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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 3:49:20 PM

Underumam

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Maybe I should've mentioned "older or younger for LTR". lol.

I'd be all for a hot young babe, but I seriously doubt if it would last long term. There's simply too many differences and most likely not enough in common. And what would a young 20 something want with a guy who's old enough to be her father? (somebody should make a movie..lol... Fine wine is the best, but one needs to have the developed taste to appreciate it. But then again, maybe i'm wrong.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 4:35:55 PM

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I expected to find a Domme my age or older, and ended up finding two Dommes 10 & 12 years younger than I

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 5:16:27 PM

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I have not a choice. I must have older submissives. I am 20 years old. If I have younger submissive than I will go to jail unless I pretend I am baby sitter.

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And what would a young 20 something want with a guy who's old enough to be her father?

I do not date men over 30 for boyfriends. I do have fetish dream about older men over 30. I use men this age for mousetoy. Older men have more power and intelligence and confidence than younger men. Older men make better and smarter mice. Older men last longer as mouse toy. This is speculation by me because I only play with older man as mouse toy twice. I enjoyed this and I am seeking a special type man for my game.

I tell you this so you know not to pretend you know what is in mind of all women. We are all different and some of us who are women have special secret fetishes.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 5:17:37 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

I have not a choice. I must have older submissives. I am 20 years old. If I have younger submissive than I will go to jail unless I pretend I am baby sitter.

I like her!

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 5:22:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

I have not a choice. I must have older submissives. I am 20 years old. If I have younger submissive than I will go to jail unless I pretend I am baby sitter.

*Sigh*... where were babysitters like you when I was a teen?

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 5:37:18 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

I have not a choice. I must have older submissives. I am 20 years old. If I have younger submissive than I will go to jail unless I pretend I am baby sitter.

*Sigh*... where were babysitters like you when I was a teen?

I was babysitter in Poland. I was not a nice babysitter. The children did not enjoy me. I made them go to bed immediately when parents leave house even if sun was still outside. I wanted privacy because boyfriend would sneak over. I tell children monster from lake would eat them if they tell parents about boyfriend visiting.

^^^This is much truth. I do not make story for joke.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 5:41:47 PM

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After a lifetime of being with older men, I am looking more in my own age group. Two men that I used to be involved with turned 60 last year, and while that is not old, it is also closer to the point where they are going to be betrayed by their bodies. And die and leave me. I am okay with being a caregiver, heaven knows I have the practice, but I don't want to be a middle aged widow.

I am endlessly hit on by young men---by which I mean men 30 and under, young enough to be my sons. Some of them are fine people, but for me, a person I could have given birth to is not an erotic object. Charming companion, amusing playmate, but not life partner.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 6:24:00 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: T1981

quote:

ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

I have not a choice. I must have older submissives. I am 20 years old. If I have younger submissive than I will go to jail unless I pretend I am baby sitter.

I like her!

That makes two of us. :)

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/29/2009 4:03:56 AM

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quote:

I tell you this so you know not to pretend you know what is in mind of all women. We are all different and some of us who are women have special secret fetishes.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

I have not a choice. I must have older submissives. I am 20 years old. If I have younger submissive than I will go to jail unless I pretend I am baby sitter.

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Underumam say
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And what would a young 20 something want with a guy who's old enough to be her father?

I do not date men over 30 for boyfriends. I do have fetish dream about older men over 30. I use men this age for mousetoy. Older men have more power and intelligence and confidence than younger men. Older men make better and smarter mice. Older men last longer as mouse toy. This is speculation by me because I only play with older man as mouse toy twice. I enjoyed this and I am seeking a special type man for my game.

I tell you this so you know not to pretend you know what is in mind of all women. We are all different and some of us who are women have special secret fetishes.

If there's one thing I HAVE learned in my 47 years, it's that I most definitely DONT know what's in the mind of most women. Actually, once I get them half-way figured out, things go rapidly downhill from there. So, I guess I'll just stop trying..lol.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/29/2009 10:03:07 AM

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If there's one thing I HAVE learned in my 47 years, it's that I most definitely DONT know what's in the mind of most women. Actually, once I get them half-way figured out, things go rapidly downhill from there. So, I guess I'll just stop trying..lol.

I am a woman and even I do not know mind of all women. If you listen to women we give you clues to what is in our mind.

Just remember

1-listen

2-say sorry when you are wrong or right

3-do not use logic in argument. Women use emotion. We do not wish to hear your logic. Tell us how you feel. Do not tell us 2 and 2 is 4. Tell us about feelings of the number 4.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/29/2009 11:35:25 AM

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I've had the fortune on being on all sides of the spectrum. At the beginning, I had a preference for older dommes rather than younger ones. I've been collared by a domme 17 years older than me (when I was 23), I was with a domme my own age (when I was 29), now I'm collared by a domme 7 years younger than me (I'll be 31 in February and she just turned 24 in December).

When I was 23, I was with a domme 17 years older than me and while we had amazing chemistry and loads of passion and similar interests, we were at two different stages in our lives. She was a mother of two and a grandmother. Our vanilla interests were very different, as was our eating habits. It was a wonderful four and a half years, but it just wasn't the right fit for us in the long run.

At 29, I was with a domme my own age, but she was more of a party type who liked to drink excessively. While it may be fine for some people, that type just isn't for me. She lacked focus and direction when we were together, and was extremely jealous and possessive. She was a good person at heart, but I needed more out of a domme and partner.

Now, at the current time, I wear the collar of the most wonderful domme I could have ever hoped to find. I was very leary about her because she was only 22 when we first started talking, though. In my area, girls in their early 20s are usually party girls, space cadets, and generally scatter-brained. Despite what I'm accustomed to in my area, something inside told me not to discount her right off. Boy, am I glad I listened to that inner voice. It was rough at first trying to convince someone who's been hurt as badly as she has in the past to open up and trust someone over the phone and email, but she finally took the leap of faith and began trusting in me and my loyalty to her.

