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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 10:37:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		JDE: we can not help who/what we r attracted to. its how every being is wired. they look for patners who survive.. and usually the bigger ones survive better then the smaller ones. im not saying this is always the truth but in most cases it is.

i havent looked at ur profile.. but from how you first reacted to this thread i would also guess you are onthe shorter side, either that or your compensating for something else. either way that turned me off to u right off. srry but when someone is so.. idk put off about something so trivial as what someones preference is... that just makes me want to ignore the person.

if your so put off/annoyed by this topic.. may i ask why you felt the need to come in and interupt our conversations/line of thought?

H >:)


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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 10:42:00 AM   
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I will talk to and offer friendship to just about any one as long as their not creepy or rude a bad person, or have done some horrible inexcusable act of violence against others like rape and other serious criminal activities. .


Unless there's some big trauma in my life, or I get amnesia, My personality will always be what it is. I will always be a friendly out going person, as far as I can tell,  baring something horrid that scarred me I do not see my personality changing.
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People can and do change their personalities. Your personality is in a constant state of flux. This is the key fact in cognitive behavioral therapy.


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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 11:07:39 AM   
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if your so put off/annoyed by this topic.. may i ask why you felt the need to come in and interupt our conversations/line of thought?

H >:)



you would censor me because of my divergent opinion?


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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 11:13:44 AM   
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You didn't mean this for me right?


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JDE: we can not help who/what we r attracted to. its how every being is wired. they look for patners who survive.. and usually the bigger ones survive better then the smaller ones. im not saying this is always the truth but in most cases it is.

i havent looked at ur profile.. but from how you first reacted to this thread i would also guess you are onthe shorter side, either that or your compensating for something else. either way that turned me off to u right off. srry but when someone is so.. idk put off about something so trivial as what someones preference is... that just makes me want to ignore the person.

if your so put off/annoyed by this topic.. may i ask why you felt the need to come in and interupt our conversations/line of thought?

H >:)



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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 11:16:36 AM   
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it's cool. I am not mad. I just felt that I should speak my mind on this.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 11:22:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		Rednicky, what kind of a submissive lady kicks mens assess anyway? My Master is one inch shorter than me and five times as strong and can toss me around like a ragdoll. I guess I prefer that he is brilliant and intimidates with his mental prowess and strength as well as being proficient in martial arts. There is a lot to be said for mental dominance, combined with the physical. Perhaps your master is not capable of both? He can of course learn in time.  



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yes I personally like taller men. How could a submissive woman not? I personally wouldn't want a Dom who's ass even I could kick. Though I would NEVER try to fight my Dom, it's nice to know that my Dom is so intimidating that I wouldn't want to try.


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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 11:25:02 AM   
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no she meant it for me Aynne :)

it's cool. I am not mad. I just felt that I should speak my mind on this.


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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 11:34:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		Taller than me is mandatory...but at 5 feet even, that's pretty much everyone.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 11:34:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		Maybe it's cause I'm not a submissive, But I love to rough house and wrestle, Well I did before my back injury, and I could get pretty damned aggressive with the guys. There were the occasional real injuries like a cut lip or a bruise, because we just went all out and fought and struggled and wrestled.

Some people love take down play in their relationships, And not every one holds to the same idea's and would have no problem with their submissive trying to kick their ass. It's part of the fun part of the game.

Daddy would love it if I'd go toe to toe with him and rough house and honestly try to win and beat him in the act. However since I have a back injury I can't rough house or wrestle or do take down play, since it'd agrivate my injury and have me so screwed up for weeks I couldn't move , get out of bed, or walk very well.



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Rednicky, what kind of a submissive lady kicks mens assess anyway? My Master is one inch shorter than me and five times as strong and can toss me around like a ragdoll. I guess I prefer that he is brilliant and intimidates with his mental prowess and strength as well as being proficient in martial arts. There is a lot to be said for mental dominance, combined with the physical. Perhaps your master is not capable of both? He can of course learn in time.  



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yes I personally like taller men. How could a submissive woman not? I personally wouldn't want a Dom who's ass even I could kick. Though I would NEVER try to fight my Dom, it's nice to know that my Dom is so intimidating that I wouldn't want to try.


