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RE: Why so hard - 2/5/2009 5:39:32 PM   
subtex


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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

Dude.  It's hard for you to find a mistress because you are not listening.  Take some advice, or don't.  But if you actually want to meet a woman in real life, pull your head out of your ass, clean the shit out of your ears, and listen to what the women are telling you.


Funny, I got confused and thought I was reading the "Anal Worship" thread there for a second. 

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RE: Why so hard - 2/5/2009 5:40:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

Dude.  It's hard for you to find a mistress because you are not listening.  Take some advice, or don't.  But if you actually want to meet a woman in real life, pull your head out of your ass, clean the shit out of your ears, and listen to what the women are telling you.


If you read my replys you will see i am listing to what people are saying. I have said thank you as well to the ONES that have helped but not to the ones like your self who judge me. As your reply was very rude cause if you read my replies i have listened to the very good advice they have given me.

Thank you
noble slave

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RE: Why so hard - 2/5/2009 5:47:24 PM   
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I am a submissive, not a slave.  I serve whom I belong to, doesn't make me less submissive.  If that was the case, then most submissives have been doing it all wrong.  *Wanders off to go find the submissive handbook and reread it*

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RE: Why so hard - 2/5/2009 5:48:11 PM   
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ORIGINAL: feydeplume

Dear nobletoy. I too am a slave (female) and spent years searching for a good and loving Master. I spent that time learning better English (it is not my first language), learning useful skills and working on becoming and interesting person that would be a good confidant and companion to my dream Master. I wrote many silly profiles and got told how they were silly. It hurt because i thought i was being open and honest, and I was, just not a good kind of open and honest.

I have been with my Master 15 years now and he makes sure I know how worthwhile I am to him and to other people as well. He says good self-esteem reflects well on him and on our relationship, that I am to be humbly proud. I know I am a woman and you are a man, but consensual slavery is consenual slavery. Take what the Mistresses/Ma'ams tell you and be thankful for their help and guidance.

Thanks Ladies for letting me toss my two cents in!



Your so right i have taken on board the good advice what the Mistresses/Ma'ans have told me and in there guidance. It has made me think in what they look for in a profile and in a slave. And i would like to thank you for you really kind reply for a slave that need guidance.

And i have started to write out a new profile and to make sure the spelling is all correct :)

Thank you
noble slave

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RE: Why so hard - 2/5/2009 5:58:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: nobleslave
If you read my replys you will see i am listing to what people are saying.

I read your replies.  You might think you are "listening," but it sure doesn't seem that way to me.  You told Usako she was attacking you, for example, and she wasn't.  That's why I decided to be blunt. 

Stop looking for a Mistress.  If you look for a human being, and listen to the human beings who are posting, you will be more likely to find a human being.  Kinky women are people, not mystical alien beings in a pornographic freak show.


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RE: Why so hard - 2/5/2009 6:08:56 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

quote:

ORIGINAL: nobleslave
If you read my replys you will see i am listing to what people are saying.

I read your replies.  You might think you are "listening," but it sure doesn't seem that way to me.  You told Usako she was attacking you, for example, and she wasn't.  That's why I decided to be blunt. 

Stop looking for a Mistress.  If you look for a human being, and listen to the human beings who are posting, you will be more likely to find a human being.  Kinky women are people, not mystical alien beings in a pornographic freak show.



Me





slave:

The consensual nature in which a person enters slavery does not diminish the level at which they transfer power and control over their life; simply because someone consents to become a slave does not mean they are less (or more, depending on your point of view) than a slave in any respect once owned. To claim that a slave is something other than completely a slave, owned and forfeit of all rights, in fact makes them a submissive. A slave is a human being, a person, who is owned by at least one person; a slave is someone who is property. A slave retains no rights, having consensually forfeited all of them upon becoming a slave. 99.9% of  people who consider themselves as being slaves are, in fact, submissives and are not slaves at all. A slave has only those privileges as those who own them allow, and any such privileges may be revoked at any time for any reason an owner may choose. A slave cannot set their own limits. A slave cannot claim any rights to any property; a slave is property and anything they may have access to would, in fact, be owned by their Owner. A slave has resigned themselves to whatever fate their Owner may choose for them. A slave is a submissive that submits totally and completely and in all ways without any set Limits, Safe Words, Negotiations, or any parameters whatsoever to dictate how their Owner must act. A slave is, very literally, at the complete “mercy” of their Owner. If a slave is not currently owned, their proper label would either be “un-owned slave” or “submissive”. A slave may be controlled 100% by one who is their rightful Owner or may be given any degree or level of autonomy as a person who rightfully owns them sees fit

