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LadyMedusa -> The Lady's List (1/27/2009 5:48:50 AM)
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I noticed a few replies elsewhere about some saying they had never seen a checklist before, so since I could not really find a place to put this except here... this is my original one, my old PC is down, so I can't find the updated version atm, but this should give some of the subs ideas, about what we might be asking for Submissive BDSM Play Partner Check List. This questionaire should be filled out by a Sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play. For each item, you need to provide two answers: First indicate YES or NO (by eliminating the other) next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity. Don't mark if it does not apply to your gender. Next, indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5. NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit). 0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and would ordinarily object to doing it, but you would be willing to do it to please the Dominant if they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft limit"). 1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it was asked of you. 2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you. 3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/occasional basis. 4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis. 5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible. Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with you current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners. Note any additional information which might be important for your Dom to know. There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient of the activity.
Yes/No ____:Anal sex Yes/No____:Anal Play
Yes/No ____:Anal plugs
Yes/No ____:Anal plug (public, under clothes)
Yes/No ____:Bathroom use control
Yes/No ____:Beating (soft)
Yes/No ____:Blindfolds
Yes/No ____:Being serviced (sexual)
Yes/No ____:Breast/chest bondage
Yes/No ____:Bondage
Yes/No ____:Bondage (public, under clothing)
Yes/No ____:Breast whipping
Yes/No ____:Caning
Yes/No ____:Cells/Closets (locked inside of)
Yes/No ____:Chastity belts
Yes/No ____:Clothespins
Yes/No ____:Collars (worn in private)
Yes/No ____:Collars (worn in public)
Yes/No ____:Corsets (wearing)
Yes/No ____:Cuffs (leather)
Yes/No ____:Cuffs (metal)
Yes/No ____:Double penetration
Yes/No ____:Enemas
Yes/No ____:Enforced chastity
Yes/No ____:Examinations (physical)
Yes/No ____:Exhibitionism (private)
Yes/No ____:Eye contact restrictions
Yes/No ____:Fisting (vaginal)
Yes/No ____:Following orders
Yes/No ____:Forced dressing
Yes/No ____:Forced homosexuality
Yes/No ____:Forced masturbation
Yes/No ____:Forced nudity (private)
Yes/No ____:Forced nudity (around others)
Yes/No ____:Forced servitude/maid service
Yes/No ____:Full head hoods
Yes/No ____:Gags (cloth)
Yes/No ____:Gags (rubber)
Yes/No ____:Genital sex
Yes/No ____:Hairbrush spankings
Yes/No ____:Hair pulling
Yes/No ____:Hand jobs (giving)
Yes/No ____:Serving w/other subs
Yes/No ____:Harnessing (leather)
Yes/No ____:Harnessing (rope)
Yes/No ____:Head (giving )
Yes/No ____:Head (receiving )
Yes/No ____:Hot waxing
Yes/No ____:Humiliation (verbal--slut talk)
Yes/No ____:Humiliation (physical--peeing, etc.)
Yes/No ____:Ice cubes Yes/No ____:Include Others (play parties)
Yes/No ____:Initiation rites
Yes/No ____:Intricate (Japanese) rope bondage
Yes/No ____:Kneeling
Yes/No ____:Leather restraints
Yes/No ____:Licking (non-sexual)
Yes/No ____:Manacles & Irons
Yes/No ____:Massage (giving)
Yes/No ____:Massage (receiving)
Yes/No ____:Medical scenes
Yes/No ____:Modeling for erotic photos
Yes/No ____:Mouth bits
Yes/No ____:Nipple clamps
Yes/No ____:Nipple weights
Yes/No ____:Over-the-knee spanking
Yes/No ____:Orgasm control
Yes/No ____:Outdoor scenes/sex
Yes/No ____:Piercing
Yes/No ____:Public exposure
Yes/No ____:Pussy whipping
Yes/No ____:Riding crops
Yes/No ____:Rituals
Yes/No ____:Restrictive rules on behavior
Yes/No ____:Rope body harness
Yes/No ____:Saran wrapping
Yes/No ____:Sensory deprivation
Yes/No ____:Serving
Yes/No ____:Serving orally (sexual)
Yes/No ____:Shaving (body hair)
Yes/No ____:Slutty clothing
Yes/No ____:Spanking
Yes/No ____:Speech restrictions (when, what)
Yes/No ____:Speculums
Yes/No ____:Spreader bars
Yes/No ____:Standing in corner
Yes/No ____:Stocks
Yes/No ____:Strap-on-dildos
Yes/No ____:Swallowing semen
Yes/No ____:Tickling
Yes/No ____:Vaginal dildo
Yes/No ____:Vibrator on genitals
Yes/No ____:Voyeurism (watching others)
Yes/No ____:Voyeurism (your Dom w/others)
Yes/No ____:Video (watching others)
Yes/No ____:Video (recordings of you)
Yes/No ____:Whipping
Yes/No ____:Wooden paddles Words I use to describe my genitals...______________________________
Words I cannot tolerate to describe my genitals.______________________
Not included on the list: Things I have done, that I'd like to repeat (please explain in some detail.
Things I have not done, but would like to do: (Not on list).
What I'd like my Mistress to know about me and my desires.
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