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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 6:14:11 AM

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I find this thread bothersome.

You must be short....

All things are relative. You are free to decide whether I am or not. If that means my words carry a different meaning then I suggest a thought experiment in the following potential spinoff thread:

"Does Race Matter?"

I find this thread bothersome because a great many people are summarily rejecting potential mates simply on the basis of a physical trait which cannot be changed.

There are many traits which are used to determine a person's suitability. Most of them can be changed. A person can change their weight, or their degree of education. They can change their economic status (sometimes). They can change their philosophies. They can change their vocabulary and communicative abilities. They can change their athletic ability.

People can even change their prejudices.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 6:15:22 AM

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I find this thread bothersome.

You must be short....

I think I love you Aileen

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 6:25:45 AM

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ORIGINAL: JDEmpath

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ORIGINAL: JDEmpath

I find this thread bothersome.

You must be short....

All things are relative. You are free to decide whether I am or not. If that means my words carry a different meaning then I suggest a thought experiment in the following potential spinoff thread:

"Does Race Matter?"

I find this thread bothersome because a great many people are summarily rejecting potential mates simply on the basis of a physical trait which cannot be changed.

There are many traits which are used to determine a person's suitability. Most of them can be changed. A person can change their weight, or their degree of education. They can change their economic status (sometimes). They can change their philosophies. They can change their vocabulary and communicative abilities. They can change their athletic ability.

People can even change their prejudices.

I haven't even looked at your profile. I don't need to.Your responses here would make me bet that you're under 5'9". Having a preference for something physical isn't prejudice. It's just how some people's brains are wired. I am turned on by tall men. I am turned off by shorter men. You may be a nice guy, but I ain't gonna consider you as a potential partner. I have certain filters. I start with physical because that's what is apparent firstly. Then I work on the personality and chemistry aspects.
For the record....I'm 5'0" and he's 6'3".

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 6:34:52 AM

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I find this thread bothersome.

You must be short....

I think I love you Aileen

Lovely new picture.....

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 6:43:13 AM

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Yes I have height preference but what matters to me is the man's character/personality and intellegence. A man that is under 5'5" probably wouldn't be a good match for me.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 7:18:58 AM

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Since every woman I've had some form of relationship with since I left school had been close to 5'2"to 5'4", and I'm 6'4", I immagine it does. Whilst a school I remember one girl I used to date was 5'10", add to that her behive hairdo and genuine 6" stiletto heels, was a tad daunting for a late teen dancing with her. I learned early on that it is handy if I can place a large paw on the top of a girl's head and hold her at arms length, it is jolly hard for her to hit me..........

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 7:36:04 AM

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I'm with you on this.....there are so many other things that attract me to a Man other than his height...but on the other hand height does matter to me to some degree... i'm 5'10 barfooted...put me in heels and i'm an Amazon. It takes a special Man to not let that bother him....or to keep me feeling like i'm submitting and not taking....it's all in the headspace.....

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Yes I have height preference but what matters to me is the man's character/personality and intellegence. A man that is under 5'5" probably wouldn't be a good match for me.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 7:44:13 AM

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Height does matter for me, yes. i have loved men just barely taller than i, but stayed in flats the entire time.. and adored men far taller than my 5'4" and felt much more comfortable wearing comfortable heels. i cannot 'date' or submit to a man shorter than i am.

Buttttt there is an interesting twist...i read once where a Dom enjoyed having His sub wear heals that made her taller than He was... for when she kneeled it made her submission all the more marked. Thinking about this i realized that to be made to wear heels and be temporarily taller than my Dominant as an act of submission might be taken as a form of predicament bondage.

i think of heels as bondage already, heehee, but this would put me in an awkward mode.. not sure how to finish this thought, but there might be something to it if i could put it into words.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 7:58:27 AM

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At 6'4", there aren't too many women taller than me, but I've always gotten shit about my weight - I shot up to this height in the sixth grade, and 165 lbs doesn't look like much spread out over that much area, although I was always naturally strong.

Even now, I look thin in clothes, although my weight has settled right around 185, 190, more meso than ecto, and currently trying to bulk up to up to around 210.

It's been a problem from time to time, particularly as I love those big, broad, breeder hips on women, and they seem to go for the more bulky meso types.

Heightwise, as somebody mentioned, big differences are largely only a problem when dancing, but it's never been that big a problem.

I'm not really that picky, and seem to grow less so as time goes on. I do like curves from a purely visual perspective, so my ideal range is from ecto/meso with broad hips to the thicker, curvy mesos, up to the really large, plump, curvey endos - the classic lyre shape, but in the end, even though you might choose them for the body, it's the person you have to live with, so attitude and enthusiasm trumps physical appearance for me, I've been the ugly duckling myself and I know what it's like.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 8:01:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: JDEmpath

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ORIGINAL: JDEmpath

I find this thread bothersome.

You must be short....

All things are relative. You are free to decide whether I am or not. If that means my words carry a different meaning then I suggest a thought experiment in the following potential spinoff thread:

"Does Race Matter?"

I find this thread bothersome because a great many people are summarily rejecting potential mates simply on the basis of a physical trait which cannot be changed.

There are many traits which are used to determine a person's suitability. Most of them can be changed. A person can change their weight, or their degree of education. They can change their economic status (sometimes). They can change their philosophies. They can change their vocabulary and communicative abilities. They can change their athletic ability.

People can even change their prejudices.

i'm new to this board so am not sure that there have not been threads regarding race and certain folks' attraction to certain races. As for things we cannot change--i am not young enough for some Dominants and too 'young' for some Others. So Age makes a difference.==one that cannot really be changed. There are some aspects of physical attraction that can be transcended by some and not by others as can be seen from several of the responses here. Cool!

