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RE: Decollared? - 1/13/2006 1:34:14 PM   
miticantenslaved


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The question is not whether men are like buses, the question is which bus do you want to ride and where does it take you. I also don't like the way you ignore taxis, walking on foot, bicyclists, trams, cable cars, trolleys, and trains. All in all, I can't believe you dropped this stupid cliche behind your rather original "delousing" comment. To borrow a little from Caitlyn, I have to mark your post down from an "A" to a "C+."


quote:

I'am taking the BOAT!!!! This thread seems rather dysfunctional to my tastes


okay, okay....mea culpa...pardonnez-moi and all that. mitis humour is generally quite dysfunctional, so i shall make amends...

"The Frequency of that One Man Occuring in Your Life is approximately that of a Rastafarian Dwarf Wearing a Pink Tutu While Riding an Indian Elephant Down San Fernando Boulevard... it may never happen in a lifetime...but if the Irie Dwarf Crossdressing Circus is in town, it might happen many times in a day!"

pfffft

substituted my own b/s because i doubt Pratchett could have done better, in this case

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RE: Decollared? - 1/13/2006 1:41:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: caitlyn

Thanks for the response Noah. As always you are a good read.

It doesn't matter that you didn't get the original post, because you managed to stop short of trashing someone that probably doesn't need trashed right now.

I don't know RiotGirl's story ... but know enough to know that the sorts of things said to her starting with post #33, are not things that will help her. I would like to tell you how I know, but would never be so foolish as show myself here.

Truth be told, my only reason for these later posts was a thought that RiotGirl had probably taken enough. I was drawing the "blood in the water people", my way. That seems to have worked reasonably well.


She's my friend. Sometimes she's a dramatic mess and sometimes I am a depressed and even a dramatic mess. Check some of my posts from June 2005 for proof. Anyway, we talk and try to help each other and I'm grateful for her friendship. I get on her case sometimes, but I try to keep it positive. So there.

Bob

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RE: Decollared? - 1/13/2006 1:44:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: caitlyn

Thanks for the response Noah. As always you are a good read.

It doesn't matter that you didn't get the original post, because you managed to stop short of trashing someone that probably doesn't need trashed right now.

I don't know RiotGirl's story ... but know enough to know that the sorts of things said to her starting with post #33, are not things that will help her. I would like to tell you how I know, but would never be so foolish as show myself here.

Truth be told, my only reason for these later posts was a thought that RiotGirl had probably taken enough. I was drawing the "blood in the water people", my way. That seems to have worked reasonably well.


Well, post number 33 was mine, so it is only fitting that I respond.
I sincerely apologize if my airing of my impression regarding riotgirl's story started a wave of negativity.
I think I will take the advice regarding sitting on ideas for a bit before I put them outside my head.

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RE: Decollared? - 1/13/2006 1:55:30 PM   
RiotGirl


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Status: offline 		Thanks Caitlin.

i actually didnt get into any of the reasons WHY, because they've already been discussed on the boards and i didnt really want to hash any unpleasant subjects. i posted as for one, what Caitlyn said, for too, to find a direction in which to go, for 3 because i was confused.. and for 4, because i wanted to let those that have responded to me in the past to see that i am TRYING to head in the right direction. That all their advice hasnt gone unheeded. i'm working my way towards better! Advice never goes unheeded with me, as i always think it over and eventually decided where to go with it. It usually takes me awhile.

i really dont want to get into the whys. Though i have no problem putting myself out here, as worst case scenario i can just never come back. As for the BS detector. i've got real live pics, a cam, and ppl i know from this site live. That actually know me, that i've been to their house and what not, that have been to my house, ppl i have known for ages (offline). And honestly, i have ALWAYS GOTTEN that from ppl, why? Because my life seems to be extremely filled. It bugs me, yet at the same time amuses me. i have always been one to be a pack rat, so i have my own odd paper trail. LOL! This is my life. i know it seems like i'm one for drama, but i'm not really. Yeah i have alot of crap going on, but in MY life, i keep it ALL behind close doors. Probably part of the reason why i come here. Because if things get too dramatic, i can walk away and i do. Usually tho, i am not the one getting all dramatic, i am the one STATING how things are, it is the ppl here who start to have cows about it! This is a D/s forum, many of my questions and wonderings pertain to my D/s relationship as i am learning about it, my responses to it, whats expected and so on. This is my First Master. i am pretty much new to all of this, when it comes to real life. So i tend to encounter alot of hurdles. i come here. Figuring that with eveyone here and their years of experience can give me a new perspective on something i've already analyzed a million times.

