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A silly question probably... - 2/3/2009 12:35:48 PM

rednicky

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Would it be weird to ask to explore your Dom's body for 1 night? I've never really had a good look a guys body. I've always wanted to mush around a guys' balls and mess with his dick without him actually expecting me to suck it. I want to see what makes a guy's body tick. But this means I'd be playing a Dominant role, asking him to turn around or spread his legs or be still while rub his lower belly. I've always wanted to nibble on a guys' inner thigh. It just seems so out of character though. A sub telling a Dom what to do. A Dom allowing a sub to press his buttons, stare him up and down, and expose him at his weakest. Doms might not be willing to submit to my probing for one night anyway. I just don't want to look silly for asking for such a thing. Should I just forget about it?

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RE: A silly question probably... - 2/3/2009 12:39:59 PM

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Everyone is different but for me personaly exploration is kind of enjoyed. I dont mind moving around so parts can be played with however if you actually want sex out of it then probably the Dom part would take over and you would get a pretty rough drilling. Sexually switching rolls would be way to weird for me...lol.

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RE: A silly question probably... - 2/3/2009 12:41:03 PM

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Hell no. Just expect that at some point he will want sex as a result. I can't think of anything better than for you to tell him that you've never dared ask this of someone else, but you really trust him enough to ask for this favor.

If you want it to be without him getting turned on, then ask him after he's been satisfied. You might get an hour then.

You could include it in a full body massage if that seems more subly to you. But being open and honest is always a good thing.

Activities are not inherently dominant or submissive, they are just activities. It's how you both feel about it that makes it dominant or submissive.

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RE: A silly question probably... - 2/3/2009 12:43:38 PM

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This question isn't silly. I had previous girls explore me on the first night. I see it like this...and I know many may disagree, but a girl needs to know all of her dominant, this includes physical. How is the sub/slave to know if there is a special spot that her dom likes to be touched? I for one hate telling a girl repeatedly to touch a certain spot, as I feel she should just do it.

You wouldn't necessarily be playing the dom role if you communicate with him...communication is the essence of making any relationship work. Thus, if you ASK him to turn over or around, there is no harm in that.

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RE: A silly question probably... - 2/3/2009 12:43:51 PM

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Ohhh I so totally have always wanted to be able to do this rednicky. Sorry no advice because ive never had the guts to ask, I hope you manage to.

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RE: A silly question probably... - 2/3/2009 12:47:15 PM

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My husband occasionally asks for sensation play and that includes alot of exploring, light touches, tracing his body with my tounge - it's a wonderful thing and I feel very honored to be able to do that with him.

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RE: A silly question probably... - 2/3/2009 12:58:42 PM

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What you describe is pretty much a given in my relationship.

I describe it as body worship and he loves it but I never tell him what to do. It's just part of the art of seduction..something so many seem to not remember how to do anymore.

Exploring each other, mentally, physically and spiritually is the only way to really get to know someone.

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RE: A silly question probably... - 2/3/2009 1:16:15 PM

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Yes asking a dom for you to give him lots of direct physical attention- what dom wants that?

Nicky it sounds like you've created a lot of IDEAS of what submission and domination is about and aren't allowing enough room for reality and individuality.

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RE: A silly question probably... - 2/3/2009 1:20:37 PM

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I would have no problem allowing this, with one caveat:

If I got super turned on ... you will get ravished at some point.

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RE: A silly question probably... - 2/3/2009 1:30:56 PM

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not a silly question at all, and exploring doesn't mean you have a dominant position. as some people have mentioned, touching many buttons may end up in turning on something you may straddle...i mean...struggle to turn off

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RE: A silly question probably... - 2/3/2009 1:48:15 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: rednicky

Would it be weird to ask to explore your Dom's body for 1 night? I've never really had a good look a guys body. I've always wanted to mush around a guys' balls and mess with his dick without him actually expecting me to suck it. I want to see what makes a guy's body tick. But this means I'd be playing a Dominant role, asking him to turn around or spread his legs or be still while rub his lower belly. I've always wanted to nibble on a guys' inner thigh. It just seems so out of character though. A sub telling a Dom what to do. A Dom allowing a sub to press his buttons, stare him up and down, and expose him at his weakest. Doms might not be willing to submit to my probing for one night anyway. I just don't want to look silly for asking for such a thing. Should I just forget about it?

I regularly get to just *play with* or explore M's body. He doesn't mind in the least, for pretty much the same reasons you mentioned.

It's a nice gesture to just let me have time when I can look, stare, fiddle, touch, probe, sniff etc. It doesn't lead to anything as it's *my* time and the whole point is I can relax and be completely free without having the thought that it might do. In fact he is at pains to point out that there's no pressure to *do anything* or perform in any way.

