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peppermint -> RE: Paying (1/26/2009 11:57:52 AM)

When we go out he pays for everything.  We live together.  This means that we have many shared expenses.  Over time a system has evolved.  I am responsible for certain bills.  He is responsible for others.  I pay electricity.  He pays for gas for the car.  While I pay for the groceries, he pays when we go out to eat.   



junecleaver -> RE: Paying (1/26/2009 12:00:49 PM)

I prefer when a man pays and I dislike paying for him.  It's not all that politically correct, but I've always felt that way.  I do get turned on by the whole I can provide for you for the rest of your life financially thing.  Even though paying for the little things doesn't 'prove' that, it backs up that attitude.



urlittleprincess -> RE: Paying (1/27/2009 8:32:43 AM)

this is a touchy issue for me because i am not used to being taken care of all the time.  if we are out together, He always pays despite my protests or attempts at paying.  only rarely does He stand aside and let me pay and that is usually if i whip out my debit card first!  i think He understands it is a pride issue and makes me feel good to pay sometimes.  and yes, i do have my pride...
 
normally though, the only time i pay is when i go shopping alone while He is at work, or i ask to treat Him to movies at the theatre!!  :)



Mercnbeth -> RE: Paying (1/27/2009 9:29:12 AM)

Any $$$ that comes this slave's way goes to Master.
 
He makes the decisions as to where it goes, when it goes and to whom.



BnkinMD -> RE: Paying (1/27/2009 5:45:07 PM)

my Daddy doesn't let me pay and this is very hard on me.  I am younger and make about 3 times LESS then he does. I do support myself but when we are out he pays for everything.  I am very stubborn and I haven't figured out how to get past this aspect. I feel horrible but I know he loves me and likes to buy me things.  Just before Christmas he showed up at my front door with a 3 foot tall Santa Pooh Bear :)  Any suggestions on how to get past this, I don't think he will ever give in on this one?



Huntertn -> RE: Paying (1/27/2009 5:52:50 PM)

if your happy and he's happy does it really matter??? I do make alot more than most subs...so I pay for things alot..but if I pay too much most subs seem to hate that..and if they want to treat me..lol..why not???



T1981 -> RE: Paying (1/27/2009 6:15:43 PM)

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ORIGINAL: akisha

Everything with us comes out of the same bank account, neither of us ever packs cash so it's never really been an issue. It's whomever pulls out their bank card first.


Same here.



StormsSlave -> RE: Paying (1/28/2009 2:57:32 AM)

We're married.  It's OUR money, so it all comes out of one account.  We decide what to do with it together, though My Lord does the accounting and makes the final decisions if there is a disagreement over priorities.  Since it's often a decision over robbing Peter for Paul, I'm happy to let him pick which Peter gets robbed this month.  [:D]

On a side note:  I sure do see a lot of men on a lot of discussion boards talking about how they are the ones who pay for everything, and the woman shouldn't have to.  On the other hand, I KNOW a lot of women who are either supporting the household or are part of a two income family.  Hmmmm...something's not right here.



Lashra -> RE: Paying (1/28/2009 6:51:26 AM)

We usually split the costs. My sub always wants to pay, but I refuse to let him as I know he does not have a lot of money. So I've found it is just easier to split the costs. Unless it is our birthday and then the celebrant pays for nothing on their special day.

~Lashra



charlie63 -> RE: Paying (1/28/2009 3:49:10 PM)

We have a system of roughly splitting costs that just evolved without discussion. If He comes to my place, I cook for Him. If I go to his place He takes me out. If He invites me somewhere He pays. And vice versa. Works for us.



TranceTara -> RE: Paying (2/4/2009 2:02:00 PM)


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ORIGINAL: BnkinMD

my Daddy doesn't let me pay and this is very hard on me.  I am younger and make about 3 times LESS then he does. I do support myself but when we are out he pays for everything.  I am very stubborn and I haven't figured out how to get past this aspect. I feel horrible but I know he loves me and likes to buy me things.  Just before Christmas he showed up at my front door with a 3 foot tall Santa Pooh Bear :)  Any suggestions on how to get past this, I don't think he will ever give in on this one?


Would it help if you thought you were giving him a gift by receiving? He loves you and paying for things for you pleases him.

Also, another way is to pay percentages. I went with someone who made four times what I did so when it came time to pay I'd pay 1/4. She had expensive tastes so if she chose a real expensive hotel, well, that would usually be her treat and I'd by lunch or something. If she chose an expensive restaurant I'd cover the tip.




StrongSpirit -> RE: Paying (2/4/2009 6:54:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ISOHOH49

Count your blessing, because there are more than enoungh out there that would be more than happy to let you pay for everything.   This one guy that was talking with for 3 months, said as  my Master he would allow me to continue to work and pay all our living expense.  What a great guy.


Sounds like every single female domme I know.   Do you think "What great women."?

I am not making a moral judgement about the men or the women that have slaves pay.  But I am making a moral judgment about the people that object to the men requiring women to pay but don't speak up when the women require men to pay.



MasterTslave -> RE: Paying (2/5/2009 7:23:04 AM)

When we were dating, Master T would let me help with paying things...but then he would do something for me in return...like work on my house.  I knew that times were tight for him as he was changing jobs and homes, so it was alright with both of us to have me pay when I could and he do things that I needed done (that I would have had to have hired out anyway).
Now that we are married, Master T always wants to be the one to pay when we are out, but the money from his job as well as mine are in the same account.



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