She is 24 now, on the verge of her LPN degree, and planning her future to persue her RN Masters degree. She has direction, drive, and the ability to easily make it all happen. BDSM is a constant learning experience, so she and I are constantly learning new things and learning things about each other. We are planning our future together and how to make the most out of our life together. We have absolutely amazing chemistry and her style of dominance mixes perfectly with my style of submission.

While she wasn't what I thought was ideal for me, she turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me. Who would have thought I would have found my dream domme and future bride all wrapped up in one sexy, gothic package!

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/29/2009 3:17:35 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

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If there's one thing I HAVE learned in my 47 years, it's that I most definitely DONT know what's in the mind of most women. Actually, once I get them half-way figured out, things go rapidly downhill from there. So, I guess I'll just stop trying..lol.

Yah but........................lol.

I am a woman and even I do not know mind of all women. If you listen to women we give you clues to what is in our mind.

Just remember

1-listen

2-say sorry when you are wrong or right

3-do not use logic in argument. Women use emotion. We do not wish to hear your logic. Tell us how you feel. Do not tell us 2 and 2 is 4. Tell us about feelings of the number 4.

Yah, but..................lol.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/29/2009 3:21:05 PM

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Good for you Rubberpet! I had what you did once(outside of the bdsm community-but everything else was there), and I blew it royally. If there's one regret I have in my life it's how I fucked that relationship up. I'm not crying over spilled ,milk, I'm just glad you found yours! Good luck!

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/29/2009 3:38:33 PM

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Age if fairly immaterial to me. My girl is 17 years my senior. What I require, however, is that they NOT have the attitude or belief that they are inferior. It is my practice and belief that we are two equal adults coming into a relationship that's about the transfer of authority.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/30/2009 3:20:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: Underumam

Good for you Rubberpet! I had what you did once(outside of the bdsm community-but everything else was there), and I blew it royally. If there's one regret I have in my life it's how I fucked that relationship up. I'm not crying over spilled ,milk, I'm just glad you found yours! Good luck!

Thanks! I tell ya, I was not expecting to find anything like what we have when I first wrote to her. In fact, I was expecting her not to respond because of the distance. She was/is in West Virginia and I'm in Louisiana. She admitted to me that she was in such a funk that she was often deleting messages unread for quite a while when mine popped up. It was actually my nick of "rubberpet" that piqued her curiosity and got me in the door. She told me she paused for a second and thought to herself, "What the heck is a 'rubberpet'?" Since she had an interest in rubber, she decided to open my letter to her and voila! Here we are today. Plus, I just happened to write to her on the luckiest day of the year...July 7, 2007 (07/07/07). All those lucky seven couldn't be wrong, I tell ya!

I hope you are lucky enough to find what it is you are hoping to find. Every subby needs a good domme to keep them in line and on a short leash.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/30/2009 4:03:27 AM

Underumam

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ORIGINAL: rubberpet

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ORIGINAL: Underumam

Good for you Rubberpet! I had what you did once(outside of the bdsm community-but everything else was there), and I blew it royally. If there's one regret I have in my life it's how I fucked that relationship up. I'm not crying over spilled ,milk, I'm just glad you found yours! Good luck!

Thanks! I tell ya, I was not expecting to find anything like what we have when I first wrote to her. In fact, I was expecting her not to respond because of the distance. She was/is in West Virginia and I'm in Louisiana. She admitted to me that she was in such a funk that she was often deleting messages unread for quite a while when mine popped up. It was actually my nick of "rubberpet" that piqued her curiosity and got me in the door. She told me she paused for a second and thought to herself, "What the heck is a 'rubberpet'?" Since she had an interest in rubber, she decided to open my letter to her and voila! Here we are today. Plus, I just happened to write to her on the luckiest day of the year...July 7, 2007 (07/07/07). All those lucky seven couldn't be wrong, I tell ya!

I hope you are lucky enough to find what it is you are hoping to find. Every subby needs a good domme to keep them in line and on a short leash.

That's true! lol.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/30/2009 5:58:26 AM

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My current Mistress is 12 years older than me, my last 14 years younger. i am in my late forties. The difference in Their ages had a significant affect on the things We/we did together, but it has made no real difference to my ability to serve Them.

i think it is a question of maturity and general compatibility rather than just age. i would not rule out serving a Lady in Her early 20's or even late teens if She was sufficiently mature. i suspect that most Ladies of that age would prefer a younger model than me, however!

ww

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 2/2/2009 3:33:02 PM

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The age play a part and a older woman generaly makes it all better somehow, the way I see it.. The idea of getting tormented by some young woman have some atraction too, but it does come back to the older matron types all the time.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 2/3/2009 1:03:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: Underumam

Older male subbies- younger Dommes.
or
Older male Doms- younger female subbies
or
Younger male Doms- older female subbies..........

What's your take/experiences? I prefer close to, or older than me just because it's real, and it's difficult to be truly inferior to one who's much younger..But then again, I could be completely wrong..lol.

Given a choice, I prefer a mistress that's older. I'm 51 so that gets harder because it seems that there are more young women who want to be dominant. I know I'm the exception but I would even like to have a mistress in her 70s.

Don't know what it is, but to me submitting to older women is a real turn on.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 2/3/2009 1:11:09 PM

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I will date any man between the ages of 18 and 80 LOL
But My first preference is that they are my age group... BUT STILL I LOVE my 20something boys who adore ME.
My last husband was 10 years younger than me. And it worked out great.We were together more years than I care to admit.

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