Not me





Submissive:
The label: “submissive” (also referred to as “sub” or “Subbie”) is given to anyone who may choose to submit any aspect, or any part of any aspect of, their life, to some degree no matter how small or shallow, to a Dominant. A submissive may choose their own limits and set whatever parameters they want regarding how, when and to whom they will submit. The term: “submissive” is a broad, sweeping label that could be applied to even those who choose to only submit once, and only very briefly, to a Dominant. The term: “submissive” can also be applied to someone who has yet to ever submit to a Dominant, but may choose to do so at some future time.

As i was repling to i am a slave. What Usako said was Honestly, you're profile (and responses) make you seem devoid of any personality and just desperately waiting for some woman to take care of you.

To me that is attecking my personality as again she said you're profile (and responses) make you seem devoid of any personality.

Now i did take on board what she said i did not put it in my profile which was silly of me i have to admitt. But please do say about my personality

Thank you
noble slave

< Message edited by nobleslave -- 2/5/2009 6:12:46 PM >

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RE: Why so hard - 2/5/2009 6:11:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: nobleslave


slave:

The consensual nature in which a person enters slavery does not diminish the level at which they transfer power and control over their life; simply because someone consents to become a slave does not mean they are less (or more, depending on your point of view) than a slave in any respect once owned. To claim that a slave is something other than completely a slave, owned and forfeit of all rights, in fact makes them a submissive. A slave is a human being, a person, who is owned by at least one person; a slave is someone who is property. A slave retains no rights, having consensually forfeited all of them upon becoming a slave. 99.9% of (especially American) people who consider themselves as being slaves are, in fact, submissives and are not slaves at all. A slave has only those privileges as those who own them allow, and any such privileges may be revoked at any time for any reason an owner may choose. A slave cannot set their own limits. A slave cannot claim any rights to any property; a slave is property and anything they may have access to would, in fact, be owned by their Owner. A slave has resigned themselves to whatever fate their Owner may choose for them. A slave is a submissive that submits totally and completely and in all ways without any set Limits, Safe Words, Negotiations, or any parameters whatsoever to dictate how their Owner must act. A slave is, very literally, at the complete “mercy” of their Owner. If a slave is not currently owned, their proper label would either be “un-owned slave” or “submissive”. A slave may be controlled 100% by one who is their rightful Owner or may be given any degree or level of autonomy as a person who rightfully owns them sees fit

Not me





Submissive:
The label: “submissive” (also referred to as “sub” or “Subbie”) is given to anyone who may choose to submit any aspect, or any part of any aspect of, their life, to some degree no matter how small or shallow, to a Dominant. A submissive may choose their own limits and set whatever parameters they want regarding how, when and to whom they will submit. The term: “submissive” is a broad, sweeping label that could be applied to even those who choose to only submit once, and only very briefly, to a Dominant. The term: “submissive” can also be applied to someone who has yet to ever submit to a Dominant, but may choose to do so at some future time.
As i was repling to i am a slave. What Usako said was Honestly, you're profile (and responses) make you seem devoid of any personality and just desperately waiting for some woman to take care of you.

To me that is attecking my personality as again she said you're profile (and responses) make you seem devoid of any personality.

Now i did take on board what she said i did not put it in my profile which was silly of me i have to admitt. Bust please do say about my personality

Thank you
noble slave



noble.
The way you are going about looking to be a "slave" to a "Mistress" would be like a vanilla guy saying "I have not had one date yet with anyone, why can't I be a husband? I just want to be a husband. Will you take me as your husband? Where can I find a wife? I am ready to be a husband."

Dominant women, Mistresses, even those looking to "own slaves" look for an attraction FIRST, based on personality, must like good old fashioned dating. Only in your fantasies exists a world where you put the label "slave" on you, and a woman comes along and says, "Yeah. You'll do. You are my slave."

