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BondageBarbieX -> RE: How does a girl become a Mistress? (1/16/2009 2:50:57 PM)

You can not make her be anything she does not want to be.I get asked to Domme all the time and I have no desire in my being to ever top.



slave48forU -> RE: How does a girl become a Mistress? (1/16/2009 7:15:37 PM)

Thank You so much for Your advices.
I met ladies before who were not turned on by D/s relationships or BDSM and l realize it's no point in trying to make somebody become a Domme if she doesn't really want to. The most important thing for me is of course to make gf happy.
But my gf is really excited about being a Domme. She just never heard or learned about these things before and she comes from a country where - according to herself - women are used to obey their husbands.
So l want to find a way to introduce her to Femdom and BDSM in a way that doesn't just make her think these things are weird, because they are too different/opposite from what she has learned since she was a little girl.
Thanks again for all Your advices.



mischievousone -> RE: How does a girl become a Mistress? (1/16/2009 7:17:17 PM)

Give her all the tools that you can find to help her learn.  This website helped me figure some things out.  http://elisesutton.homestead.com/main.html  Just make sure that she (and yourself) is aware that every relationship has different dynamics and no single interpretation fits everyone.

My one concern is, Love...... three weeks???



slavekal -> RE: How does a girl become a Mistress? (1/17/2009 5:12:52 AM)

You can't MAKE a woman a domina, but if you play it right, you can uncover the domme within if she exists.  But you have to do it slowly and carefully.



thetammyjo -> RE: How does a girl become a Mistress? (1/17/2009 5:38:27 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Sexycelticlady

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

Buy and give her this book:

http://www.amazon.com/Sexually-Dominant-Woman-Workbook-Beginners/dp/1890159115/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1232120717&sr=8-1

then let her read it at her own pace and let her try things at her own pace.


Thank you for posting this recommendation Thetammyjo, I have ordered it for myself.


No problem. I consider it one of my duties as a book reviewer to share any information I have about books that might be useful to folks. Otherwise why did I read all these books and write all these reviews and continue to do. LOL

If anyone at any time wants info about a book, I can't promise I've read every one but I've read a lot and I'm happy to look through my library for something to help on a subject.



DesFIP -> RE: How does a girl become a Mistress? (1/17/2009 5:41:45 AM)

She might get some ideas from Akasha's website. http://www.akashaweb.com/indexnew.html



eponastar -> RE: How does a girl become a Mistress? (1/17/2009 9:12:27 AM)

When I first started in the lifestyle I found it helpful to attend events and meet other people. Just by being around them and observing their interactions with their submissives I learned quite a bit about etiquette and behavior. Now while I was fortunate enough to befriend and be taken under the wing of a very good Master, I still did outside research.

There are a few books she can read. Miss Abernathy's omnibus is an excellent book on slave training. That would give her a good place to start.



IamShe -> RE: How does a girl become a Mistress? (1/17/2009 2:37:49 PM)

I had the good fortune to be formally taught that masochists crave pain, humiliation, service, in various forms.  I had to be taught that providing a man with the pain he craved was an act of love.

There are a plethora of books on the market today on how to go about introducing a novice female partner to the world of FemDom.

I suggest you try searching a few tomes, and seek the advice of some experienced Dommes who can help you develop your partner's Dominant side.

My best advise would be to be careful what you wish for.

She will very likely develop a taste for inflicting far more than you can bear.

You have to be willing to take that risk.

I am She



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