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MoGa -> RE: Only Male Doms reply please (1/26/2009 10:45:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: IronBear Point 1: He did the right thing by sending you home because he thought he might lose control. Point 2: He was honest and indeed caring enough to end the budding relationship. Point 3: Remember that even on face book he will not be your FRIEND but an acquaintance. You can keep it at this level (Point 3) and you should in my opinion, set the ground rules so that any seduction or manipulation on his part you block him.. Your choice if you will want this or if you forget all about him and move on.. If you maintain some form of relationship with him you should, again in my opinion, move on and seek another who can be your Dominant. Begin Off Topic: IB, You look great! Nice photo! End Off Topic MoGa

junecleaver -> RE: Only Male Doms reply please (1/26/2009 11:30:13 AM)
It doesn't sound like he did anything hurtful or malicious. He couldn't control himself in the situation so he removed the situation. Letting people come in and out of our lives freely is hard and a skill I haven't quite mastered myself. With the information you've given...it sounds like a situational thing not a personal thing. Friends on facebook is not really the most intimate there is. I don't remember where I met half of my facebook friends. Look at it this way...the only person who can put you back in the situation is you. You carry all the power and responsibility for that decision. If you decide not to go there, then you won't and have nothing to be worried about.

oceanwynds -> RE: Only Male Doms reply please (1/26/2009 12:22:46 PM)
Female S-type here and want to say maybe it is you toying with the idea that he wants more? Maybe it is you jumping to hopes and dreams. Just a thought oceanwynds

LarabysLair -> RE: Only Male Doms reply please (1/26/2009 12:26:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 Speaking as a male dom, I'm glad the women posted. They made more sense than you did. I appreciate the flame! Happy burning, Call me LL

Lynnxz -> RE: Only Male Doms reply please (1/26/2009 12:49:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LarabysLair ~FR~ I suppose it should come as a shock that the "Only Male Doms reply" subject line tends to meaninglessness with females, slaves, subs, bottoms, vanillas and everyone / everything else piping in. Truth is, this is CM and on CM anyone can post on any thread and enscribe their opinion no matter whether is was solicitted or not. Also, it is more likely to get meaningless ones and trite remarks when it was not. I think it's the behavioral analog of the outsider looking in and feeling excluded. And since there are no consequences to intrusion into the inner-sanctum, it becomes a matter of self-satisfaction to invade it. I now return you to your exclusive thread. Call me LL And how, exactly, was this comment meaningful for the OP? At any rate, friend requests on social networking sites mean nothing... I get so many spam friend invites it's unreal. I doubt he is toying with you, but rather just adding you as a person he's had contact with.

DesFIP -> RE: Only Male Doms reply please (1/26/2009 3:02:57 PM)
I don't see him toying with you. I see him as ending a relationship that didn't work for him for whatever reason, interesting that you still haven't asked him why. And now wanting to occasionally hear from you, know that you're okay. Doesn't sound like you're capable of being just an acquaintance. Or dealing well with rejection. If you want to know what happened, ask him. If instead you prefer to spin elaborate fantasies of him tracking you down on Facebook and friending you in order to toy with your emotions, then go for it.

MidMichCowboy -> RE: Only Male Doms reply please (1/26/2009 3:45:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThundersCry I have used that line...I just don`t trust myself with you It`s usually followed by...ripping her panties off and saying...screw it So far I have been able to deal with the guilt.... Yep, I love it when I can't trust myself. Oh, it could be that he wants to keep a link in case something changes (girl friend drops him or he grows up) and he wants to be able to get in touch with you. He may think of you fondly and want to keep friendship alive. He is in a contest for the most friends on Facebook. You have great pictures so he can show off to his friends the hot women he know. Most likely ... none of the above.

