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ORIGINAL: PLCPC

I met a DOM, through Collarme, about 1 1/2 years ago.  We hit it off, and had some very exciting, initial meetings.  We seemed to have the same likes (D/s) related, and he would become very intense. We also have many mutual interests outside of D/s.  And we sometimes travel in the same social circles.  I tend to be careful in developing a D/s relationship, and we had not actually had sex.  At the same time he was very into it...one day he sent me home because he felt he might lose control.

Soon thereafter, he gave me a neutral goodbye. I respected that.  But yesterday he found me on Facebook and requested that I become his friend.

As a DOM, he totally turned me on.  Yet, I don't want to get into something so hurtful again.

My question is this:  As a DOM, how would you view this, and/or would you personally toy with a sub this way?

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ORIGINAL: PLCPC

Well, now this discussion thread has slipped into some cattiness amongst those who were not originally invited to the party.  And this is precisely a major reason I asked for only male Doms to respond.   Maybe it's because my personality type is INTJ according to Myers Briggs.....where all the engineers of the world fall into.  Give me the facts, just the facts, ma'am.

As an update, he sent me an email and requested contact again.  I have not decided what to do.

Thanks to all who chimed in.

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ORIGINAL: PLCPC

Well, now this discussion thread has slipped into some cattiness amongst those who were not originally invited to the party.  And this is precisely a major reason I asked for only male Doms to respond.   Maybe it's because my personality type is INTJ according to Myers Briggs.....where all the engineers of the world fall into.  Give me the facts, just the facts, ma'am.

As an update, he sent me an email and requested contact again.  I have not decided what to do.

Thanks to all who chimed in.

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And this is precisely a major reason I asked for only male Doms to respond.

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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And this is precisely a major reason I asked for only male Doms to respond.

Don't expect a goup of strangers to give you automatic submission.

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ORIGINAL: PLCPC

Well, now this discussion thread has slipped into some cattiness amongst those who were not originally invited to the party.  And this is precisely a major reason I asked for only male Doms to respond.   Maybe it's because my personality type is INTJ according to Myers Briggs.....where all the engineers of the world fall into.  Give me the facts, just the facts, ma'am.

As an update, he sent me an email and requested contact again.  I have not decided what to do.

Thanks to all who chimed in.

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defeated by the mindboggling complexities of the world of Facebook.

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ORIGINAL: PLCPC
Guilty as charged.  So spank me already!

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"meet for coffee...get to know you" thing twice, played around twice.

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I met a DOM, through Collarme, about 1 1/2 years ago.  We hit it off, and had some very exciting, initial meetings.  We seemed to have the same likes (D/s) related, and he would become very intense. We also have many mutual interests outside of D/s.  And we sometimes travel in the same social circles.  I tend to be careful in developing a D/s relationship, and we had not actually had sex. 

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Soon thereafter, he gave me a neutral goodbye. I respected that.  But yesterday he found me on Facebook and requested that I become his friend.

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ORIGINAL: came4U

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"meet for coffee...get to know you" thing twice, played around twice.

on n on about someone you met twice?  He likely waited for that long period without contacting you in hopes you were over him and didn't expect or think of him as 'yours'.
Obviously he didn't let enought time to pass before contacting you again.

and besides, a grown man who facebooks? uhhg, you aren't missing out on much.  Deny the request, have some pride.

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

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ORIGINAL: PLCPC

Well, now this discussion thread has slipped into some cattiness amongst those who were not originally invited to the party.  And this is precisely a major reason I asked for only male Doms to respond.   Maybe it's because my personality type is INTJ according to Myers Briggs.....where all the engineers of the world fall into.  Give me the facts, just the facts, ma'am.

As an update, he sent me an email and requested contact again.  I have not decided what to do.

Thanks to all who chimed in.

Ummm...why don't you just fucking ask him why he keeps sending you friend requests? Problem solved.

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ORIGINAL: PLCPC

But thanks again to the DOMs.  Very helpful and insightful