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RE: examples of sadomasochism found in wider society - 1/22/2009 7:12:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

CJ what can I do to get you here for a weekend? One of my goals this year is to find an appropriately sadistic masseuse who will finally and thoroughly work out ALL the tension and knots in my shoulders and enjoy all the crying I do through it.

I can find decent massuers, I can find sadists, but I haven't found the right mix who will just keep going for just the right reasons....

Best offer I've had in some time.

Well. I see that you live in Texas. I'm in Florida, soooo, either spring for my expenses or come on down to the penis state.

Hey, I've got an idea, you could recoup my expenses by pimping out my services to your kinky pals.

Or...I understand that Austin area has a good number of massage therapists. I'm sure there are some good ones. Find one that is experienced, skilled and will give you the amount of pressure you desire. Be willing to meet with him or her a number of times so that your, apparently, very tight muscles can regain their healthy state.

And wyndchimes, one of the best massage therapists I've ever known is a woman who weighed about 115. She was very good and could give as much pressure as anyone ( including masochists ) could want. It's not a matter of gender or size, it's a matter of knowing what you're doing and experience. The kind of massage that you refer to sounds like what I cal the "pinch and poke" method. One has to use one's body weight rather than hand/arm strength to use strong pressure and yet still make it "hurt so good".

I'd love to see those tears streaming down your face, LA...or dropping onto my bare nekkid toes as I work out your "kinks".

P.S. Windchymes, don't go to a school and expect to get a good massage. It does happen, but not often. As in most things, experience counts and you get what you pay for.

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RE: examples of sadomasochism found in wider society - 1/22/2009 8:22:53 PM

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hehehe...i'm a professor...i make them suffer....every day...

It's the students who mind fuck the prof. Ya know they act like their paying attention, act like the teacher is intresting, charming witty. Schmooze the prof into thinking they actually give a shit about the teacher and the class. When they are actually thinking... "What is this bimbo gonna bore us with today."

Oh and after the semester is over explain to the dean why they think the prof shouldn't be a prof anymore. You may want to rethink your outlook.

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RE: examples of sadomasochism found in wider society - 1/22/2009 9:10:56 PM

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Now think about other situations in your everyday life where you can find mindgames, and examples of sadism and masochism, but without BDSM, without kink, without any sexual overtones, but simply examples of sadism and masochism found in routine, humdrum, everyday events and circumstances.

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Most educational institutions, in fact—from elementary and up.

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RE: examples of sadomasochism found in wider society - 1/22/2009 10:24:25 PM

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Damn, y'all have me *SO* wishing I could afford a masseuse!

I think that life in general is wired to run in a sadomasochistic manner.

For example:

Want to be slim, and therefor socially acceptable? All you have to do is spend all your time exercising, which sucks, and eating foods that don't taste good.
Want to take a drug that will let you disconnect all your pain? Well, it'll work for a little while, but in order to have it *keep* working you'll have to keep increasing the dosage until it shuts down your central nervous system and you die.
Want to take any one of a number of drugs to provide various other sensations? They ALLLLL got side effects, and most of 'em'll kill ya. Have fun.
Want to succeed and be able to relax and be happy? all you need to do is work your ass off, which sucks.

It's all a rich tapestry.

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RE: examples of sadomasochism found in wider society - 1/22/2009 10:48:09 PM

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The dentist, but not for reasons you'd think.

Novocaine doesn't work very well on me. I went through a process not so long ago of having my mercury fillings removed and replaced with porcelain ones. This meant drilling and the like, which meant Novocaine, which meant I'd have enough pain to make me hit the dentist (some dental pain I love...drilling into my teeth isn't one of them).

So my doc tells me to avoid caffeine a couple of days beforehand, since caffeine can negate the effects of Novocaine. I'm not a happy or kind person without my morning coffee, and so I'd forget, have my coffee, show up, and "Whoops, sorry doc, need another shot." (This process took about 4 visits).

One morning I showed up, groggy and grumpy, as I obeyed the instructions and went three full days without my sacred java. I lie back in the chair, the dental hygenist tilts the chair back, and I wait. A few minutes later, here comes Mr. Dentist Man, with a HUGE cup of coffee. He sits down next to me and waves it under my nose, saying "Mmmmmmmm.....COFFEEEEEEE......."

He does stuff like that to me all the time. Once with his hands working deep inside my mouth, he tells me about working in the yard so much, for the life of him he couldn't get all the dirt out from under his nails.

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RE: examples of sadomasochism found in wider society - 1/23/2009 8:16:37 AM

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NuevaVida----
Sounds like time for a new dentist!!! My dentist is a merciful soul; he gives me nitrous, much nitrous and tells me to be liberal with the valium and anti-inflammatories before and after visits. Dental work is still an agony but less-so.
OneMoreWaste----While as Cjan said, schools don't generally offer the best massage opportunities, itis less expensive than a practitioner who is fully trained and experienced. Treat yourself sometime! And, I agree that there's a fair bit of S&M inthe world; perhaps it has to do with that Freudian sex and death/eros and thanatos urge we all have?!
Think I am getting too philosophical for a Friday.
Have a good weekend, all! :>
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RE: examples of sadomasochism found in wider society - 1/23/2009 8:31:26 AM

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Well, as some have suggested in another thread, there's always the Massage Envy chain...the WalMart of massage therapy. At least it's more affordable to many, and beats a massage school since ME therapists at least have some experience.

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RE: examples of sadomasochism found in wider society - 1/23/2009 9:03:55 AM

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being fired from a job and given no explanation for it. no reason. no warning nothing. to me , i hate to personalise but short ofbeing fed to crocodiles , a real life situation, ordinary, yeah thats as cruel as it gets. thats sadism to me. particularly when your boss is goading you when He's doing it, when he has the look of happiness, of pleasure, yeah that s pretty sadistic alright
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