Desperate to find a Dom

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

Desperate to find a Dom

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Polls and Other Random Stupidity >> Desperate to find a Dom

Page: [1] 2 next > >>

Login

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

Desperate to find a Dom - 1/27/2009 10:11:55 PM

thesugarplum

Posts: 49
Joined: 8/16/2006
Status: offline

[ Insert a few tears and sniffles]

Ugh, I'm so pathetic. Finding a dominant is so hard. Maybe my standards are too high, but there have been people who raised the bar for me. Why does it have to be so hard :(

For instance, I have been talking to this man via messenger. I was actually really interested in this man. Tall, handsome, in my age group, and some experience under his belt. Than he goes and tries to pull the internet protocol card, just because I'm a dominant. I tried to explain to him that is not how I do things, and that's I have to respect him as a person before I can respect him as a dominant and he said, "I'm not longer interested in you, good night".

Which is fine with me. I mean, it was probably better that way. The guy was probably a serial killer, or someone who pretends to be into the stuff, but really is just on a power trip and wants to get laid.

I just wish, finding a dominant was easier. It's been so long, and I just keep finding pond scum.

[insert long sigh]

Maybe its time to dish out $$ for an alt.com membership.

Post #: 1

RE: Desperate to find a Dom - 1/27/2009 10:40:57 PM

califsue

Posts: 593
Joined: 2/2/2008
Status: offline

Ok..I took a look at your profile. You are young based on your profile and married so your pool of Dom's may be smaller if you are looking to add a Dom to your relationship. There are several munch groups in the greater Sacramento area. I know one group meets twice a month. I don't know if your need is to submit or the physical play other than sexual and there are several groups in Sacramento that do offer play parties on a monthly basis.
Just some ideas. I know sometimes the need is so great but sometimes focusing on others, being involved in other interests will ease the feeling of desperation.

(in reply to thesugarplum)

Post #: 2

RE: Desperate to find a Dom - 1/27/2009 10:53:01 PM

thesugarplum

Posts: 49
Joined: 8/16/2006
Status: offline

I used to attend the munches in Sacramento. I want to say that I don't discriminate, but age is a factor. Because of my age, it is hard for me to open up to a lot of older men. You're right though. Maybe I'll start attending the local munches again.

< Message edited by thesugarplum -- 1/27/2009 10:54:28 PM >

(in reply to califsue)

Post #: 3

RE: Desperate to find a Dom - 1/27/2009 11:19:42 PM

GreedyTop

Posts: 52100
Joined: 5/2/2007
From: Savannah, GA
Status: offline

*hugs*

_____________________________

polysnortatious
Supreme Goddess of Snark
CHARTER MEMBER: Lance's Fag Hags!
Waiting for my madman in a Blue Box.

(in reply to thesugarplum)

Post #: 4

RE: Desperate to find a Dom - 1/27/2009 11:24:08 PM

thesugarplum

Posts: 49
Joined: 8/16/2006
Status: offline

Thank you :)

(in reply to GreedyTop)

Post #: 5

RE: Desperate to find a Dom - 1/27/2009 11:30:48 PM

FullfigRIMAAM1

Posts: 1160
Joined: 11/20/2008
Status: offline

You are sooo not pathetic, and I'm sure that if you start attending play parties again, you'll find compatible folks who will take you on.... Unless they're blind. M

_____________________________

The place to improve the world is first in one's own heart and head and hands.-Robert M. Persig

Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence Erich Fromm

(in reply to thesugarplum)

Post #: 6

RE: Desperate to find a Dom - 1/27/2009 11:37:21 PM

GreedyTop

Posts: 52100
Joined: 5/2/2007
From: Savannah, GA
Status: offline

I know, huh? She's adorable :)

_____________________________

polysnortatious
Supreme Goddess of Snark
CHARTER MEMBER: Lance's Fag Hags!
Waiting for my madman in a Blue Box.

