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So I'm Curious - 1/21/2009 11:20:38 PM   
SailingBum


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Status: offline 		How many guys enjoi taking a strap on up the ass regularly.  I've read a few post about how "every guy" loves a strap on.  When I"m sitting around with the boys tossing back a couple cold ones anal sex  just doesn't come up. <go figure>

It holds no interest for me.  How does anal sex fit into your bdsm world.  Wondering if i'm the odd man out.

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RE: So I'm Curious - 1/22/2009 12:27:12 AM   
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RE: So I'm Curious - 1/22/2009 1:47:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		I've met a few who enjoy it, but can't say I have the statistics to help you out.   M

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RE: So I'm Curious - 1/22/2009 1:54:23 AM   
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Status: offline 		Even as a submissive, I've been asked by a few guys for this. However, I don't think I have statistics for you. It really is a matter of personal desire whether or not it interests you. Not to mention that a number of variables impact how much you enjoy it. How pleasurable is other anal activity for you? Can you tolerate penetration by lets say fingers at all? How much can you relax? Have you trained for this? What kind of lube and how much is being used? (Of course personally, I think the previous questions play a role in whether ANYONE enjoys anal sex, regardless of what is penetrating them.) Then the technique of the person using the strap on comes into play. I mean as of yet the person wearing the strap on has no way to truly feel what the strap on is doing. When a guy engages in anal sex (penetration) they have some sensation so its easier to know if there is a problem, although far from fool proof.

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RE: So I'm Curious - 1/22/2009 4:19:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		First of all, not "every" guy likes it---it seems that 90% of perspective male subs THINK that is a requirement from a female Dominant and that's as cliche as we all wear stilettos and carry whips.
 
Second, obviously you've never been fingered or had your prostate "massaged"--heh. There may be 50 ways to leave your lover, but there are a few key ones to make him beg to stay.
 


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RE: So I'm Curious - 1/22/2009 4:28:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		My tongue up his ass...that's A ok
Me coming at him with a strap on...not on your fucking life.

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RE: So I'm Curious - 1/22/2009 5:07:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		It doesn't interest me at all.  I'm the Dom, which means it ain't gonna happen.


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RE: So I'm Curious - 1/22/2009 5:31:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		Alright, I guess mal is sleeping in today, so I'll be the first to plead guilty. 

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RE: So I'm Curious - 1/22/2009 5:35:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		Had some that love it, had at least one it was a hard limit and never even considered. Had a few that tried it and didnt like it or were indifferent. Its like everything else in the world.... it works for some and not for others.

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RE: So I'm Curious - 1/22/2009 5:39:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		While there's certainly no ass pounding going on, he wouldn't say no to a little finger here or there. 

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RE: So I'm Curious - 1/22/2009 6:35:59 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

...Second, obviously you've never been fingered or had your prostate "massaged"--heh. There may be 50 ways to leave your lover, but there are a few key ones to make him beg to stay.
 


ROFL - 'scuse me while I clean the coffee off my monitor!  You are so twisted - I just LOVE that about you !!

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RE: So I'm Curious - 1/22/2009 6:52:27 AM   
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Strap On spelled backward is No Parts..........

I find them rather intrusive.

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RE: So I'm Curious - 1/22/2009 8:33:46 AM   
Petruchio


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Status: offline 		What Aileen said in spades.

No … fucking … way … on … your … life.

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RE: So I'm Curious - 1/22/2009 8:37:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		From the conversations I have over heard, read, etc........I think it is directly related to how much of a homosexual and/or submissive act, the man thinks it is.

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RE: So I'm Curious - 1/22/2009 9:11:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		My last Dominant and I had discussed it as he was bi-sexual, but we never actually got there.

For Master, it's a hard no. He has absolutely no interest in it at all.

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RE: So I'm Curious - 1/22/2009 9:21:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well I was not a fan when it first happened.  Hurt like a MF.. nothing was going to make me do that again.. I thought.  Turned out to be the wrong partner with the wrong approach.  Years later when I tried it again we took our time.  We built up to it until I was very curious to try again.  It was great!  Hurt like an MF at first, but once there with a bit of coaxing it was incredible.  It is definitely a different sensation and probably not one many would enjoy.  But then again, many people don't know what they are doing, or.. wrong partner, wrong approach.
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RE: So I'm Curious - 1/22/2009 9:52:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		Okay, so I had a fabulous response written and my connection tanked and I lost it (pout). 
Anyway, here goes (Probably with less eloquence).  
In excess of 30% of the men I have been with have directly stated they wanted me to do them with a strap on and/or have allowed themselves and I the pleasure.  I would guess with near certainty that more than double that number would have gone for it across time. 
I've only been with one man, my ex-, who summarily refused to be on the receiving end of any anal attention and he didn't like giving anal attention either.  Even he, in the last few weeks of our marriage, hit his knees and 'sucked my cock' (Strap ons...they're not just good for anal)!.  I was astonished and turned on, massively on both accounts.  Still don't know and probably will never know what made him choose to do that.
Anyway, I think a lot of men fear womens' responses about requesting anal attention for themselves from their ladies.  I find that sad.  Many men also seem to have the conception that they're more anally 'dirty' than women are.  Anal can be rustic, being pragmatic is important.  Also, there is the whole 'straightness' or not fear.  My perspective is this: man having something to do with another man's penis: not straight.  A man having something to do with one of my cocks or being anally receptive (Or penetrative) is a straight act. 
I greatly enjoy anal: giving and receiving. 
Davan

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RE: So I'm Curious - 1/22/2009 9:55:49 AM   
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RE: So I'm Curious - 1/22/2009 10:01:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		There are spots inside a male that could create anal pleasure but that doesn't mean all men will want to try that or that they can even enjoy that. I think it's similar to the number of women who like vaginal intercourse. Some love it, some could take or leave it, some frankly hate it.

Add into that the idea that we foolishly have that being penetrated is the same as being submissive and that creates another level of negativity associated with the action of anal sex not to mention the entire anal taboo to begin with in many cultures.

I think it takes a certainly type of bravery to try anal sex for anyone and another type of bravery to admit you enjoy it if you do. There are lots of types of bravery and we don't need to exercise them all.


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RE: So I'm Curious - 1/22/2009 10:05:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have a big collection of strap-on dildos in many sizes, shapes and colours and I have a bit of a reputation for wearing them in fet clubs. To be honest the strap-on is always a great ice breaker. Men just can't resist coming up and asking me about it and that includes dominant men who so often whisper in my ear things like 'how long would it take to train a man like me to take that sort of size' or the more regular one is 'dont tell my sub but you look really hot in that!'

It always amazes me, when it comes to taking it, how big they want it. I normally start off with a baby one (about the size of my thumb) but they don't know that and they really do think they are taking something mammoth!


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