As for why i was decollared. Well, basically because alot of things have gone wrong. the relationship should be what it is and i am tired of trying to fix it. After a year or so of struggling, i'm done. Just plan TIRED. I'm sick of the BS that surrounds me. Sick of sucking it up and trying to move forward. Sick of the ups and downs. i just want one permanet up.

So i am more in what you would call a "role refusal" until things either shape up or end. Why? God for so MANY reasons. You know i was just on a cruise to the carribean over the holidays with 17 of my family members and something unpleasant happened regarding my man. My sister "checked" him out to see what kind of person he was and he failed. Big suprise. So anyways, they suggested i draw lines. Which is why i placed those lines down. Lines like "if there is ever a question again, about you sneaking around behind my back with other girls" i'm GONE. Lines along those lines. Normal lines, that people shouldnt have to draw. That i am drawing. Little things to either put this relationship out of business or shapes it up.

And no it wasnt a rant. Didnt have very much "feelings" as i wrote it. Just sort of an off the wall thinking on my part. Because thats how i write, excatly how i think.

Noah, you make a good point. We, especially i, dont talk like this to people offline. But that i have always figured was because i was too reserved. i am not confortable asking others these questions as i am not comfortable sharing my life with ppl.

And, no this isnt a rant, no its not ladden with emotions. This is more of just a stated. Simply because there seems to be so much confusion in here. Which there always seems to be when i post something. Personally i havent really wanted to respond, because i dont want to get into all the negative stuff and secondly because it HAS gotten abit dramatic and i prefer not to participate in drama.

WOULDNT it be nice, if i could calmly ask my questions, or state my statements with it being answered matter of factly? With out it being judged? With out me being judged? Just some one calm enough to answer back with out throwing a fit because things seem abnormal, or out to lunch, or whatever? It would.... LOL but i have never expected.

Which is WHY i dont talk about my life with other ppl, face to face, as ppl cant handle it. And GAWD to have people hopping up and down all upset and dramatic in my face..... oh hell no.

< Message edited by RiotGirl -- 1/13/2006 2:24:56 PM >

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RE: Decollared? - 1/13/2006 2:09:36 PM   
RiotGirl


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Status: offline 		Okay, i was just notified that i do tend to be dramatic. Maybe i do and dont see it, and maybe others take me wrong especially on here as its all just written word and others have to read the feelings behind the lines. So anyways, my intentions arent to be dramatic and i will admit sometimes i DO feel like the sky is falling, but generally its not my intentions. like i said earlier, i write what i think. i'll work on the dramatic part = )

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RE: Decollared? - 1/13/2006 2:11:23 PM   
KatyLied


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quote:

I think I will take the advice regarding sitting on ideas for a bit before I put them outside my head.


But it's more fun (sometimes) to be reactive (okay, it's not fun; it's dysfunctional, dammit!)
I could use some brownies.
And champagne.


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RE: Decollared? - 1/13/2006 2:23:16 PM   
RiotGirl


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Status: offline 		But it's more fun (sometimes) to be reactive (okay, it's not fun; it's dysfunctional, dammit!)
I could use some brownies.
And champagne.

heh, cant help it. But did you know that its dysfunctional to eat because of how you're feeling? Drinking is worse!

Oh and just on a note to defend myself. My dramatic little emotional train wreck self = ) We all have our faults!!!!!! And as i do know that i can be a very emotional person.. i never thought of myself as "dramatic" i suppose i should look into that and see how to work it out. BUT back to the defending :P (the colon and p is a tongue sticking out....) We all have our faults, NO one here is perfect, one one here is exempt. Its human nature. We all have DIFFERENT faults and maybe some similiar, and you know what? None are better or worse then another. Go on, ask me why. Because the level of a fault is all dependent on perspective. What maybe be a major fault for you.. might not be for another person and so on.