(in reply to FullfigRIMAAM1)

Post #: 7

RE: Desperate to find a Dom - 1/27/2009 11:39:12 PM

chiaThePet

Posts: 2694
Joined: 2/4/2007
Status: offline

Maybe if you weren't upside down.

Just sayin.

chia* (the pet)

_____________________________

Love is a many splendid sting.

You can stick me in the corner, but I'll probably just end up coloring on the walls.

(in reply to thesugarplum)

Post #: 8

RE: Desperate to find a Dom - 1/27/2009 11:43:06 PM

FullfigRIMAAM1

Posts: 1160
Joined: 11/20/2008
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet
Maybe if you weren't upside down.

Just sayin.
chia* (the pet)

Hello! Did you miss the upside down boobs? Uhm, no I meant cute shirt.

Oops, sorry Chia, you're probably not allowed to notice those things.

M

< Message edited by FullfigRIMAAM1 -- 1/27/2009 11:45:09 PM >

_____________________________

The place to improve the world is first in one's own heart and head and hands.-Robert M. Persig

Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence Erich Fromm

(in reply to chiaThePet)

Post #: 9

RE: Desperate to find a Dom - 1/27/2009 11:46:01 PM

thesugarplum

Posts: 49
Joined: 8/16/2006
Status: offline

The photos supposed to put the person in the perspective of looking down on me. They're bigger than they look lol. I love my upside down boobs, thanks.

(in reply to FullfigRIMAAM1)

Post #: 10

RE: Desperate to find a Dom - 1/27/2009 11:46:02 PM

chiaThePet

Posts: 2694
Joined: 2/4/2007
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: FullfigRIMAAM1

quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet
Maybe if you weren't upside down.

Just sayin.
chia* (the pet)
Hello! Did you miss the upside down boobs? I mean the rest of her looks cute as well.

Oops, sorry Chia, you're probably not allowed to notice those things. M

Hell, I'm an upside down boob.

And yes, I can see her dirty pillows.

chia* (the pet)

_____________________________

Love is a many splendid sting.

You can stick me in the corner, but I'll probably just end up coloring on the walls.

(in reply to FullfigRIMAAM1)

Post #: 11

RE: Desperate to find a Dom - 1/27/2009 11:48:19 PM

thesugarplum

Posts: 49
Joined: 8/16/2006
Status: offline

You all are really sweet, and made me smile a little :) Thanks..

(in reply to chiaThePet)

Post #: 12

RE: Desperate to find a Dom - 1/27/2009 11:49:51 PM

FullfigRIMAAM1

Posts: 1160
Joined: 11/20/2008
Status: offline

<<<--- *Does an unlady-like snort*

You're welcome Sugarplum. M

_____________________________

The place to improve the world is first in one's own heart and head and hands.-Robert M. Persig

Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence Erich Fromm

(in reply to chiaThePet)

Post #: 13

RE: Desperate to find a Dom - 1/28/2009 12:17:29 AM

MirrorrirroM

Posts: 35
Joined: 9/5/2008
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: thesugarplum

[ Insert a few tears and sniffles]

Ugh, I'm so pathetic. Finding a dominant is so hard. Maybe my standards are too high, but there have been people who raised the bar for me. Why does it have to be so hard :(

For instance, I have been talking to this man via messenger. I was actually really interested in this man. Tall, handsome, in my age group, and some experience under his belt. Than he goes and tries to pull the internet protocol card, just because I'm a dominant. I tried to explain to him that is not how I do things, and that's I have to respect him as a person before I can respect him as a dominant and he said, "I'm not longer interested in you, good night".

Which is fine with me. I mean, it was probably better that way. The guy was probably a serial killer, or someone who pretends to be into the stuff, but really is just on a power trip and wants to get laid.

I just wish, finding a dominant was easier. It's been so long, and I just keep finding pond scum.

[insert long sigh]

Maybe its time to dish out $$ for an alt.com membership.