It is interesting that there are so many of us subs who have a pretty strict rubric heightwise--perhaps this shows how we are not as alternative as we thought? Is it sexism? OR that it is simply easier to imagine being Dominated by someone taller? That someone shorter is more difficult to submit to?

i was going to go on about lookism, but perhaps that is another post?

guess i will leave it at this:

my weight is not soon gonna go down much, my age will continue to rise, my race cannot be changed, and neither can my submissive orientation... When being looked at as a potential partner----these are simply things that Some will use to discount me, Some will find THE attraction, and others will just see as part of who i am. i just hope that eventually the me part will be discovered and win out.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 8:05:56 AM

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Nearly all guys are taller than me (I'm 5'1") so it's never been an issue.
I've noticed that I'm normally attracted to guys slightly under 6 feet, though.

< Message edited by parakeet89 -- 1/17/2009 8:07:41 AM >

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 8:27:56 AM

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At 6'4", there aren't too many women taller than me, but I've always gotten shit about my weight - I shot up to this height in the sixth grade, and 165 lbs doesn't look like much spread out over that much area, although I was always naturally strong.

Even now, I look thin in clothes, although my weight has settled right around 185, 190, more meso than ecto, and currently trying to bulk up to up to around 210.

It's been a problem from time to time, particularly as I love those big, broad, breeder hips on women, and they seem to go for the more bulky meso types.

Heightwise, as somebody mentioned, big differences are largely only a problem when dancing, but it's never been that big a problem.

I've always been bulked out from weight training as part of my fitness earlier in life and so I've stayed at about 6'4"(193.04cm) and weight about 297.62lbs (145kg). However in the final analysis, it is personality and shared interests which are the deciding factor.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 8:38:29 AM

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ORIGINAL: JDEmpath

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ORIGINAL: JDEmpath

I find this thread bothersome.

You must be short....

All things are relative. You are free to decide whether I am or not. If that means my words carry a different meaning then I suggest a thought experiment in the following potential spinoff thread:

"Does Race Matter?"

I find this thread bothersome because a great many people are summarily rejecting potential mates simply on the basis of a physical trait which cannot be changed.

There are many traits which are used to determine a person's suitability. Most of them can be changed. A person can change their weight, or their degree of education. They can change their economic status (sometimes). They can change their philosophies. They can change their vocabulary and communicative abilities. They can change their athletic ability.

People can even change their prejudices.

True that one cannot change their height, and they also cannot change their personality.

So...does this mean also i should have no preferences regarding a personality that i find incompatible because, from your point of view, it is a trait that cannot be changed?

We all have our likes and dislikes and i see nothing wrong with it.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 9:13:13 AM

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People can and do change their personalities. Your personality is in a constant state of flux. This is the key fact in cognitive behavioral therapy.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 9:26:27 AM

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People can and do change their personalities. Your personality is in a constant state of flux. This is the key fact in cognitive behavioral therapy.

I disagree with you here. Cog Beh Therapy is not about changing a persons personality, it is about providing strategies and coping mechanisms to assist them in situations that would usually cause them fear, worry, anxiety, anger etc. It is about recognising unhealthy behaviours and actions and taking small steps to facilitate change. It actually has very little to do with personality

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 9:33:09 AM

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I've always been bulked out from weight training as part of my fitness earlier in life and so I've stayed at about 6'4"(193.04cm) and weight about 297.62lbs (145kg). However in the final analysis, it is personality and shared interests which are the deciding factor.

You are quite right, IronBear, and I would never reject a potential partner because he was shorter than I am. But a man of your physical proportions is always going to turn my head!

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 9:47:50 AM

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People can and do change their personalities. Your personality is in a constant state of flux. This is the key fact in cognitive behavioral therapy.

I disagree with you here. Cog Beh Therapy is not about changing a persons personality, it is about providing strategies and coping mechanisms to assist them in situations that would usually cause them fear, worry, anxiety, anger etc. It is about recognising unhealthy behaviours and actions and taking small steps to facilitate change. It actually has very little to do with personality

show me how those are not part of the personality.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 9:53:42 AM

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Changing the way you approach certain situations doesn't change the person you are.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 10:00:41 AM

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Yes, me too. I have a weakness for the features of Asian males, something so sexy about their dark skin and ethnic looks in contrast with my fair skin and red hair. My ex was 5'8" (korean) and Master is 5'7" (chinese). What makes Master so hot to me, well besides his gorgeous face, silky black hair, and those mysterious eyes that I get lost in, sorry, where was I?

Oh, right...the fact that I am 5'8" and he is such a self confident sexual assertive man that he loves me in 4 inch heels and insists that I wear them. That to me is just hot as hell. Nothing less sexy than a shorter man that makes his girl wear flats out of his own insecurities. Revel in that long legged woman on your arm, the other men are just jealous anyway.

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I used to be attracted to tall men, then I fell in love with one of average height, and I married him (the lucky sod!). Height is an accessory, not a destination.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 10:36:40 AM

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We are attracted to what we're attracted to, if tall men do it for you, then don't waste short people's time if you're not attracted to them.

If you're not attracted to people, you're not attracted to them.

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ORIGINAL: JDEmpath

I find this thread bothersome because a great many people are summarily rejecting potential mates simply on the basis of a physical trait which cannot be changed.

There are many traits which are used to determine a person's suitability. Most of them can be changed. A person can change their weight, or their degree of education. They can change their economic status (sometimes). They can change their philosophies. They can change their vocabulary and communicative abilities. They can change their athletic ability.

People can even change their prejudices.

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