So i'm not perfect = ( Gee, which i thought was already completely apparent! :p

(and this post was written in with an amused tone.. as i found my self hilarious = )

(SO, i'm not upset, havent taken offense, no negativity has gotten to me.. not bothered at all. More matter of factly, honest as i am, and amused all at the same time) So ok? :o

So uh, be well, live merrily, the sky hasnt fallen (i know i've checked a million times.. i'll let ya know if it does) And relax! i'm doing pretty well as i've had more days to think... tho i'm still really confused and unsure of where to go next. i'll just keep thinking i suppose (as if i could help not!) :p

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RE: Decollared? - 1/13/2006 3:07:12 PM   
justheather


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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I could use some brownies.
And champagne.



mmmmmm alcohol and chocolate....

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RE: Decollared? - 1/13/2006 5:04:58 PM   
cloudboy


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ORIGINAL: miticantenslaved

quote:

The question is not whether men are like buses, the question is which bus do you want to ride and where does it take you. I also don't like the way you ignore taxis, walking on foot, bicyclists, trams, cable cars, trolleys, and trains. All in all, I can't believe you dropped this stupid cliche behind your rather original "delousing" comment. To borrow a little from Caitlyn, I have to mark your post down from an "A" to a "C+."


quote:

I'am taking the BOAT!!!! This thread seems rather dysfunctional to my tastes


okay, okay....mea culpa...pardonnez-moi and all that. mitis humour is generally quite dysfunctional, so i shall make amends...

"The Frequency of that One Man Occuring in Your Life is approximately that of a Rastafarian Dwarf Wearing a Pink Tutu While Riding an Indian Elephant Down San Fernando Boulevard... it may never happen in a lifetime...but if the Irie Dwarf Crossdressing Circus is in town, it might happen many times in a day!"

pfffft

substituted my own b/s because i doubt Pratchett could have done better, in this case

~miti




Its all becoming jest, I think. (At the end of this thread.)

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RE: Decollared? - 1/13/2006 5:38:06 PM   
krys


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RE: Decollared? - 1/13/2006 7:22:03 PM   
RiotGirl


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Status: offline 		heh, i have one.. a journal. SEVERAL infact :p i've a livejournal thingy and a notebook and well just plain old microsoft word where i write things out.

But unfortuently for me, my journals dont give any feedback. They dont specifically give me other perspectives or thoughts or ideas. Yes it always helps writing things out.. but it doesnt talk back. Which is usually good, but when i have questions.. it doesnt help one whit.

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RE: Decollared? - 1/13/2006 7:28:31 PM   
IrishMist


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Status: offline 		Well, if a cyber hug would help right now.......(RIOTGIRL)......though I doubt it will

You feel like unloading....drop me a line....unload...I can take it....

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RE: Decollared? - 1/13/2006 9:07:25 PM   
miticantenslaved


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Well, if a cyber hug would help right now.......(RIOTGIRL)......though I doubt it will


gives A/all a giant miti cyber hug....sometimes, those are the best, yanno...

Getting an education was a bit like a communicable sexual disease. It made you unsuitable for a lot of jobs and then you had the urge to pass it on. [Hogfather]

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RE: Decollared? - 1/15/2006 7:56:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		Riot my issue with you was never that you are dramatic. My sister is dramatic. She was born to it and makes it work for her. Dramatic people make the world exciting.

My issue is that, about every 3 months or so, you come online and post awful horrible stuff going on in your life to get advice for it...and then three days later act like everythings great, move on with it and you can do it on your own and don't need anyone but yourself kind of thing.

And then repeat yourself in 3 months.

It's the repeated smacking your head into a brick wall that gets to me. And then you get upset when someone points it out and tell them that theya re just being paranoid and obsessive and all sorts of other things.

If you see someone bloodying themselves on a wall outside your front door, I know I'm at least the type of person who will try and help them to stop. But they can't do that until they see what they are doing for themselves.

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RE: Decollared? - 1/15/2006 8:21:40 PM   
Misstoyou


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