AquaticSub
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From my point of view to be a Dom you first have to be a Gentleman and a Man. To be a Gentleman requires respect for subs and their family and friends and an understanding of their needs. To be a Man is to never take anything from a sub except her respect, mind and body, a man takes care of business and does not move in a leach off a sub, neither does he accept money, support etc - So if I am wrong someone please enlighten me. I see way too many profiles where the sub complains the last guy milked her for money or support. Maybe therer shoule be a Union for you subbies!
Are you wrong? Well no, in that it's your opinion and I don't think there is much I could argue you. But it's not my defination.
By the way, the lack of capital letters in the following post doesn't mean I regard the terms lightly. It's because neither my owner or I believe that anything but deities, formal names and other things dictated by grammar get capital letters.
For me, a gentleman opens car doors, buys flowers, says "please" and "take you" when he doesn't have to, tips well, treats those who work for him and serve both - both inside his home and out with respect. He can be harsh. Interestingly, I had a discussion with a friend of mine about how we viewed the term gentleman. To her, a gentleman has to be gentle. For me, it's a title that one earns by polite and respectful behavior, regardless of how hard he throws me against the barn wall. 
To me, a man takes care of his own and a good man helps to take care of those he doesn't have to. The needy in his community. He takes care of those around him how he can. If the woman in his life (assuming a heterosexual relationship for this post) has better earning power, a man is not threatened by it because he is secure in his masculinity. If he needs money, he is man enough to accept help - not a foolish boy who refuses to admit he needs it. Then, he shows himself to be man by then repaying what was given to him and more.
Valyraen, my beloved owner, is a leech by your standards and others. That's fine. When we got together, I had an income. He didn't, not to speak of. He has shown himself to be a fine man in my eyes by getting a good job, paying rent, taking care of me and buying food, clothing and things for me that I don't need. My money helps now but not very much.
Some males milk females for money. And some female milk males for money. Growing in a situation where there was money, I find both equally disgusting, equally trashy and equally.... ugh I'm not even sure there is a word for it. I've learned how to smell out people who judge by money as though it somehow makes for class and happy relationships. It's a foul ordor - not saying I get that you. Just in general.
Edited to add: I realized I didn't touch on the term dominant, probably because for me it's very simple. I don't make much attempt to define the terms in other people's relationships because they aren't mine. A dominant, in my eyes, is someone who enjoys dominating and nothing more than that. You don't have to be a nice guy to be a dominant.
And I would also be against a subbie union. I mean... what would happen if I didn't pay my dues?
< Message edited by AquaticSub -- 1/26/2009 8:29:13 PM >
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Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val
It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me
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