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RE: when.... - 1/15/2006 2:42:53 PM   
sweetpettjenny


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RE: when.... - 1/15/2006 3:09:53 PM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

you mean you have not gotten in to the "reverse Voodoo micro chip" yet ?

sure you just tell your LD friend to implant it under their skin, when they lie to you, not only are you notified with an email but it automaticlly adds money to your visa check card account.

what a deal....


Here is a prime example. A Visa check card indeed. If it's not going to a Mastercard account.. run far, run fast.

Celeste

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RE: when.... - 1/15/2006 5:25:47 PM   
LaMalinche


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Status: offline 		WORK number?????????

OMG my parents do not even have that! (Why would someone want [or have a need] to call me at work, after all, I AM WORKING.)

On a more serious note, why don't you just ask? What is it that you think they are lying about anyway?

I am picturing a hot and steamy weekend with someone I met online, when my wife, Belinda, walks in the door.

Damn, I think, shouldn't have lied about being single.

I guess that I am saying that there are lies and there are LIES. I will assume that you are refering to the LIES. There is no way to really know without really knowing the person. And then you have to figure out whether they are lying to you or to theirself. Fun times.

Best advice that I can give is to not take anything online too seriously.

Peace out!

LaMalinche

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RE: when.... - 1/16/2006 12:09:01 AM   
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RE: when.... - 1/16/2006 3:20:23 AM   
sweetpettjenny


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Status: offline 		I had Masters work number 3 days after we started talking...ive never called him there , but i have all his numbers. He has all mine as well , including my moms work number... Shruggggg , i guess we are truthful with each other...go figure
quote:

ORIGINAL: LaMalinche

WORK number?????????

OMG my parents do not even have that! (Why would someone want [or have a need] to call me at work, after all, I AM WORKING.)

On a more serious note, why don't you just ask? What is it that you think they are lying about anyway?

I am picturing a hot and steamy weekend with someone I met online, when my wife, Belinda, walks in the door.

Damn, I think, shouldn't have lied about being single.

I guess that I am saying that there are lies and there are LIES. I will assume that you are refering to the LIES. There is no way to really know without really knowing the person. And then you have to figure out whether they are lying to you or to theirself. Fun times.

Best advice that I can give is to not take anything online too seriously.

Peace out!

LaMalinche

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Cum recte vivis, ne cures verba malorum

and

Quidquid latine dictum sit, altum videtur.




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RE: when.... - 1/16/2006 5:46:35 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		There is no absolute certainty. But time is the cure for a million things and this is a pretty fail safe one. Give someone enough time and they will show their colors.

That being said, no one wants to be in a relationship with someone else who is just waiting around paranoid that their true colors are going to come out any moment now.

My advice is that if you are seriously asking this question about someone- go doubly slow and securely. That way you will be very secure when you do make your final choice and the other person will be happy to know they gave you that time.

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RE: when.... - 1/16/2006 3:47:59 PM   
abondanzaisme


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Status: offline 		I have a long distance relationship with my Dom. I have made a conscious choice to trust him based on those things that he has shown me that inspired my trust. Communication, revelation of who he is, what he expects of me and his respect of my person.

There are times when I do not have contact with him by his choice. I choose daily, consciously, to trust him, and I feel very good about it. I think that in my case, much of the distance is placed between us so that my mind can absorb the fact that I CAN trust him, and actually to put it to the test. If I choose to trust any doubt over him, what does that say about him? What does it say about me? And what have we if we have no trust?

I know that he respects me and himself as well. I trust that will be his guiding principle in all of his dealings with me.

abbie
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RE: when.... - 1/17/2006 8:38:08 AM   
MasterRobert1


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Status: offline 		What you are asking is one of the HARDEST of questions, with no easy answer. Online too readily lends itself to hyperbole and misrepresentation. Have you asked for references? Real world references. And,, if you have, check them out! Remember: verify verify verify!

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RE: when.... - 1/22/2006 8:04:23 PM   
MstrTiger


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Status: offline 		You just have to use your own intuition and try to read between the lines, before I meet anyone from online in the flesh I always insist on seeing them on web cam.

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RE: when.... - 1/22/2006 11:37:41 PM   
ayasha


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Status: offline 		Do not send money...........do not send money..................do not send money. If they ask this, run fast.

Do you always call them? Or do they call you so that they can split phone expenses.

Are they coming to meet you? Who is paying for the trip.

Are you going to meet them? Who is paying for the trip.

Do you feel that you give and give and do not get the same back in return?

Can you always reach them? or only when it is convenient for them?

Ask them for references and check them out. Now............this may not alway work as they can give fake references - but still, check them out.

Get their home address and mail something, certified mail, to it. Did you get the sticker back that it was delivered to that address?

Do they live with a male/female roommate, an ex-husband/wife, etc. - using that as an excuse as to why someone else answers their phone?

Did they have a relative/friend/Master/Mistress die a tragic death and they are just getting over it, it financially ruined them, yada yada yada.......

Request a copy of their driver's license. What? they lost it? oh my, what a surprise.

Watch for inconsistencies, watch to see if you are always paying for everything - and if it is too good to be true? It probably is.

Good luck!!!!!

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RE: when.... - 1/23/2006 9:07:54 AM   
Newbie1sub


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Status: offline 		.. thanks a lot for all Your answers so far.....

in the meantime i found out, even in checking numbers etc etc.... fake, liar.....

seems like there a lot here...

ok - its not a personal offend to anyone here - smile -

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RE: when.... - 1/23/2006 11:53:14 AM   
Littlepita


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Status: offline 		I met my Dom online and we were both very careful in the beginning to pick up any clues that we weren't who we said we were. What impressed me the most and eased my mind was how incredibly open my Dom was with me. From the beginning, I had his phone numbers, address and any other info I wanted. Time spent together is the best indicator I think. Like others have already said, their true colors will come out.



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RE: when.... - 2/2/2006 6:38:44 AM   
Dracironsgirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Newbie1sub

....just have a simple question.

when do You know that someone is telling You the truth - especially when You start as online and have a long distance between.
any way to find out or do i just have to trust my own intuition?
any signs i am able to check about?

thanks a lot every comment!

usually for me it's when time has told me wether or not they are to be trusted there's really no short cut for me no quick way to this place and truthfully, i like taking my time to see if the meaning matches the words said ...is a bummer when i find a person who's justr a liar, weights heavily on me for a long time afterwards but i get over it, in time and move on to better hopefully.. when Master and i met, i tested His honesty with brutal measures, almost too much come to find out...i don't know my limits to this yet and past liars have made me sceptical of trusting new people so i tend to test and see if it is the real thing or another fake out to con me..thank You Master now i no longer need to worry about this since He's blessed my world a lil over a year ago now..i used to rely on my intuition but that didnt always work so i like to jsut take my time about it...whats the rush eh?
~kristin
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