Elloo. your screen name and pics are adorable btw haha. I do agree your pool of Doms is probably smaller due to being married, but there are lots of polyamorous people or even I'm sure Doms looking for a non-sexual relationship out there if thats what you want, so I'm sure you will find the right one for you.
It's a very good thing that you are willing to stand up for yourself and NEVER bow down to someone that has not earned your respect. If these idiot Lord Allmighty Internet Dom types can't respect that, then they don't deserve you.
Best of luck :)

_____________________________

Life isn't about finding yourself, it's about creating yourself.

(in reply to thesugarplum)

Post #: 14

RE: Desperate to find a Dom - 1/28/2009 12:22:36 AM

kolekorin

Posts: 35
Joined: 2/26/2008
Status: offline

I've thought about responding to your profile about a million times, but as someone with just an ounce of exeperience I feel much too intimidated. You did seem like you had high expectations and I just felt like I wouldn't catch your radar for the simple fact that I don't have experience, even if was of the caliber you were looking for.

(in reply to thesugarplum)

Post #: 15

RE: Desperate to find a Dom - 1/28/2009 12:26:40 AM

chiaThePet

Posts: 2694
Joined: 2/4/2007
Status: offline

~Luvvvvv, soft as an easy chairrrrr~

~Luvvvvv, fresh as the morning airrr~

chia* (the pet)

_____________________________

Love is a many splendid sting.

You can stick me in the corner, but I'll probably just end up coloring on the walls.

(in reply to kolekorin)

Post #: 16

RE: Desperate to find a Dom - 1/28/2009 12:28:54 AM

FullfigRIMAAM1

Posts: 1160
Joined: 11/20/2008
Status: offline

Hey, that's the song I pretend to be Barbara Streisand and sing to my uhm at night, and he loves it.

And speaking of love evergreen, heya Greedy are you nervous yet? I'm so excited for you.

M

< Message edited by FullfigRIMAAM1 -- 1/28/2009 12:30:15 AM >

_____________________________

The place to improve the world is first in one's own heart and head and hands.-Robert M. Persig

Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence Erich Fromm

(in reply to chiaThePet)

Post #: 17

RE: Desperate to find a Dom - 1/28/2009 12:30:28 AM

chiaThePet

Posts: 2694
Joined: 2/4/2007
Status: offline

Let's hope it does the same for these two kids.

chia* (the pet)

_____________________________

Love is a many splendid sting.

You can stick me in the corner, but I'll probably just end up coloring on the walls.

(in reply to FullfigRIMAAM1)

Post #: 18

RE: Desperate to find a Dom - 1/28/2009 12:40:36 AM

thesugarplum

Posts: 49
Joined: 8/16/2006
Status: offline

Oh you guys knock it off :p This isn't a matchmaking thread. Although that was incredibly adorable. I smiled a little. Intimidated by a submissive! I've never heard that before, but I'm flattered that you think I earned a caliber in my skills. Thank you :)

(in reply to chiaThePet)

Post #: 19

RE: Desperate to find a Dom - 1/28/2009 1:08:56 AM

GreedyTop

Posts: 52100
Joined: 5/2/2007
From: Savannah, GA
Status: offline

Chia.. please aske Herself to smack you for (a) reminding me I havent seen Carrie in AGES, and (b) putting that damned song in my head!!

Full... not at all :)

kole... if ya dont ask, ya never know.

Plum... *smooch* adorable :)

_____________________________

polysnortatious
Supreme Goddess of Snark
CHARTER MEMBER: Lance's Fag Hags!
Waiting for my madman in a Blue Box.

(in reply to thesugarplum)

Post #: 20

Page: [1] 2 next > >>

All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Polls and Other Random Stupidity >> Desperate to find a Dom

Page: [1] 2 next > >>

Jump to:

New Messages	No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages	Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages	Locked w/o New Messages

Post New Thread

Reply to Message

Post New Poll

Submit Vote

Delete My Own Post

Delete My Own Thread

Rate Posts

Collarchat.com © 2025

Terms of Service

0.094