.In any walk of life,the axiom holds true,it takes two to tango so to speak.

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RE: Your last relationship? - 1/16/2009 4:44:00 AM

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Yes, after a time of grieving, healing and self reflection then I would move on. I would never get involved on the rebound, I found out a long time ago what a mistake that is.

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RE: Your last relationship? - 1/16/2009 8:53:31 AM

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... This relationship is so different and so fulfilling that I don't know what would happen if it ended. I feel as if he's ruined me for anyone else. It very well may turn out to be my last...

Emotionally, this sentiment strongly resonates with me.

Of course, I would move on... though intellectually, I realize that while I am very capable of being alone and happy, it isn't my preference. I suppose how it "ended" would make a difference, but truthfully I don't know if I would look for another relationship or not.

I can say that I doubt I would seek D/s. While patriarchy is an important relationship aspect to me, I live just fine without the BDSM elements.

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RE: Your last relationship? - 1/18/2009 6:21:25 AM

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ORIGINAL: OmegaG

there are alot of variables to consider.

If the relationship ended sooner rather then later, I would say that I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life alone. But there is a period of readjustment when a relationship ends and that period is in direct corrolation with how long the relationship lasts. I would think that especially in a M/s relationship I would have to "detox" and find myself as an individual before I should even consider another relationship. The longer I am in this relationship, the longer that period would be.

But I'm getting too old for the dating/meeting/new relationship shit, this better last forever.

Well said, OmegaG. I also think it's very important to have had a period of time where you live/lived alone, and become comfortable with your own company. I did this and found that should I ever end up alone for whatever reason, I do enjoy my own company. Problem is I tend to talk to myself when alone!!!!

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RE: Your last relationship? - 1/18/2009 6:50:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: darchChylde

This is for those who see themselves as being in a strong, healthy, fulfilling and long-term D/s relationship...

Nothing is forever; if/when for whatever reason your current relationship ends, do you see yourself as being able to move on and try again with D/s in the future?

The thing I don't like about this topic is that it presupposes failure and looks at relationships as akin to being on an inevitable rollercoaster of ups and downs

But to answer your question, no.

Forever is a relative word. I don't have to make it to the end of time, just to the end of my time and hopefully have left a strong woman with good memories.

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RE: Your last relationship? - 1/18/2009 7:48:03 AM

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yes, because the end of a relationship is not the end of my life.

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