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thesugarplum -> Desperate to find a Dom (1/27/2009 10:11:55 PM)

[ Insert a few tears and sniffles]

Ugh, I'm so pathetic. Finding a dominant is so hard. Maybe my standards are too high, but there have been people who raised the bar for me. Why does it have to be so hard :(

For instance, I have been talking to this man via messenger. I was actually really interested in this man. Tall, handsome, in my age group, and some experience under his belt. Than he goes and tries to pull the internet protocol card, just because I'm a dominant. I tried to explain to him that is not how I do things, and that's I have to respect him as a person before I can respect him as a dominant and he said, "I'm not longer interested in you, good night".

Which is fine with me. I mean, it was probably better that way. The guy was probably a serial killer, or someone who pretends to be into the stuff, but really is just on a power trip and wants to get laid.

I just wish, finding a dominant was easier. It's been so long, and I just keep finding pond scum.

[insert long sigh]

Maybe its time to dish out $$ for an alt.com membership.




califsue -> RE: Desperate to find a Dom (1/27/2009 10:40:57 PM)

Ok..I took a look at your profile. You are young based on your profile and married so your pool of Dom's may be smaller if you are looking to add a Dom to your relationship. There are several munch groups in the greater Sacramento area. I know one group meets twice a month. I don't know if your need is to submit or the physical play other than sexual and there are several groups in Sacramento that do offer play parties on a monthly basis.
Just some ideas. I know sometimes the need is so great but sometimes focusing on others, being involved in other interests will ease the feeling of desperation.




thesugarplum -> RE: Desperate to find a Dom (1/27/2009 10:53:01 PM)

I used to attend the munches in Sacramento. I want to say that I don't discriminate, but age is a factor. Because of my age, it is hard for me to open up to a lot of older men. You're right though. Maybe I'll start attending the local munches again.




GreedyTop -> RE: Desperate to find a Dom (1/27/2009 11:19:42 PM)

*hugs* 




thesugarplum -> RE: Desperate to find a Dom (1/27/2009 11:24:08 PM)

Thank you :)




FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: Desperate to find a Dom (1/27/2009 11:30:48 PM)

You are sooo not pathetic, and I'm sure that if you start attending play parties again, you'll find compatible folks who will take you on....   Unless they're blind.    M




GreedyTop -> RE: Desperate to find a Dom (1/27/2009 11:37:21 PM)

I know, huh? She's adorable :)




chiaThePet -> RE: Desperate to find a Dom (1/27/2009 11:39:12 PM)


Maybe if you weren't upside down.

Just sayin.

chia* (the pet)




FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: Desperate to find a Dom (1/27/2009 11:43:06 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet
Maybe if you weren't upside down.

Just sayin.
chia* (the pet)
Hello!   Did you miss the upside down boobs?    Uhm, no I meant cute shirt.[8D]   

Oops, sorry Chia, you're probably not allowed to notice those things. [:D]   M




thesugarplum -> RE: Desperate to find a Dom (1/27/2009 11:46:01 PM)

The photos supposed to put the person in the perspective of looking down on me. They're bigger than they look lol. I love my upside down boobs, thanks.




chiaThePet -> RE: Desperate to find a Dom (1/27/2009 11:46:02 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: FullfigRIMAAM1

quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet
Maybe if you weren't upside down.

Just sayin.
chia* (the pet)
Hello!   Did you miss the upside down boobs?   I mean the rest of her looks cute as well.   

Oops, sorry Chia, you're probably not allowed to notice those things. [:D]   M


Hell, I'm an upside down boob.

And yes, I can see her dirty pillows.

chia* (the pet)




thesugarplum -> RE: Desperate to find a Dom (1/27/2009 11:48:19 PM)

You all are really sweet, and made me smile a little :) Thanks..




FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: Desperate to find a Dom (1/27/2009 11:49:51 PM)

<<<--- *Does an unlady-like snort*  

You're welcome Sugarplum.   M




MirrorrirroM -> RE: Desperate to find a Dom (1/28/2009 12:17:29 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: thesugarplum

[ Insert a few tears and sniffles]

Ugh, I'm so pathetic. Finding a dominant is so hard. Maybe my standards are too high, but there have been people who raised the bar for me. Why does it have to be so hard :(

For instance, I have been talking to this man via messenger. I was actually really interested in this man. Tall, handsome, in my age group, and some experience under his belt. Than he goes and tries to pull the internet protocol card, just because I'm a dominant. I tried to explain to him that is not how I do things, and that's I have to respect him as a person before I can respect him as a dominant and he said, "I'm not longer interested in you, good night".

Which is fine with me. I mean, it was probably better that way. The guy was probably a serial killer, or someone who pretends to be into the stuff, but really is just on a power trip and wants to get laid.

I just wish, finding a dominant was easier. It's been so long, and I just keep finding pond scum.

[insert long sigh]

Maybe its time to dish out $$ for an alt.com membership.



Elloo. your screen name and pics are adorable btw haha. I do agree your pool of Doms is probably smaller due to being married, but there are lots of polyamorous people or even I'm sure Doms looking for a non-sexual relationship out there if thats what you want, so I'm sure you will find the right one for you.
It's a very good thing that you are willing to stand up for yourself and NEVER bow down to someone that has not earned your respect. If these idiot Lord Allmighty Internet Dom types can't respect that, then they don't deserve you.
Best of luck :)




kolekorin -> RE: Desperate to find a Dom (1/28/2009 12:22:36 AM)

I've thought about responding to your profile about a million times, but as someone with just an ounce of exeperience I feel much too intimidated. You did seem like you had high expectations and I just felt like I wouldn't catch your radar for the simple fact that I don't have experience, even if was of the caliber you were looking for.




chiaThePet -> RE: Desperate to find a Dom (1/28/2009 12:26:40 AM)


~Luvvvvv, soft as an easy chairrrrr~

~Luvvvvv, fresh as the morning airrr~

chia* (the pet)




FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: Desperate to find a Dom (1/28/2009 12:28:54 AM)

Hey, that's the song I pretend to be Barbara Streisand and sing to my uhm at night, and he loves it.   

And speaking of love evergreen, heya Greedy are you nervous yet?   I'm so excited for you. [sm=alien.gif]  M




chiaThePet -> RE: Desperate to find a Dom (1/28/2009 12:30:28 AM)


Let's hope it does the same for these two kids.

chia* (the pet)




thesugarplum -> RE: Desperate to find a Dom (1/28/2009 12:40:36 AM)

Oh you guys knock it off :p This isn't a matchmaking thread. Although that was incredibly adorable. I smiled a little. Intimidated by a submissive! I've never heard that before, but I'm flattered that you think I earned a caliber in my skills. Thank you :)




GreedyTop -> RE: Desperate to find a Dom (1/28/2009 1:08:56 AM)

Chia.. please aske Herself to smack you for (a) reminding me I havent seen Carrie in AGES, and (b) putting that damned song in my head!!

Full... not at all :)

kole... if ya dont ask, ya never know.

Plum... *smooch*  adorable :)




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