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RE: Decollared? - 1/11/2006 5:35:09 PM   
Arpig


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None taken caitlyn, personally I have always been an "easy score"


Again sorry folks, I didn't realise that my Pet was signed in, and just started posting....just goes to proove what I posted elsewhere...I am absent-minded

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RE: Decollared? - 1/11/2006 5:51:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: caitlyn

Guys are an easy score ... go out and score a bunch.

(no offense to guys intended)



I maybe easy *G* but I am not Cheap!

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RE: Decollared? - 1/11/2006 5:59:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RiotGirl

Strangely, other then being decollared, EVERYTHING is going swell. i've been drawing all these neat new lines and telling him if he crosses them i walk. My boyfriend has been er.. well great. Doing all the "right" things. Behaving and the like, being really nice and all that stuff. And i just want to beat the living shit out of him (which he offered himself for later tonight)

Any suggestions wise collarme ppl on where to go and what to do now?


He's being nice and things are going swell? Sorry to hear that...

Be well,
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RE: Decollared? - 1/11/2006 6:21:33 PM   
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Respecting boundaries and being "nice" is not (necessarily) a role reversal. Offering himself up for a beating - if in jest, it's just that. If serious, there could have been many reasons - the least confusing of which is that he's a masochist, which has nothing to do with dominance or submission.

I'm just saying - I don't see it. And we don't have nearly enough information to say anything definitive.


Makes sense, but there is no telling whether he is testing the waters, or that she is, and vice versa. They could very well be switches at heart. It would be nice to get the other side of the story, as there are two participants. And like most things in life, everything is fluid, subject to change. Even if it were to cool off and become vanilla a while, as has been suggested, there is no guarantee it would be permanent. If it is role reversal, or refusal, there is no saying it is permanent. But yes, would be nice to hear his perspective if he would wish to add to the thread.

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RE: Decollared? - 1/11/2006 6:33:21 PM   
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So ayep, i've been decollared, cos i uh dont care. i'm out for my happiness and MY happiness doesnt include doing being a maid. It doesnt include being walked on. So i, heh, just stopped! Of course, it was offered back (and i know excatly WHY too, with a condition that i start obeying) and is sitting infront of me. Seems like its a good time to re negotiate doesnt it?


Riot, I'm pretty sure that there will be alot of people that just won't understand this but I am pretty sure you will. Hugs to ya girl and ya know you can contact me anytime.

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Don't blame me you didn't get it
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I already told you that falling is easy
It's getting back up that becomes the problem
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Don't blame me you didn't get it
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I already told you that falling is easy
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If you don't believe you can find a way out
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Falling is easy
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RE: Decollared? - 1/11/2006 6:45:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		Erin, I love that song. I really do. It is one of my favorites, so yeah, I got it.

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RE: Decollared? - 1/11/2006 9:42:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		Erin.. the song was perfect.

As to everyone else.. i have no clue what to say as i'm abit confused with things!

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RE: Decollared? - 1/11/2006 10:00:53 PM   
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Somebody's gotta rise up from the sub ranks and let the DOMs HAVE IT, else they take us for granted. Maybe you could be our Che Guevara figure, the one who will stand up to help improve the lot of submissive living conditions everywhere.




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RE: Decollared? - 1/11/2006 11:50:54 PM   
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Sooooo what does it specifically mean when you're decollared?


Decollared to me equates to get out out out! of my life.

But then that's just me.

D (owner of j)

_took out a redundant quote/glitch by the software_ everything I said remains the same.

< Message edited by Wolfie648 -- 1/11/2006 11:52:28 PM >

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RE: Decollared? - 1/12/2006 2:36:38 AM   
fwnick


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Status: offline 		If your dom didn't say why, you can ask him why. If you care to.

once again communication 1st.

I do believe he should have explained it better to you

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RE: Decollared? - 1/12/2006 9:20:21 AM   
fyreredsub


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Status: offline 		riot,
i'll let you borrow my strap-on and flogger as i'm not needing them these days.
write me on the other side girl.
basically Master has changed the foundation and dynamics of the relationship on you.
you are hurt ,no doubt, b/c you are used to his control....so beat his ass,for seems he made you free to do so.
you don't have to be alone

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RE: Decollared? - 1/12/2006 9:36:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: cloudboy

Somebody's gotta rise up from the sub ranks and let the DOMs HAVE IT, else they take us for granted. Maybe you could be our Che Guevara figure, the one who will stand up to help improve the lot of submissive living conditions everywhere.