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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 11:38:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm 6'1" and I've had many women tell me that they like taller men.
They say that they feel "safer" with bigger guys out in public.
But, you're going to be "safe" with a smaller guy of 5'8" if he's carrying.
I often wear a blue ballcap that says in gold lettering; "U.S. NAVY- VETERAN"
with an eagle and anchor sheild on it and even the bad looking guys will defer to me and nod.
I think it's a "primal" thing with women, they want someone who will protect them.


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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 11:44:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		YHMA, I totally get what you are saying. I found the comment that she said highlighted below to be offensive as well as judgemental and silly. What does that mean how could a submissive woman not want a taller Dom? I didn't realzie that we were all exactly the same. How could a submissive woman want a Republican Dom? Or an uneducated Dom? See what I mean? And yes I agree, wrestling can be way hot and fun, even though I always wind up pinned and immobolized. Hey, I'm not complaining! 


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Maybe it's cause I'm not a submissive, But I love to rough house and wrestle, Well I did before my back injury, and I could get pretty damned aggressive with the guys. There were the occasional real injuries like a cut lip or a bruise, because we just went all out and fought and struggled and wrestled.

Some people love take down play in their relationships, And not every one holds to the same idea's and would have no problem with their submissive trying to kick their ass. It's part of the fun part of the game.

Daddy would love it if I'd go toe to toe with him and rough house and honestly try to win and beat him in the act. However since I have a back injury I can't rough house or wrestle or do take down play, since it'd agrivate my injury and have me so screwed up for weeks I couldn't move , get out of bed, or walk very well.



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Rednicky, what kind of a submissive lady kicks mens assess anyway? My Master is one inch shorter than me and five times as strong and can toss me around like a ragdoll. I guess I prefer that he is brilliant and intimidates with his mental prowess and strength as well as being proficient in martial arts. There is a lot to be said for mental dominance, combined with the physical. Perhaps your master is not capable of both? He can of course learn in time.  



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ORIGINAL: rednicky

yes I personally like taller men. How could a submissive woman not? I personally wouldn't want a Dom who's ass even I could kick. Though I would NEVER try to fight my Dom, it's nice to know that my Dom is so intimidating that I wouldn't want to try.




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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 11:46:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		Oh, that part lol, I was mostly refering to subs kicking mens asses lol.

When I did wrestle, I'd fight and give it my all, but really it was sexy to be pinned, and breathless and panting and to tired to resist any further:)


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YHMA, I totally get what you are saying. I found the comment that she said highlighted below to be offensive as well as judgemental and silly. What does that mean how could a submissive woman not want a taller Dom? I didn't realzie that we were all exactly the same. How could a submissive woman want a Republican Dom? Or an uneducated Dom? See what I mean? And yes I agree, wrestilng can we way hot and fun, even though I always wind up pinned and immobolized. Hey, I'm not complaining! 


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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

Maybe it's cause I'm not a submissive, But I love to rough house and wrestle, Well I did before my back injury, and I could get pretty damned aggressive with the guys. There were the occasional real injuries like a cut lip or a bruise, because we just went all out and fought and struggled and wrestled.

Some people love take down play in their relationships, And not every one holds to the same idea's and would have no problem with their submissive trying to kick their ass. It's part of the fun part of the game.

Daddy would love it if I'd go toe to toe with him and rough house and honestly try to win and beat him in the act. However since I have a back injury I can't rough house or wrestle or do take down play, since it'd agrivate my injury and have me so screwed up for weeks I couldn't move , get out of bed, or walk very well.



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ORIGINAL: Aynne88

Rednicky, what kind of a submissive lady kicks mens assess anyway? My Master is one inch shorter than me and five times as strong and can toss me around like a ragdoll. I guess I prefer that he is brilliant and intimidates with his mental prowess and strength as well as being proficient in martial arts. There is a lot to be said for mental dominance, combined with the physical. Perhaps your master is not capable of both? He can of course learn in time.  



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ORIGINAL: rednicky

yes I personally like taller men. How could a submissive woman not? I personally wouldn't want a Dom who's ass even I could kick. Though I would NEVER try to fight my Dom, it's nice to know that my Dom is so intimidating that I wouldn't want to try.




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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 11:50:27 AM   
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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 11:50:44 AM   
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I find this thread bothersome.


You must be short....