Akasha


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RE: Why so hard - 2/5/2009 6:21:05 PM   
nobleslave


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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

quote:

ORIGINAL: nobleslave


slave:

The consensual nature in which a person enters slavery does not diminish the level at which they transfer power and control over their life; simply because someone consents to become a slave does not mean they are less (or more, depending on your point of view) than a slave in any respect once owned. To claim that a slave is something other than completely a slave, owned and forfeit of all rights, in fact makes them a submissive. A slave is a human being, a person, who is owned by at least one person; a slave is someone who is property. A slave retains no rights, having consensually forfeited all of them upon becoming a slave. 99.9% of (especially American) people who consider themselves as being slaves are, in fact, submissives and are not slaves at all. A slave has only those privileges as those who own them allow, and any such privileges may be revoked at any time for any reason an owner may choose. A slave cannot set their own limits. A slave cannot claim any rights to any property; a slave is property and anything they may have access to would, in fact, be owned by their Owner. A slave has resigned themselves to whatever fate their Owner may choose for them. A slave is a submissive that submits totally and completely and in all ways without any set Limits, Safe Words, Negotiations, or any parameters whatsoever to dictate how their Owner must act. A slave is, very literally, at the complete “mercy” of their Owner. If a slave is not currently owned, their proper label would either be “un-owned slave” or “submissive”. A slave may be controlled 100% by one who is their rightful Owner or may be given any degree or level of autonomy as a person who rightfully owns them sees fit

Not me





Submissive:
The label: “submissive” (also referred to as “sub” or “Subbie”) is given to anyone who may choose to submit any aspect, or any part of any aspect of, their life, to some degree no matter how small or shallow, to a Dominant. A submissive may choose their own limits and set whatever parameters they want regarding how, when and to whom they will submit. The term: “submissive” is a broad, sweeping label that could be applied to even those who choose to only submit once, and only very briefly, to a Dominant. The term: “submissive” can also be applied to someone who has yet to ever submit to a Dominant, but may choose to do so at some future time.
As i was repling to i am a slave. What Usako said was Honestly, you're profile (and responses) make you seem devoid of any personality and just desperately waiting for some woman to take care of you.

To me that is attecking my personality as again she said you're profile (and responses) make you seem devoid of any personality.

Now i did take on board what she said i did not put it in my profile which was silly of me i have to admitt. Bust please do say about my personality

Thank you
noble slave



noble.
The way you are going about looking to be a "slave" to a "Mistress" would be like a vanilla guy saying "I have not had one date yet with anyone, why can't I be a husband? I just want to be a husband. Will you take me as your husband? Where can I find a wife? I am ready to be a husband."

Dominant women, Mistresses, even those looking to "own slaves" look for an attraction FIRST, based on personality, must like good old fashioned dating. Only in your fantasies exists a world where you put the label "slave" on you, and a woman comes along and says, "Yeah. You'll do. You are my slave."

Akasha



Yes your 100% right there has to be meetings like dinner coffie ect to see if you like one another like in a vanilla relastionships. And attraction does come first and personality :)

Thank you
noble slave

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RE: Why so hard - 2/5/2009 7:15:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: nobleslave
Slave means to serve not a submissive. You are looking for a submissive or have a submissive. I am looking for a Mistress that wants a slave. And for you to atteck my personality like that after just reading my replys and profile i dont think is on as you dont know me. I was asking for help and you atteck what i am looking for and my personality after 4 replys and 1 profile....


I didn't "attack" you. You come off as having no personality! Now if you want to prove me wrong, perhaps act like it. Your profile is pure desperate wank as are your forum posts. I do not know you, I only know what you've posted here and in your profile and from that little bit of info I have no desire to know you and am not shocked other women feel the same.

And I'm not even going to touch your elitist bullshit about submissive vs slave. Good luck with the next seven years of your search.

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RE: Why so hard - 2/5/2009 10:59:48 PM   
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I just now read his profile and subsequent posts, and after consideration, I think he shouldn't change a thing. If he made a convincing profile, forum posts, and e-mails, he might actually fool some Domme into considering him. I'm mostly joking, but seriously, such profiles make it clear that they aren't what *I* at least am looking for, so I don't waste time trying for something that clearly won't work. I've run into a few very similar ones locally so far.

< Message edited by Andalusite -- 2/5/2009 11:00:19 PM >

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RE: Why so hard - 2/6/2009 12:57:15 AM   
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Greetings nobleslave,
 
Although I am not seeking any slaves or subs myself  I would like to firstly agree totally with all the Dommes/Mistresses who have replied to your posting. It is very important to learn and take on board any help given to you.
 
I have read your profile and my comments are:
 
I do understand the difference as you see it between a submissive and a slave - I do not agree with the "no limits" We all have limits, be they legal ones or personal ones. Even a slave has limits which in my opinion would be the "limits" of their Owner.
 
