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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/18/2009 8:57:30 AM

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ORIGINAL: rednicky Why does height matter period? Based on the emotions that flared, this thread became more about height. Are we all satisfied with the answer "It's more pleasant to have sex with something pretty" response?

I for one don't even find that true. It's not more pleasant and might be in fact very boring, speaking only from my experience of course.

Pretty is a relative term, subjective - there is also beauty in that which does not conform to current standards of beauty, to put it diplomatically, in fact to many Vanilla's WIIWD is itself ugly and repulsive, but I think one of the things one learns if one is to have any sort of meaningful relationships is that superficial beauty is... superficial.

In this sense, one may seek to make love to the body, through the mind, or seek to make love to the mind, through the body. Fortunately, BDSM provides a rich menu of techniques and approaches for both.

I'm not sure whether either approach is "superior" in any sense, they both have their merits, but personality wise, I tend to subscribe to the Jungian approach, i.e., Sensing, feeling, thinking, intuition (I believe I'm an INFJ), and ultimately, it's all about how you mesh and meet each others needs as a dyad: sensory types may be pickier about appearance for itself, thinking types may evaluate appearance in terms of physical fitness, etc.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/18/2009 9:07:03 AM

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After reading the original question, I didn't review too much of the responses being like anyone else I happen to have my own opinion.

Attraction may be what intrigues me about the person, what remains on the core outside,however I tend to look deeper than that. Of course tall guys are my preference, however that doesn't mean I won't serve a dominant shorter than my own preference. I just think that happens to be quite silly. Just the same, I know not all guys like a female my weight and I am good with that, I do have my own preference but from my opinion I think almost anyone would. Everyone has a different idea in what they desire in the ideal person yet that person might not always become real.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/18/2009 9:52:43 AM

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height is what attracts me to the guy at first.. maybe its a primal protective thing.. idk. but if hes a jack @ss or has no sense of humor or brain of his own.. then that is a no go.. no matter how tall or hot he is. it all matters in the end.. but ehight is what makes me pay attention to the other stuff.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/18/2009 11:39:53 AM

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I said the majority of women pixie. Not all. You're part of the .01% of women who ignore looks all together. And, at the same time, I 'did' say there was somebody out there for everyone. Even a slob of a man.

eh, he admitted it.

he wasnt a perfect person by any stretch, but i loved him. my brand new hubby (hasnt even been a month yet) also isnt perfect...

but then again, i'm not either, therefore why should i expect him to be?

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/18/2009 2:33:40 PM

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What woman doesn't want the tall dark and handsome Dom? LOL I think height can be a factor, since it's kindof ridiculous to be Dom'd by a member of the lollipop guild. at least to me it is. I'd say that I'd need a guy about my height. an inch, possibly two shorter isn't' a big deal but they would need to be a good Dom and also maybe someone I could hang out with. There are few short men I've ever seen that I've though. 'wow, I want that guy to tie me up and do horribly awesome things to me' btw I'm 5ft 5in tall so shorter than that, you get how short a guy would be.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/18/2009 3:11:26 PM

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Well unless you are thin and shapely as a female that is between 5'10" and 6' nothing, with most guys height does matter. I believe that height is suggestive of dominance which is why most guys are interested in women shorter than them selves.
As for women, it tends to be height that is equal to their own within a same gender relationship. Now this is but my own observation since I have yet to see same gender relationships where height was not within an inch of each other.
Most guys shorter than me feel intimidated by me because I am 6 foot, but then again it might be also that I could fireman's carry most men of equal height and weight to my own upon my shoulder. Again, someone might find fault with this observation but it is my observation.
Another factor that may be included in this is weight of an individual. Some may not think so, but it is also a deciding factor. Though I have met individuals of both genders that were large people and their hearts were gold.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/18/2009 5:24:54 PM

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*scratches head*

Why in the world would height matter?

Relationships are chemistry and compatibility, not a set of physical characteristics.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/18/2009 5:28:53 PM

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Because, just like someone has already said, looks are a small part of a complicated cocktail called chemistry. Looks don't make the drink but it's not the same without it (in 99.99% of the cases). Just because people care about looks doesn't mean that's ALL they're looking for.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/19/2009 7:38:44 PM

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Im only 5 feet (and barely that), but I am not attracted to men under 5'7" as Doms. There is 0 chance I would submit to a guy shorter than that longterm.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/19/2009 7:49:16 PM

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Yes, height does matter. I am 5'. For years, 6' was the shortest acceptable height for me. I have had 2 partners who were less than 6' and only one who was shorter than average (He said 5'8", though I think he was actually a bit shorter than that).
I should point out that the exceptions had a physical presence enough to 'make up for' the lesser height.
I realize that the stature thing is not only an aesthetic preference but one that I associate with protection and physical formadibility.
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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/19/2009 7:50:50 PM

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I prefer my men to be taller than me even if only by a few inches...i like to look up into someones eyes... *shrugs*

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/20/2009 1:41:08 AM

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My partner is 6 foot 6, and works well with my 5 foot 9 frame

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 1/20/2009 7:10:34 AM

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People can and do change their personalities. Your personality is in a constant state of flux. This is the key fact in cognitive behavioral therapy.

