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UPSG -> RE: When you're a feminist in this lifestyle...(a rant more than anything) (2/4/2009 6:48:43 PM)
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ORIGINAL: rednicky
I've never even spoken to you before missturbation yet you still laughed at my serious post. What did I do to you to deserve such treatment?
I'm not over sensitive. The people here are just insensitive. I don't see why it's allowed in the first place. You can't act that way because it's rude. Or, at least, you shouldn't.
Red, I don't wish you ill will, I really don't. I can gather you may not be particularly inclined toward me or what I may have to say. That is fine, I'll survive, it can't be anymore abrasive or uncomfortable than working on predominately Caucasian , largely union worked construction sites with more than a few of the Caucasian guys being racist (you maybe unaware like many people of the long history of racism among unionized Democrats). I'll tell you this, it's not the most comfortable environment.
I believe your intent was well. However, I think you may have been counting on White members - especially female - to sympathize more with your point of view than what you got. Though most White people will tend to keep quite in face to face public settings, when comments like yours are made, I can tell you that many or most do not and will not appreciate your comments about wishing to enslave them. You might also want to consider some of the women on here ID as dominant women which essentially implies Alpha females. Not all of them may really be Alphas but the odds are some of the dominant women are.
White-American culture and Black-American culture are worlds apart in some ways. They have very different histories. Well, ok, not entirely considering the Irish-American and Italian-American story, but they are relatively new "Whites" to U.S. society (after Blacks Italians were the second most lynched group in the U.S. South). You can expect to see Lebanese-Americans and maybe mixed-race Hapas eventually adopted into the "White" category sometime in the future as well. It's always helpful to swell the ranks (doubtful that will ever occur for Mulattos though given U.S. cultures binary view when it comes to Black and White, but hey! We have a "Black" President today so who knows [shrugs]). Within Black-American society the "feeling" approach to understanding and knowledge is far more pronouced than it is in White-America. So, when you communicate with White-Americans in the future it will be helpful to know this.
I do think being short, slender, with a child-like voice is a large disadvantage for you. This may never change. I know we are told we can be whatever we want and obtain whatever we want in life but actually this is not true. You will have to come to accept you physical build to some lesser or greater degree and much of what will come with that. It's the cross to be carried in your life. You probably make some physical improvements on your body but short of growth hormones you won't get taller. And I would not advise using those. Anabolic steroids for a short time under doctor supervision might help deepen your voice - and if only on it for a short period the negative side effects may be very small (e.g. body hair).
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ORIGINAL: Missokyst
You have a lot of bitter in there baby.
I am hispanic. Which translates to American Natives who were copulating with Spaniards in order to further the Catholic ideology. My people travelled in the area between Santa Barbara and a region of Mexico in the Baja area. When Spain owned California people who populated there were Mexicans. When the current govenment took over we became US citizens, but.. we were always Mexicans in their eyes.
I am tan. I am educated. I am middle class. I work, I have a business, and I am a short woman who still looks young. Growing up, I was not allowed to take secretarial classes because.. I was told I wouldn't be hired. I got an art scholarship when I was a kid.. but growing up my art was often put aside before it even got to contests, lost until competitions were over. I grew up in a white world with white friends.. who so kindly told me I was not "like those other wetbacks"
Excuse me? I was born here. My people were born here. And.. I can't swim.
LOL
Ok.. I am over 50 now. That was life back then. I learned to adapt. I accepted no favors. I succeeded without aid. If I didn't have those barriers growing up I would not be the person I am now. I would not have had to work harder. I would not have had to learn to adapt and find other paths open to me.
You are young. Cherish it while you can. Be young. But bitter? GET Over it!
The Mestizo history in the Americas and within the U.S. are different enough. I think the Black-American experience is more applicable to the Irish in Ireland/Northern Ireland and the indeginous Amerindians of the U.S. The substance abuse, and despair (self-pity to some) are similar in all three. All three view themselves as defeated people - warriors yes - but defeated and humiliated peoples.
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