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popeye1250 -> RE: Psychological Question (1/18/2009 7:46:01 PM)

Ven, check your messages but don't tell anyone.



MzMia -> RE: Psychological Question (1/18/2009 7:46:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

Ven, check your messages but don't tell anyone.


[8|]
taps foot!
Dang popeye, tell us all.
Is this some sort of ancient chinese secret?



pahunkboy -> RE: Psychological Question (1/18/2009 7:51:12 PM)

it takes 2 to tangle.   there is a certain % that is like this.    which brings it back to- it takes 2 to tangle



popeye1250 -> RE: Psychological Question (1/18/2009 7:55:19 PM)

PaHunk, true, and she didn't care about her own marriage either as she screwed over her husband.
Ven, that makes sense; "no empathy for others."
That would be her.
And from what I know about her profession she probably makes $300-$500k per year especially in that position.



kittinSol -> RE: Psychological Question (1/18/2009 8:23:28 PM)

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ORIGINAL: popeye1250
And from what I know about her profession she probably makes $300-$500k per year especially in that position.


Definitely on top then?



Termyn8or -> RE: Psychological Question (1/18/2009 8:28:41 PM)

Very hard to give a straight answer, one would need to know more about her background. For example was she shuffled among a thousand foster homes or raised in a strict Catholic environment ? These things matter. If her behavior is as you describe I would say it is rebellious in nature, which makes it important to know where that is coming from.

T



popeye1250 -> RE: Psychological Question (1/18/2009 8:36:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Termyn8or

Very hard to give a straight answer, one would need to know more about her background. For example was she shuffled among a thousand foster homes or raised in a strict Catholic environment ? These things matter. If her behavior is as you describe I would say it is rebellious in nature, which makes it important to know where that is coming from.

T


Term, good and I'd say happy upbringing.
When I knew this woman I didn't know any of this about her.
According to our mutual friend she was like that in high school too.
Went after others boyfriends, went after a guy no-one wanted and fucked him and left him.
I doubt very much that it's low self esteem as she is a very accomplished woman.



SassySarijane -> RE: Psychological Question (1/18/2009 9:15:52 PM)

Not necessarily popeye. A person can actually be very successful and still have low to no self esteem.



scarlethiney -> RE: Psychological Question (1/18/2009 10:14:35 PM)

Perhaps she has very low self-esteem and an addiction to sex. Either way she needs counseling.



popeye1250 -> RE: Psychological Question (1/18/2009 10:37:39 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SassySarijane

Not necessarily popeye. A person can actually be very successful and still have low to no self esteem.


Sassy, that may be true but absolutely not in the job she has!
She has a real "Alpha" job that many men look up to.



winterlight -> RE: Psychological Question (1/18/2009 10:43:51 PM)

She's in the Psychological/Psychiatrist field? Counselor for couples?



popeye1250 -> RE: Psychological Question (1/18/2009 11:30:28 PM)

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ORIGINAL: winterlight

She's in the Psychological/Psychiatrist field? Counselor for couples?


Winterlight, not even close!
She has a "Super Macho" job.



Kirata -> RE: Psychological Question (1/18/2009 11:53:19 PM)

She is terrified of intimacy. She seeks impossible relationships because they're impossible. If one of those men ever left his wife for her, she'd wouldn't know whether to shit or wind her watch. Because she cannot tolerate intimacy, she doesn't understand it and doesn't understand the havoc she wreaks. Her terror of intimacy probably reflects an underlying fear of abandonment. She is unlikely to seek help. When she gets to the end of her road in terms of being able to attract men, i.e., as she ages, she is likely to become unstable with masked depression.
 
Just my guess, of course.
 
K.

 
 



hizgeorgiapeach -> RE: Psychological Question (1/18/2009 11:54:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

Winterlight, not even close!
She has a "Super Macho" job.


That says to me either : Cop, Firefighter, or Military and in one of the more rigorous/demanding MOSes.  Or something like Airline Pilot which is sooooo male dominated that it's rediculous.