Error. That is not a fundamental aspect of cognitive behavioral theory; more accurate would be the statement that those of a cognitive leaning would be inclinedto say that your habits can be changed across time and through effort, understanding their genesis and those things that perpetuate them.
And, by the way, I agree with what others have said about height being a preference just like any other. I also found your initial assertion ("I find this thread bothersome" or the like) passive aggressive (as you didn't cite your issue until asked as an assertive person would have) and would urge you to alter that particular behvioral pattern after you begin to understand that you do such things in an attempt to gain control...perhaps because you are insecure about various personal attributes (Height among them).
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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 3/31/2009 8:32:38 AM

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I remember My 1st play date with a gal over 6' tall (I am 5'9) I told her it didnt matter now tall or short or even your age...this all starts in your mind,,,,,understand, I will look down on you even if you are 7'4 (I hope most of you understand the meaning here) And yes, we are still friends today

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 4/18/2009 2:24:46 PM

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If height matters so much (which it overwhelmingly seems to), why doesn't Collarme have a "maximum height" for the men-seeking-women searches?

The existing "minimum-height" search criterion mainly works for women seeking the men.

I wonder why there's not a "maximum height" corresponding button for the men seeking the women?

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 4/18/2009 4:06:31 PM

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I'm about 5'10 in heels... i dated a man who was 5'3 in shoes. :)

The only draw back, is i couldn't reach his hand to hold it. I just grabbed his arm instead. If you click with someone, such things shouldn't matter.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 6/28/2009 4:45:01 AM

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Just noticed that the "debate" goes on (see "Height" at http://www.collarchat.com/m_2648496/tm.htm).

After reading all 200 or so responses here, and the 100 or so there, the lesson is clear.

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 11/1/2009 2:55:13 PM

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As a woman with a clear height fetish I feel I have to say this.
I recently received a snarky message from a "Dom" basically saying "you having a height fetish was the same as men liking tits."
My response was "What kind of tits? Some people like big tits, some like small tits, some only like tits if they're attached to a Guyanese midget with nice feet."
In short, everyone has their pref. Hell. My sub is 6'3!
Although I am open minded, having a man greatly dwarf me is a huge incentive to submit for me and as a tall woman, I've not been able to feel submissive towards a man who doesn't tower over me even a little. Same goes for physical size, strength and the ability to physically trump me.
So yes, size does matter to some. Some Doms prefer tiny subs, some subs prefer larger Doms. Some don't care either way. On that note I WISH I was short so I wouldn't have to find 6'3 and up to get that swoony feeling of being smaller.

PS. If any shorter local Doms want to take a crack at Domming me to prove a point, I'm free Wednesday. ;)

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 11/1/2009 11:17:16 PM

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Sweetie, you only need to necro one old thread on this subject to get the discussion going

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RE: Does size matter? (physical height, not cock length) - 11/1/2009 11:37:24 PM

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As a woman with a clear height fetish I feel I have to say this.

Thanks for stating this. As a "medium" height person with a huge and long-lasting cock (not bragging, just stating what caused the question in the first place), it's tremendously interesting to me, intellectually, that women, in general, seem to give more value to the height of a man than to his cock length.

Sure, when they see it, they gasp, (the Asians in the crowd fascinate with multiple-fisted ad-hoc measurements, for example), the blacks nod approvingly whispering "not bad ... for a white guy", etc. ... but, the point is that by the time you're at the point of measurement, you've already passed a whole plethora of the ladies' filters, whereby your cock size wasn't one of the criteria - therefore it isn't all that important, by the time the sight of it poking well out of your pants takes her breath away.

Of course, after reading every one of the couple of hundred posts here, I would not be surprised to hear what you say above ... so I'll simply summarize to say what's imensly intriguing is that men are the opposite, in my opinion, in that they often prefer body-part size or shape (you name the body part) to physical height.

It's so different ... the selection criteria!

As the short helmeted guy said as he parted the bush ... "verrrrrrrly interestung"

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