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RE: How can you let someone know what you are intereste... - 1/29/2009 7:45:18 AM   
MissMorrigan


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Deep South, you're writing to another individual so what is it about that person that interests you? I seem somewhat different insofar as in where I place importance. I'm not going to even bother to look at your profile, I look at very few and when my submissive partner, Reality, first wrote to me his profile was empty and it wouldn't have mattered either way. When he wrote to me it was evident that he had a genuine interest to get to know me, however long that may take, he'd taken the time to read some of my forum posts, my journal entries, make a couple of comments regarding them and ask some questions regarding my interests OUTSIDE BDSM, and I could tell that what he'd written to me wasn't a standard letter he'd sent to many others.

What you write in your profile is immaterial in my opinion, it's how you engage with me that is. Any questions we may want answered usually are during the course of a few conversations.

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RE: How can you let someone know what you are intereste... - 2/4/2009 12:45:32 PM   
lateralist1


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What I would want to know is
Are you a man looking for a dominant woman for a romantic LTR?
Or
Are you a man looking for experience in BDSM or kinky sex.
The first I would potentially be interested in the second I would not.
If a man just wants experience in BDSM then my best advice is that he goes to a pro Domme. If a man just wants to experience kinky sex I suggest he goes to a prostitute.
I hope that helps.



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RE: How can you let someone know what you are intereste... - 2/4/2009 1:47:37 PM   
ShaktiSama


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To the OP: Just for the record, I think your profile looks great. All you need is an attractive photo.

< Message edited by ShaktiSama -- 2/4/2009 1:48:08 PM >


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RE: How can you let someone know what you are intereste... - 2/5/2009 12:20:48 AM   
HardToTame


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Theres something I could say, but won't.  

I'm truly sorry I just find ita bit funny.  Thats just my immaturity tho.  *Ahem*  How ever, on  a  serious note. 

Don't Mistresses/Domme's  get bored with this kind of, normality? 
Ok well, it's not a normal community for starters, the people might be normal, but the activities are considered taboo by the general 'vanilla' public, (Though, I think secretly theres a bit of S&M in us all).  But, don't you read these kind of profiles and just think "couldn't a slave offer me more?" 

It all seems so disposable to me.  

This is why I got a gifrlfriend, not a Mistress.  The majority of women who view my profile, I can read them like a book, and I get such an unbelievable sense of weakness about them.  I don't sense strength, more, desperation.  More that so many domme's here seem as tho, they're desperate for that something more, as if they miss something, so have come here to find it and are more, acting and telling a slave what he wants to hear so that in a way THEY can serve HIM!.   I'm not sure if it's making sense, I don't know if it's just me, but the relevance it bares to this thread is that the profile is the part that tells the world exactly who you are and what your after.

You shouldn't change your needs so that you can find a mistress, maybe you should, change the mistess to one who can meet your needs?  One who REALLY understands you, who isn't so up her own ass about silly formalities.  One who is mature enough to take a mature discussion for what it is instead of assuming its a do me attitude.  These 'formal' domme's,  some of them make me laugh at how pathetic they are in their crap attempts to be so, domineering.  To be such a mistress, to be all that. Call me picky, but buddy,  I'd recomend quality over quantity anyday.  Personally, I think,  if you want a women who likes to kick guys in the balls, you gotta show her you got a pair, and that she's gonna break her toes on them if you know what I mean.  Tink tink? "Jingle bells, jingle bells".  I wouldn't give myself to any women who couldn't value the bravery in being an individual true to oneself.  A women who wants me to change, I see as someone who is just desperate to fill the void, and rather than finding someone who WILL actually fill it.  Someone purposely designed to fill that void, they are looking for a cheap substitute which they can then mould and overtime hope fills it.  It'll never fit better than a custom fit.  Get what I mean? 

Thats just me tho.  Remember, I get no messages

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