PLCPC -> RE: Only Male Doms reply please (1/26/2009 7:22:31 PM)
Thanks to all who replied. I requested only Male Doms because I wanted a very particular perspective. So for the ladies, thank you for taking the time to respond. I will consider the additional feedback as the cherry on the icing of the cake of my day. I really can't give more info about the situation, without it being identifiable. And he may still read the message boards here. There were some other rather overwhelming things going on in his personal life, so it may not have had anything to do with me. I haven't asked him why he said goodbye to me, because those other things had the potential to be very painful. So I respected his space. The issue about friending on FB: he had to actively search for my name. It's the action of doing that which has me curious. Considering the nature of my friends on FB, it's highly unlikely that my name showed up on his suggested friends list. BTW: it's been a while since I've been on CM. So many changes. I see my profile lists me as vanilla....totally not so. If I figure out how to change that, I will. PLCPC

mc1234 -> RE: Only Male Doms reply please (1/26/2009 7:38:08 PM)
I just opened my facebook page last night. In opening it, it requested my AOL login info and then proceeded to tell me everyone in my email contacts page who had a facebook page, and I clicked 'invite as friends' - or something like that. Whatever the exact wording was, I wound up inviting as friends a few people that probably are thinking 'WTF?' when the receive my invite, because we only talk once every two years. Could be the same situation here ...

tkenslve -> RE: Only Male Doms reply please (1/26/2009 7:43:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PLCPC BTW: it's been a while since I've been on CM. So many changes. I see my profile lists me as vanilla....totally not so. If I figure out how to change that, I will. PLCPC How to fix it.... post more

PLCPC -> RE: Only Male Doms reply please (1/26/2009 8:44:59 PM)
Very funny! I'm on FB because of my cat! Long story!

AquaticSub -> RE: Only Male Doms reply please (1/27/2009 2:00:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PLCPC The issue about friending on FB: he had to actively search for my name. It's the action of doing that which has me curious. Considering the nature of my friends on FB, it's highly unlikely that my name showed up on his suggested friends list. Just food for thought... People have searched for my name who I haven't heard from since middle school because they want a longer friends list. Oddly, I've also gotten people who were outright mean to me or insulted me the last time we spoke. Social networking sites seem to have a very odd effect on people's memories...

StormsSlave -> RE: Only Male Doms reply please (1/27/2009 3:38:14 AM)
I'm just posting because I'm a female sub. I have nothing to add....just kidding. It's possible he'd like to actually be friends instead of saying your friends. Or maybe he just wants a pretty girl to be his friend. Either way, you can always delete him if things get weird. shrug. It's not like you're asking him to move in. Simmer down.

Petruchio -> RE: Only Male Doms reply please (1/27/2009 5:18:10 AM)
I have a strong feeling we have insufficient data. Something is missing. Normally, I'd give your a smart (and probably smartass) answer, but I can't see the entire puzzle. I guess part of it is I can't tell your thoughts. Why did you feel hurt? Did you feel he was playing games with you? Did you feel disrespected?

Kalapattar -> RE: Only Male Doms reply please (1/27/2009 7:50:33 AM)
Sorry, I was replying to the wrong post.

colouredin -> RE: Only Male Doms reply please (1/27/2009 7:54:15 AM)
Ohh i am confused, Kalapatter are you the OP under a differant screen name?

sirsholly -> RE: Only Male Doms reply please (1/27/2009 8:02:54 AM)
sure sounds like it

colouredin -> RE: Only Male Doms reply please (1/27/2009 8:06:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly sure sounds like it and the plot thickens [;)]

PLCPC -> RE: Only Male Doms reply please (2/8/2009 8:51:15 PM)
Thanks to all who weighed in. I truly appreciate the feedback. Ultimately, I "unfriended" him on FB. I really responded to him initially as a DOM, and seeing his photo again sent me into a tizzy. Bottom line though, I didn't feel I could keep control of myself, just as perhaps he worried that he could not control himself. Heat is good, but conflagration is not.

trueshadow -> RE: Only Male Doms reply please (2/10/2009 8:51:39 PM)
Personally, I think he might want to rekindle things, maybe ratchet it up a bit. As you point out, he went to some trouble to find you, so you are definitely still on his mind. I suppose the best thing would have been would be to come out and ask him his intentions. I will tell you that I would not have sent any woman, sub, slave dom or vanilla, away if I had any sexual interest at all. Is he a eunuch?

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