I don't know about other guys, but M certainly isn't at his weakest when he's laying back, starkers.......he's still the bloke in charge...lol......I'm not in a dominant role and he's not in a submissive one; I've been given time to play and I only have it because he offers it.

I really love these times.

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RE: A silly question probably... - 2/3/2009 3:45:45 PM

kallisto

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I certainly don't see it as being dominant. I see it as doing just as everyone else has said "playing or exploring" his body. It's all part of that "closeness" that I get with him. I agree with littlewonder ... it's all part of the art of seduction. If it leads to something else, I'm not going to complain.

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RE: A silly question probably... - 2/3/2009 5:51:36 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: rednicky
Would it be weird to ask to explore your Dom's body for 1 night? I've never really had a good look a guys body. I've always wanted to mush around a guys' balls and mess with his dick without him actually expecting me to suck it. I want to see what makes a guy's body tick. But this means I'd be playing a Dominant role, asking him to turn around or spread his legs or be still while rub his lower belly.

No it doesn't. Not necessarily at all. I explore Master's body quite thoroughly in all areas but I never "dominate" him. First of all, I don't "tell" Him what to do or "order" Him to do anything. He allows me to do what I do and enjoys every minute of it. If I ever do something He doesn't like (hasn't happened yet

), I'm sure He'll speak up and tell me so and tell me to knock it off

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It just seems so out of character though.

Not for me, it doesn't.

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A sub telling a Dom what to do. A Dom allowing a sub to press his buttons, stare him up and down, and expose him at his weakest. Doms might not be willing to submit to my probing for one night anyway.

Again, I'm not "telling" Him what to do or "exposing" any "weakness." I'm simply pleasing Him. In no way is He then "submitting" to me. All He submits to is the pleasure such service brings Him

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RE: A silly question probably... - 2/3/2009 6:06:54 PM

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There are no silly questions, just silly answers. :p

I don't see anything wrong with your request. It's rather sweet. There's nothing at all wrong with exploration

He should be flattered that you want to explore his body and for you to dedicate some private time to nothing but feeling, caressing and knowing his body. If he does feel that there's something wrong with it, if he views your special request as you trying to undermine his role in your relationship then that says more about him than it does about you.

Only a Dom with self esteem issues would take this as a threat to his dominance.

Personally I would welcome it.

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RE: A silly question probably... - 2/3/2009 6:39:07 PM

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From what I know of Doms, any opportunity that they can lay back and let the submissive bring them to arousal is hmm I think what they look for.

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RE: A silly question probably... - 2/3/2009 6:48:37 PM

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After my whole body was investigated, I was told to investigate him.I have been asked on several occasions if I would like to do so...I always respond yes.I have never considered it a dominant request.It is your desire to "play" with his body to find out how it works. Simply ask.When would a desire ever be dominant?

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RE: A silly question probably... - 2/3/2009 7:01:19 PM

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i dont think it is a silly question...
u should present it to ur Dom properly and make ur reasoning known

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RE: A silly question probably... - 2/3/2009 7:08:45 PM

Nikitaa

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You are a freak. What man would enjoy that?

lol... is joke. ...^

I think your dom might enjoy. Ask him

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RE: A silly question probably... - 2/3/2009 7:31:50 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: rednicky

Would it be weird to ask to explore your Dom's body for 1 night? I've never really had a good look a guys body. I've always wanted to mush around a guys' balls and mess with his dick without him actually expecting me to suck it. I want to see what makes a guy's body tick.

I don't think it weird and maybe it just might alittle hot.

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But this means I'd be playing a Dominant role,

no.. I don't think it means this at all. It might be in some situations ...but to me it's about who actually has the authority. I could allow my girls to do all these things and that wouldn't mean they have any authority since I could stop it at any moment. It also will be far from exposing me in weakness and it is not submitting to me. My girls give me massages all the time... and they ask if I could turn over... sometimes I do and sometimes.... no rub my ass some more *G*

Topping and Bottoming doesn't reflect being Dominant or Submissive even though they often go together and what you seem to be describing is a Top/Bottom scene where you happen to be submissive in the relationship he the Dominant.

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RE: A silly question probably... - 2/3/2009 7:39:35 PM

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Sir enjoys it a great deal when I explore/play with/ investigate his body. There is a lot of overlap with body worship in that. I don't know that you have to 'tell' him to roll over, turn, lift etc. I think that type of interaction brings a great deal of connection and if he's paying the slightest bit of attention, he will most likely know where you are headed and happily accommodate. I imagine that most D types would be flattered and enjoy the interaction a great deal. Good luck.

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