Hmmmm...
janey already let me have it. That's why she wears my collar now. I certainly don't take her for granted, good slaves are terribly hard to find, and she's looking for a beta slave to do the housework and/or yardwork and that's a plus. Since I'm letting her hunt for a third so her slave living conditions will improve I don't think she needs to go Che Guevera on me.

That, and she understands exactly what happened to Che and why, and she certainly doesn't want to repeat his errors...

*evil sadistic grin*

YIK,
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RE: Decollared? - 1/12/2006 4:20:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RiotGirl

Any suggestions wise collarme ppl on where to go and what to do now?




Perhaps a new mantra?

"I don't have to be immersed in drama to confirm that I'm alive."


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RE: Decollared? - 1/12/2006 5:55:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

We're working with half the story here. Just a little reminder to everyone.

I think that estimating this at "half" of a complete or even sensical story is generous.
Im trying to come up with something to say other than "WTF?" but I cant.
Is it me?

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RE: Decollared? - 1/12/2006 9:04:24 PM   
Sirandlittle1


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Status: offline 		riot girl, you presumably offered your submission to this Dominant.
Therefor i really dont understand why you believe that you can dicatate terms to him, when collared?

If i were to behave in a manner that was unsubmissive, consistantly to my Sir, and was de-collared, with the proviso, if you wish to continue, pick it up, but pick it up as my submissive?

That sounds like to me: "youve been a complete brat, i do not wish to dominate a brat, that was not our agreement, therefor, if you put that collar back on, you must submit and stop being a brat"
A very very generous offer, i must say.

Its so hard to find a dominant that will do exactly as you tell them isnt it.
little1

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RE: Decollared? - 1/12/2006 9:07:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		be careful what you post on these boards RiotGirl...they love to label people as whiners

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RE: Decollared? - 1/12/2006 9:14:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: michaelGA

be careful what you post on these boards RiotGirl...they love to label people as whiners


Now dammit Michael, all because you did all that whinning, doesn't mean we label every one as a whinner. At leat RiotGirl takes the responses and mulls them over. And not just disreguard them as figuring someones picking on her.

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RE: Decollared? - 1/12/2006 11:23:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: michaelGA
be careful what you post on these boards RiotGirl...they love to label people as whiners


It's whining because it makes no sense. RiotGirl hasn't even attempted to make a comprehensible post or to try and present a coherent narrative of what actually happened. I just read her first post again and I still can't make sense of what she's saying other than that she was decollared. She barely seems to care and wants to give the finger to somebody; or she might care a lot and is deeply hurt - I can't tell. I am particularly unclear as to the stuff going on as regards her dominant. It's all topsy-turvy apparently.

Either way it just sounds like she needs a good thrashing. Fuck, decollared sounds generous to me. Riotgirl needs to be shown the door. Life is too short for bullshit from a submissive with a lot of attitude.

The finger...really...?!!!

Don't let the door hit you on the way out, 'kay Precious?


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RE: Decollared? - 1/13/2006 5:52:53 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Chaingang

Either way it just sounds like she needs a good thrashing. Fuck, decollared sounds generous to me. Riotgirl needs to be shown the door. Life is too short for bullshit from a submissive with a lot of attitude.

The finger...really...?!!!

Don't let the door hit you on the way out, 'kay Precious?


Couldn't have said it better myself.

Quit the bitching and get over it!

Geeez, I never heard such baby-bullshit before. Waaa waaa waaa, I was 'decollared'. Get a grip. Put the collar on or get the hell out. Don't just sit there and twiddle yourself.

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RE: Decollared? - 1/13/2006 5:59:17 AM   
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Don't let the door hit you on the way out, 'kay Precious?


Yep.
Once you make the decision to submit, that's what you should do.
If you have an internal struggle about it then something isn't right.
I know there are always areas of disagreements and bumps in the road. And no one ever promises a "rose garden" (and geez, how boring and unfulfilling would that be?)
Ultimately you either want to submit or you don't.

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