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RE: The courtesy of a "no thanks" - 2/1/2009 7:09:25 PM

SnowRanger

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Hello A/all,

I have one observation that may be helpful (or not). Several years ago I was on a phone system similar to CM. One expreience was very disturbing to me. I was contacted by a lady and exchanged phone numbers with her. We had numerous conversations; over time, we shared some very personal information about ourselves. Once we did meet, I found the situation to be very awkward. Here was a person who knew so much about me and she was a stranger!

This internet thing-a-ma-bob lends it's self to a similar situation. There is a tendency to share things that one would never mention at a first meeting with a new prospect. This CM forum further tends to make people assume that normal protocols are loosened

Hey! Why else would a man send a prospective Mistress a "rooster photo?"

We would all do well to remember that CM is a place where people of complimentary interests can more easily find one another. From that point on, all of the normal rules of manners apply.

Respectfully,
Mike
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RE: The courtesy of a "no thanks" - 2/1/2009 9:53:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass
Here's an interesting twist...
Got a message from him today. He's been busy with work. Does that change anything?

For myself, it does not, but I'm only saying this, because I've been there and done that. It sounds to me, like he is ready for another top/bottom fix, and remarkably soon compared to others. Do you want to do it, and don't care whether he calls again or not, until next hankerin'? Only you can decide whether that will be okay with you or not. M

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RE: The courtesy of a "no thanks" - 2/2/2009 3:05:26 AM

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Im so glad that I found CM. I found it 7 years ago left and came back 2 years ago. And in the 2 years that I have been back Ive learned so much and I can actually say that I have learned more about Me than I ever knew about Myself before.
We, as Dominants must never forget that we are Human before anything else... We laugh, We cry, and We feel. Who wrote the book stating that We must always be tough and never let our emotions get involved?
I have learned this about Myself.. Yes, Im emotional but I have to control My emotions and not let them control Me.
Control is such a powerful thing for a Domme to possess. She has to be in control of Herself and of others.
Like the saying goes..s*** happens...lol So hang in there DominaSmartass.
Also keep this in mind.... Make sure your future sub/slave knows what is meant by "She is first and formost". If he has alot on his plate(ie working) just let him know what you expect of him. And if he can handle it all then everything should work itself out.
Good luck and Be Blessed
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RE: The courtesy of a "no thanks" - 2/2/2009 12:16:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FullfigRIMAAM1

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ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass
Here's an interesting twist...
Got a message from him today. He's been busy with work. Does that change anything?

For myself, it does not, but I'm only saying this, because I've been there and done that. It sounds to me, like he is ready for another top/bottom fix, and remarkably soon compared to others. Do you want to do it, and don't care whether he calls again or not, until next hankerin'? Only you can decide whether that will be okay with you or not. M

< shrug > Unless it amuses you to give him another whirl and you go in acknowledging that it's almost certainly going to be the same issue over again, I'd say to pass. I mean, really, who is soooooo busy that they can't take 2 minutes to say, "Thank you, blah, blah, blah". I think it's a load of silliness for him to blame his absence on work. There are others out there. :>
Best wishes,
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