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RE: Hey Homies - 1/16/2009 11:13:30 AM   
LaTigresse


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If you have too do the roomate thing, definately find like minded people.  Nothing worse then folks looking at you like you are crazy cause you are KINKY


Actually, I am rather used to people looking at me like I am crazy. It can be enjoyable as it helps keep the riffraff at bay! Not to mention, the locals are mildly fearful.


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RE: Hey Homies - 1/16/2009 11:17:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		Subtee, I think honest, compassionate and straight-up are all phenomenally more important than kinky.  If you have the first three, well, ok, then throw kinky or kink-friendly in, too.  But it's not as though into-BDSM means brother (or sister) in arms.  What's in their heart is more important than how their brain is wired to their genitals.

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RE: Hey Homies - 1/16/2009 11:58:03 AM   
Focus50


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ORIGINAL: subtee

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

This term comes up a fair bit in American shows....  Exactly what is a "homie"?


It's short for "homeboy." Since you watch American TV, it would be Eddie Haskell to Wally Cleaver for our generation. ~wink~

Ok, I have no idea who "Eddie Haskell to Wally Cleaver" is (lol) but when someone is being called a "homie" or "homeboy", it's not actually meant as a putdown or slur?  At least, not in a malicious or menacing sense?

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What if you were the one "in need?" For example, what if you lost your shirt (~cough~) in the markets?

I was once the one in need about 20 years back and stayed with my sister for about 6 months.  I hated it from about the 2nd week, but not because of any friction etc.  The control freak in me simply has to have my own place - end of story.

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It's all disadvantage to me....  Oz is generally a hot, dry place (was 42C here yesty) and I'm not big on wearing too much clothing (if any) in the home.  Having a relly staying over would really cramp my "freedom".....


Good lord, we gotta find an happy median. Yesterday it was -31C here. Although this has warmed me up quite a bit:

Ahh (score!!!), the stalker in me is seeing that as a firm committment!  Ehhhhxcellent...!  lol  Just that small matter of 12,000 miles to overcome, dammit.   ;-)
 
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RE: Hey Homies - 1/16/2009 1:02:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Wow Focus, you lose major pop culture points there.  Homeboy = someone you know from your hometown, have a kinship with

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RE: Hey Homies - 1/16/2009 2:14:28 PM   
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RE: Hey Homies - 1/16/2009 5:10:08 PM   
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RE: Hey Homies - 1/16/2009 7:08:42 PM   
Decadentpleasure


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Status: offline 		It wouldn't matter to me if the potential roomie was nilla or otherwise.  What does matter is having an understanding concerning fairly divided living expenses, privacy, and respect towards the other concerning personal situations.  In past situations, i was too 'soft' and accommodating, so much so that i was taken advantage of and ended up assuming all the bills to the tune of three grand (i'll never see it..ever).  Therefore, before any changes were made, i'd have to ask for a written agreement concerning all living expenses..and this would apply as well if i were the one moving in to another home as well. 

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RE: Hey Homies - 1/16/2009 7:22:17 PM   
oceanwynds


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Status: offline 		I am horrible at being a roommate. I am more of a witch then the kink and vanilla thing, so that would be my priority. I guess for them to tolerate me they would have to be witch and kink friendly.

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RE: Hey Homies - 1/16/2009 9:49:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		So long as they are accepting of my life and we are all respectful of each others privacy, it's all good.  I can keep certain items in my room and they can go away once in a while if they don't want to hear the screams.


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RE: Hey Homies - 1/16/2009 10:39:39 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		I would consider only a kinky room mate. You don't have to be single either to need or want house mates.

Daddy and I were considering asking a friend of his who was himself gay and knew Daddy and I were kinky to room with us so we could afford a decent place.

I am positively absolutely NOT in anyway interested in Vanilla  house partners.

The advantages of such are quite obvious to me, I wouldn't have to hide my dynamic, nor would I have to hide my toys or worry about something that shouldn't slip, slip, I wouldn't have to worry about what they heard behind closed doors, if we got a bit to loud,


I wouldn't have to worry a bout always having clothing on at any given moment I am not in the privacy of my own room, since my house mates would be nudity in public areas friendly, since I am a nudist.


One disadvantage I could see, I guess would be people being inconsiderate, with how loud they get, because the room mates are kinky too.

Or Maybe if you were a submissive and you didn't have a Dom,  And your room mate was a Dominant personality, they might feel they could boss you about.
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ORIGINAL: subtee

Assuming you are single or can imagine yourself as such:
 
If you found yourself in the position of needing or wanting to share resources and a home, would you look for a vanilla situation or would you instead look to another kinkster or poly situation? What do you see as the advantages/disadvantages of either choice?
 
I know it depends on the person and the situation, etc., etc., I want to know what you think, if you feel like sharing. Thanks!


