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RE: Dilemma... - 2/3/2009 2:50:24 PM

LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: Carnae7

I'm really wanting some suggestions here.

There's a woman I know who says she's collared and sooo happy to have found the 'right man for her'. The thing is... I just got a letter from her guy saying that he wants to play with me, and he doesn't seem to consider himself as 'spoken for'. I'm really struggling with this!!! I have absolutely NO intention of playing with this guy for various personal reasons, the first of which, he just does not turn me on in the least!!

And I've thought about writing to her and asking if she knows about this and is okay with it, because if that were me, I'd like to know about it. Even if she knows he plays with others and is fine with it, I still feel an obligation to tell her.

So my question is... What would you do in this type of scenario? How would you handle it?

Or you could show up at their place, or wherever they are together and make sure they are together, and say something like "Okay Bob, I am ready to play like you wanted! Cindy are you going to stick around and watch? Cuz, yanno, Bob seems to think your cool with it and all."

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RE: Dilemma... - 2/3/2009 3:49:14 PM

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do not say a word i am sure she will find out eventually, i did.

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RE: Dilemma... - 2/3/2009 7:15:44 PM

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I'd not go there in terms of speaking with her unless you consider her to be a close friend.
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RE: Dilemma... - 2/3/2009 10:55:03 PM

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Once again, thank you to E/everyone for all the well intentioned responses. Some fit for me and others do not, but I appreciate that you took the time and effort to share your thoughts with me. ~smiles~

As for this situation... fortunately, it has totally resolved itself and I am completely out of it. I also found out that this couple are just starting to branch out into having an open relationship (just NOT stated on either of their profiles!!! -

) and that there was no reason for my concern after all.

However, the woman was appreciative of my feelings, and thanked me for "watching out for her interests' in this matter.

~smiles~ Boy! You just never know in this lifestyle do you? I'm sure learning a lot!

But thanks again for your words of wisdom in this matter.

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