You call yourself "worthless" if you are worthless why would anyone (as previously said) wish to get to know you?
 
I understand your disappointment and frustration at not having met or found your ideal Domme/Mistress. I have seen too many subs/slaves so focus on being collared or owned they often do not make wise choices as to the One they seek. These things do not happen overnight but can take a long time. It's important to realise you feel alone now - but you are never more alone then when your with the wrong one .
 
Use your profile to give more information about yourself also - e.g vanilla likes and interests and the type of person you are seeking and the type of relationship you want e.g. LTR ect ect
 
I wish you well and never give up, it is often when we are close to giving up and stop trying that we find the important person in our lives.
 
Lilac
 
 

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RE: Why so hard - 2/6/2009 1:11:01 AM   
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[/quote]

Me





slave:

The consensual nature in which a person enters slavery does not diminish the level at which they transfer power and control over their life; simply because someone consents to become a slave does not mean they are less (or more, depending on your point of view) than a slave in any respect once owned. To claim that a slave is something other than completely a slave, owned and forfeit of all rights, in fact makes them a submissive. A slave is a human being, a person, who is owned by at least one person; a slave is someone who is property. A slave retains no rights, having consensually forfeited all of them upon becoming a slave. 99.9% of  people who consider themselves as being slaves are, in fact, submissives and are not slaves at all. A slave has only those privileges as those who own them allow, and any such privileges may be revoked at any time for any reason an owner may choose. A slave cannot set their own limits. A slave cannot claim any rights to any property; a slave is property and anything they may have access to would, in fact, be owned by their Owner. A slave has resigned themselves to whatever fate their Owner may choose for them. A slave is a submissive that submits totally and completely and in all ways without any set Limits, Safe Words, Negotiations, or any parameters whatsoever to dictate how their Owner must act. A slave is, very literally, at the complete “mercy” of their Owner. If a slave is not currently owned, their proper label would either be “un-owned slave” or “submissive”. A slave may be controlled 100% by one who is their rightful Owner or may be given any degree or level of autonomy as a person who rightfully owns them sees fit

Not me





Submissive:
The label: “submissive” (also referred to as “sub” or “Subbie”) is given to anyone who may choose to submit any aspect, or any part of any aspect of, their life, to some degree no matter how small or shallow, to a Dominant. A submissive may choose their own limits and set whatever parameters they want regarding how, when and to whom they will submit. The term: “submissive” is a broad, sweeping label that could be applied to even those who choose to only submit once, and only very briefly, to a Dominant. The term: “submissive” can also be applied to someone who has yet to ever submit to a Dominant, but may choose to do so at some future time.


[/quote]  With the greatest of respect where exactly are you getting your "deffinitions" from ?
 
You are getting very good advice from people on these boards and your going off on a tangent
 
You are not listening or showing your real personality but going by some text book deffinition.
 
This is real life (well it is to most of us) I really suggest that you make a cup of tea, and then re - read everyone's advice to you again "twice" and understand the following
1) The advice given is meant well - it is not a personal attack on you
2) real Mistresses/Dommes are expressing what it is they seek when they seek a new slave/sub
3) other subs/slaves are trying to help you also
 
Good luck
 
Lilac

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RE: Why so hard - 2/7/2009 6:16:13 AM   
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I would like to thank you all at the bottem of my heart for all your help and advise. May i post my profile here to see what every one thinks of it before i upload it on my profile please. There has been alot of brilliant help here and i have taken it all in and listened to you all. Thank you so so much


noble slave

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RE: Why so hard - 2/7/2009 7:15:59 AM   
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I have a male submissive friend who is Irish... He is from Dublin.. and according to him there is a DIRTH of dominant females in ireland.. but if you look you will find one. I would suggest you might join the group in Dublin as well.. It is what a 2 hour ride by train..

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RE: Why so hard - 2/7/2009 7:20:10 AM   
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Really is that what he said :) cause i could only find a Pro Dominatix's and she was from dublin. Yes your right it only 2 hours away but train may i ask please what is the name of the dublin group please

Thank you
noble slave 

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RE: Why so hard - 2/7/2009 7:34:57 AM   
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http://www.nimhneach.ie/

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RE: Why so hard - 2/7/2009 10:27:39 AM   
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Thank you so much :D

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RE: Why so hard - 6/1/2009 1:54:55 AM   
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I totally understand...I haven't been tied up in 13 years and thats how long I've looked for a Domme...lol...you might have to switch to get your kinks and I think many do

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