Termyn8or -> RE: Psychological Question (1/19/2009 5:44:41 AM)

Kirata, that is very possible, that's why I brought up her background.

This long distance psychoanalysis can be trying at times huh. This could come back to literally a million things, not getting completely over the death of say a favorite cousin, or at a younger age lusting after an Uncle and left high and dry, things like that. The mind does not always act in a logical manner (put that down on the list of contenders for the statement of the year). It might be so illogical we'll never figure it out. People might kill baby chicks because of how their Mom fried bacon. Stuff like that, because the mind can associate just about with anything it damnwell pleases. It could be possible that her Parents just stayed together for the sake of the kids, and frequently cheated on each other, and maybe she was aware of it yet never said a word.

We may never know. It may be intriguing to try to figure it out, but even if popeye gives us the whole rundown, we might still not figure it out.

T



colouredin -> RE: Psychological Question (1/19/2009 5:52:26 AM)

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ORIGINAL: popeye1250
She has a "Super Macho" job.


quote:


that may be true but absolutely not in the job she has!
She has a real "Alpha" job that many men look up to.


Hmm its really interesting I think working out some of your psychology would be quite wonderful.

You know this woman enough to know she had a good upbrining? On the outside many have a good upbringing. She may need to feel needed, often successful attractive people (especially women to be fair) want all men to like them sexually to feel valid. A lot of it is the way society values women. Also maybe she needs to feel feminine you keep talking about her alpha masculine job maybe she wants to feel sexually desirable? Maybe she only gets that feeling from a challange? Maybe if people changed the way they viewed her she would also be able to change.

Maybe as has been said she is afraid of intamacy but that almost always comes from low self esteem.




Termyn8or -> RE: Psychological Question (1/19/2009 8:05:47 AM)

The competitive spirit, damn coloured, you may have hit on it. A definite possibility.

Younger days, I, we and others would go on the prowl, looking for girls of course, what else would we do ? My one buddy, I noticed how he operated, he was a master at it. I was respected in the field, being average looking I could walk up to an absolute knockout and strike up a convo as if she were a dude sitting on my couch with a beer. But this guy was the master. We are talking about a lankey looking hillbilly with crooked teeth and a gut sticking out, but he could just about "get" any chick he wanted. One day I told him "You think of this like a football game don't you ?". He thought for a second and said yes, exactly.

What indeed impels people to greatness ? The desire of course. My buddy never purposely went after Women who were married or hooked, or seriously shacked with someone. It happened, but it was just by the numbers.

As far as the married thing, well ever shoot darts ? I never shoot straight cricket, I always shoot rotation, which means 20s first, then 19s, no luck involved. When I shoot pool it's call your shots, no dumb luck involved. Perhaps it is considered a bigger prize ? Getting a married guy, if you think about it, you might just think "Well this one IS good enough for somebody else".

You remember the old derogatory hillbilly joke, about the virgin "well if she ain't good enough for her own family she ain't good enough for our's".  Same mentality, just in a different scope.

So in a way, this could just be a slightly misdirected form of the desire to excel. I must admit I hadn't considered that.

T



KatyLied -> RE: Psychological Question (1/19/2009 8:29:30 AM)

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Her former best friend calls her, "an evil temptress" after she went after (her) husband.


Perhaps she should've said something like "I obviously wasn't meeting his needs or he wouldn't have been vulnerable to temptation."



Termyn8or -> RE: Psychological Question (1/19/2009 8:48:38 AM)

Katy, you would never say that if you were a male. Human males have this period in life, it varies but generally between the ages of 16 and about 35 will stick it in anything warm and wet, especially when connected to a nice body. We don't care if she is the human version of the black widow and kills all who mate with her thereafter nor do we care if there might be some guy (her Husband) sneaking up behind us with a gun, at least until it actually happens.

T



CatdeMedici -> RE: Psychological Question (1/19/2009 9:07:13 AM)

Well here is My .02--a relationship is not had until there are TWO people involved---so temptress or not, the guy at some point has to say yes-last time I checked, not many women were abducting men and forcing them to get involved against their will.
 
Your friends need to open their eyes, it takes two to tango.



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