All things are relative. You are free to decide whether I am or not. If that means my words carry a different meaning then I suggest a thought experiment in the following potential spinoff thread:


"Does Race Matter?"



I find this thread bothersome because a great many people are summarily rejecting potential mates simply on the basis of a physical trait which cannot be changed.

There are many traits which are used to determine a person's suitability. Most of them can be changed. A person can change their weight, or their degree of education. They can change their economic status (sometimes). They can change their philosophies. They can change their vocabulary and communicative abilities. They can change their athletic ability.

People can even change their prejudices.





I love your thought process. Of course we have preferences, but the way you expressed your views rocked.  Even after the snarky but typical "you must be short" ad hominem attack. Easiest retort when faced with an intelligent and well expressed opinion thatyou don't agree with, snark.   

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 12:04:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		I appreciate that Aynne!

I have often wondered what it would be like to be 6 feet tall. Since I think about a lot of things I ran it through my head. After consideration of all the factors I could imagine, I decided that I would rather be exactly as I am. Even though I am certain that my dating prospects would increase.




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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 12:19:30 PM   
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People can and do change their personalities. Your personality is in a constant state of flux. This is the key fact in cognitive behavioral therapy.
behavioral therapy is just that...behavior and the change thereof. The basic personality cannot be changed. Reactions, coping skills, behavior modification et al to related to ones personality are the only things changable


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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 12:19:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's not very "empathic" to be bothered when people are being open and honest about their preferences.  Unless you're willing to accept the lay of the land as it truly is, you're objectively living in a fantasy world.

I'm 5'8", and I've dated women who were taller than me from both Alt and CM.  I've dated women who were shorter than me who told me I was the shortest man they've ever dated.  People make exceptions if you've got something special that offsets a "negative" like average or below-average height.

Pretty much everyone you're looking to date (male or female) has grown up in a culture that bombards us all with superficial notions of what handsomeness and beauty is.  There's no point in telling people how shallow they are because they're affected by it.  Cuz, yanno what?  You're affected by it, too.  Recognize it's there, and grow beyond it.

Also, there are therapists and Ph.D.s' in psychology who post to these boards on a regular basis.  I'd be careful about throwing around terms like "cognitive behavioral therapy," because there are people on this thread who know the technical definition of such terms.


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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 12:22:37 PM   
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People can and do change their personalities. Your personality is in a constant state of flux. This is the key fact in cognitive behavioral therapy.


I disagree with you here.  Cog Beh Therapy is not about changing a persons personality, it is about providing strategies and coping mechanisms to assist them in situations that would usually cause them fear, worry, anxiety, anger etc. It is about recognising unhealthy behaviours and actions and taking small steps to facilitate change.  It actually has very little to do with personality 



show me how those are not part of the personality.

they are reactions


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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 12:28:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		JD your are welcome and sure they might increase, but at what cost? My Master is exactly your height and I am so glad that I did not let that be a detriment. I mean I am almost 6 feet in heels and sometimes I long to be 5'2" but He loves my long legs and my height. I doubt you are missing many quality dating prospects if they would reject you over height anyway. I looked at your profile, you are attractive, intelligent, well spoken and judging by your photos you have an artistic side. Like I said certainly people have preferences, but a preference is *not* the same as a hard limit over a few inches. But hey, that's just me. I just don't like seeing the stature of a man used as an insult.

My femininity and sense of sexuality and femaleness is quite strong, I guess I just don't need to have my man being taller than me to enhance my own sexiness.  

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I appreciate that Aynne!

I have often wondered what it would be like to be 6 feet tall. Since I think about a lot of things I ran it through my head. After consideration of all the factors I could imagine, I decided that I would rather be exactly as I am. Even though I am certain that my dating prospects would increase.






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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/17/2009 12:37:35 PM   
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I have usually gone for men that are "Short and stalky" (in my mother's words).  I have had two boyfriends in my life that were over 6 feet tall.  But that is it.  We didn't last.  My ex was about 5'10 or so. But Sweets is 5'2. He's an inch shroter than I am.  I have been used to being short, and I started wearing nothing but high heels.  It makes me feel a bit uncomfortable when I wear my heels and stand next to Him, but when He stands in front of me, and His face is right about chest level, I really don't mind, and neither does He. I love me a shorter, heavier guy.  That's just my "type"

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