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RE: The Accidental Collar - 2/3/2009 10:52:41 AM

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ORIGINAL: lovingpet

I am likely a bit odd in this, but there are trinkets of most times and places of any real significance around my home somewhere. In some cases, I have actually been asked why on earth I would keep things from this person or that time in my life because it just seemed to be such a dark time. I explain to them that I am choosing not only what objects, but joy or pain I wish to keep. To date, I have neve kepts something for reasons of remembering pain, even though there may have been ample possibility for those things to take on such a meaning. It is about the joy, the light, and the beauty of having lived such a life as mine.

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What you said above is a very familiar feeling for me. As I look around the rooms that I can view from where I am sitting, I see many objects that have stories, sentimental value for me. It pleases me to see these things; to remember those who shared the times with me during which they were acquired/given and/or simply the point in my history when the piece came to me. I value that. Those memories infuse the item with a greater life, beauty, and dimension than it has in and of itself.
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RE: The Accidental Collar - 2/3/2009 11:17:07 AM

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Any guy who foolishly gives away round things with holes in them...deserves what they get.

Very well said Michael.

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RE: The Accidental Collar - 2/3/2009 12:22:33 PM

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At our first meet, he gave me a little macrame anklet. I wore it everyday until finally the rope fibers broke. I was devastated. I still have it in a drawer somewhere.He got me a replacement which just wasn't the same. Since then he made me a leather play collar. And then bought me a handmade silver necklace which is my usual collar.

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RE: The Accidental Collar - 2/3/2009 3:02:01 PM

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Sentimental value , yep. Accidental collaring ......no. Bit too soppy for me.

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RE: The Accidental Collar - 2/4/2009 10:16:03 AM

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This isn't quite the same thing, but I've been collared by surprise before.

I know it sounds really dumb, but he just said he bought me a gift and told me to close my eyes. When I opened them, I had a collar padlocked on me. :/ He gave me the key later in the day, so it's not like it was completely involuntary, it was just an odd surprise I guess.

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RE: The Accidental Collar - 2/4/2009 11:52:59 AM

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I did sort of the same thing with a bungee chord and a blonde moment... Talk about breath play, self bondage, and humiliation. My M was laughing so hard he had trouble getting me untangled and unstrangled. And of course it happened in public at Dom Depot.

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RE: The Accidental Collar - 2/4/2009 12:59:26 PM

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On my last birthday my Dom gave me a Garnet and dimond ring. It ment the world to me and well it still does even though i have lost so much weight it no longer fits me and i have to wear it on a chain. To him it was pretty and he thought i would like it nothing more nothing less He had also picked it up at a thirft store and didnt know it was real stones. He also didnt know that it was my childs birth stone. He has since bought me a new ring with just a Garnet in it that i wear on my left hand ring finger. He was worried that i was thinking of it as a "collar" and i told him no it means to me that i am taken and less guys flirt with me when i am out alone. My collar he made for me i also wear almost daily depending on where we are. Our kids know about the collar but we try and keep his parents from knowing about it since it is ment more for play than every day only becuase of the spikes.

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RE: The Accidental Collar - 2/8/2009 1:47:53 AM

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i lost count of how many times i've had a post ready in my mind just to read it in your posts.makes me smile that at least one other person understands . everything He's given me is still His, a reminder of being owned.

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every necklace He allows this slave to wear is a symbol of His(it isn't "my") "collar"...
every bracelet/anklet is symbolic of wearing "cuffs".

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RE: The Accidental Collar - 2/8/2009 3:54:41 PM

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my ex had a necklace he would put on me whenever we were going to spend any time apart. i wouldn't take it off the entire time he was gone. sometimes he'd even put it on me when he was just going to work.
the last few times i've been over his house since we broke up i've seen it sitting in the same spot in the bathroom, untouched. he doesn't even wear it anymore.

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RE: The Accidental Collar - 2/8/2009 4:03:08 PM

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hee hee...Did you have an audience too?

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I did sort of the same thing with a bungee chord and a blonde moment... Talk about breath play, self bondage, and humiliation. My M was laughing so hard he had trouble getting me untangled and unstrangled. And of course it happened in public at Dom Depot.

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RE: The Accidental Collar - 2/8/2009 4:04:54 PM

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Your mother is a brilliant woman. And having them converted seems very appropriate. You are doing your own make-over show!

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida
It came to pass that less than a year later I would leave him. After moving out, I told my mom I needed to get rid of those emeralds. She said "Oh honey, but you love them so much!" but I said I couldn't possibly wear a gift he bought me. Then she came out with brilliant logic. You see, my ex only held a job for about half of our marriage. Mom said, "He didn't buy them - YOU bought them. It was YOUR money that paid for them. He just went and picked them up for you since you were too busy working to actually go get them." Ha!

I still don't wear them but I'm going to either trade them in or have them converted.

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RE: The Accidental Collar - 2/9/2009 7:45:15 AM

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Yes, it's happened to me.

An ex gave me a ring. He's no longer around, but I hold onto it, even though it's too big for me. I keep it in a small wooden box with my other tiny treasures; a bit of wax, a thimble, a bottle cap, a few bits of meaningful thread, some small stones, three rings, and a pentacle, among other small things that are mine alone.

All my tiny treasures have taken on a life of their own, so to speak. As such, if I left them, or the box, out in the open, my life would be stuck. I would dwell on those memories, the pleasures and pains of them, so I keep them, tucked away in a private place, in an unassuming little box and take them out only when I want or feel I need to remember. Sure, I can remember the items and the events and people I associate with them, but I don't relive those times without those trinkets.

I had a dom learn of my little box and he wanted to know about my treasures. I told him I was uncomfortable sharing them and he understood. He gave his word that he would not touch the box or its contents, so long as I explained the items and why I keep them. This was edging my comfort level, but I agreed. When we got to the ring, a sterling silver claddagh, his face took on an uncomfortably stern gaze. He knew it was from an ex that I had cared very deeply for and in many ways, still did. He wanted me to get rid of it, but I told him that was not going to happen as that ring was all I had left of my previous love. It was agreed that I was not to ever wear the ring (which I didn't since it didn't fit), but he was never comfortable with me keeping it around.

Unfortunately, it was never properly accepted or resolved in that relationship. And he didn't seem to ever understand why I kept my treasures.

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