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RE: Hey Homies - 1/17/2009 1:28:33 AM   
Focus50


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Wow Focus, you lose major pop culture points there.  Homeboy = someone you know from your hometown, have a kinship with

Lol, I think culture is the main reason Americans are so good at getting themselves into wars...!  I've never heard the term other than occasionally in American movies/tv shows etc.  Surely you're not now portraying the "ugly American" in suggesting someone is culturally backward for not being appraised of contemporary American culture?  *gasp* 
 
Tis all rhetorical and lighthearted, btw - though the smart money says someone will be quoting me on that opening line.  :-)
 
But a light has flickered on nonetheless....  IE, I didn't initially get the thread title (hmmmm, probably still don't...) but ok, we do all share a common lifestyle here.  Perhaps if the OP got her cute butt over here and explained all these Americanisms to me....   &
 
Focus.

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RE: Hey Homies - 1/17/2009 1:59:23 AM   
sblady


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Status: offline 		I understand where you're coming from as I've thought about how much easier things would be (financially) if I had a roommate.  This is something I've considered for the past 3 years.  It's a great idea....economically.  Unless you have separate entrances and living spaces, etc., it may be tough to find any privacy.  

I'm sure you've carefully weighed all your options and hope you have a favorable outcome.

typos...

< Message edited by sblady -- 1/17/2009 2:08:32 AM >

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RE: Hey Homies - 1/17/2009 4:20:25 AM   
colouredin


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ORIGINAL: BondageBarbieX

It would not matter to me if they are vanilla or into bdsm  but I would not share my home with any one that is poly or a swinger


This intrigued me, can I ask why?

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RE: Hey Homies - 1/17/2009 6:32:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		wow that's an interesting question---first I would want it to be the sub of My choice-however, if that wasn't an option--I KNOW I could not take in a male Dom--so I guess next would be a female sub ( which Ihave offered to a friend of Mine should her situation not work out)--note I did not mention a Domina-because so many seek to have a sub around them all the time, this just would not work and I don't share Mine or other people's goods.

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RE: Hey Homies - 1/17/2009 7:02:55 AM   
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RE: Hey Homies - 1/17/2009 7:25:42 AM   
silkncarol


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Status: offline 		I agree with this statement.....and i can also see where drama might be associated with having a fellow lifestyler as a roommate.  Perhaps a few extra guidelines would need to be discussed and settled on.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

It wouldn't matter to me as long as they are accepting of our differences and respectful of me, my space and the value I place on my home and things.

Obviously somewhat kinky might be preferable but then again there seems to be an awful lot of drama associated........hmmmmm.

I am thinking  there would be the potential for issues either way.



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RE: Hey Homies - 1/17/2009 7:36:25 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

It wouldn't matter to me as long as they are accepting of our differences and respectful of me, my space and the value I place on my home and things.

Obviously somewhat kinky might be preferable but then again there seems to be an awful lot of drama associated........hmmmmm.

I am thinking  there would be the potential for issues either way.


I also agree with this, which is not unusuall. Basically I expect a house mate to respect our Victorian Lifestyle, respect our pagan beliefs and practices and be able to get on well with Lady Neets and our two four footed chioldren and well as understand I have the final say in the home. I would perfer a house mate to be into kink as it does give some greater possibilities though.


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RE: Hey Homies - 1/17/2009 10:39:20 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Focus50
But a light has flickered on nonetheless....  IE, I didn't initially get the thread title (hmmmm, probably still don't...) but ok, we do all share a common lifestyle here.  Perhaps if the OP got her cute butt over here and explained all these Americanisms to me.... 

Focus.


I said pop culture, I'm a pop culture princess :)

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RE: Hey Homies - 1/17/2009 11:13:57 AM   
Focus50


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Status: offline 		Uh-ohh; looks like I'm still missing something, then!?!  <sigh> 
 
See, when you initially said "pop culture", I'm assuming that's short for 'popular culture' and globally (at least in Oz), calling someone "homie" or "homeboy" etc simply doesn't happen and thus wouldn't qualify....  I'm almost afraid to ask, but it doesn't mean 'popular'?
 
Lol, my brother lives in Seattle and he's always calling me "dude" for the culture cringe it gives me.  Ain't ever gonna mention or call him "homie"...! 
 
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RE: Hey Homies - 1/17/2009 12:40:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've long since abandoned the idea of finding kinksters my age in Charleston, SC who I want to hang around with and have embraced the lovely vanilla, social conservative, God-fearing Christians of this city. Not a single one of my friends has made me feel uncomfortable when we broach the subject of how my girlfriends call me "sir" and my sadomasochistic tendencies and in return I don't go out of my way to put them in situations where they would be uncomfortable.

Not being able to indulge in more explicit protocol in my own place of residence is a sacrifice I have to make until I am done with school and either ready to acquire a place of my own or move to a new city.

Most Charlestonians take offense to me being an Atheist wwwaaaayyyy before they ever take any offense to me being a male dominant.


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