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joe13sheff -> Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 4:19:08 AM)

Hi everyone, I have just joined the site, pics up soon or on request! I was on the site about a year back but have joined again and set up a new profile!

I was just wondering, do any of the Mistresses on this site even read thier mail anymore! I know the drill, no one liners, send a picture, be polite, don't go into what you want sexually..................... and all the rest! Has it got to the stage now where Mistresses think "oh a message from a sub" .....DELETE!!!!! There are so many people who ruin this site, think they are refered too as collarme wankers!!! We need to find a way to get them off the site so that only genuine people are allowed to join! One Mistress I found came up with a way to do this perfectly! Either send her a photo of your driving licence, donate her money or send a picture of your face covered in your own cum!!!! Genius!!!

Anyway sorry if it's more of a rant than a question!!! Just annoying for the serious subs out there!!!




colouredin -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 4:21:27 AM)

Hmm see I always get replies

Maybe its just you?



Lynnxz -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 4:25:49 AM)

Er... pretty sure I'd delete a cum covered face. 



ShiftedJewel -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 4:56:10 AM)

Yeah, me too. And I don't want a pic of their drivers license either. I got money, so that's no biggie for me. But a well written letter always get read and if they are in the same country they get a reply as well. Possibly the dominant females the OP has been writing to have their mail settings so as to not receive mail from men?
 
Jewel



CarrieO -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 4:58:11 AM)

joe13sheff,
 
I understand it can be frustrating to have a door slammed in your face.  Let me give you my take on this. 
I looked at your profile...couple of things that would make me question.  You say you're from Sheffield UK yet your profile says Canada...a big discrepancy for me.  You mention your wants...a want of a Mistress, no mention of a person or woman, but only a Mistress. You speak of doing anything for this "Mistress" which will then give you what you need...what is that?  You talk of searching for a long time for this Mistress and yet your age on your profile is 20....I've heard of men here looking for years, 5...7....more. 
 
I bring all this to your attention because I want for you to understand most women look at the whole person not just kink needs/wants and a profile is the first step in finding out about who you are.  I would be cautious of replying with more than a brief note given the neediness of some of what you have written. A photo is always nice but I've spoken to some wonderful men who didn't have one posted and we didn't share until after a couple emails. 
I would suggest not playing the "blame game" simply because you've cum, pun intended, across a few bad apples.  Give what you want to present more thought and realize that when all is said and done, you're still a man talking to a woman....two complex individuals and not just labels or roles.  BTW.....just how do you plan to separate the "real" from the fakes?  This is an age old problem and one that won't go away while this is a free site....and I, personally would like it to remain a free site!  It's more a matter of street smarts....develope your CollarMe radar to weed out the ones you feel are scammers. Just remember, one person's fake is another person's real and visa versa.
 
Just my 2cents......good luck and welcome to the boards

*edited to add....I've just become "corrupted"...cool!



peppermint -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 5:05:01 AM)

A Mistress who might read a note you send her just might decide to look at your profile before she answers.  While looking at your profile she might decide to look at posts you've made to the forum.  After reading what you call your rant and reading that you were back here one whole day before making your rant post, she might just decide you are just one of the many whiners around here.  Click...delete....you are history. 

What does sending a stranger a picture of your driver's license have to do with being a real submissive?  It just means the sender is rather stupid.  Ditto on sending a stranger money.  The pic isn't worth a comment.



CatdeMedici -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 5:36:29 AM)

dude, if opinionated selection wasn't a societal option then everyone at the SuperBowl would have ended up screwing each other. I'm going to assume you didn't meet the Dommy of your dreams in only one day.
 
Playing in the sand box takes big toys, welcome to the playground.



Madame4a -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 5:41:55 AM)

great first impression ... [sm=applause.gif]



MistressAinCT -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 5:54:23 AM)

I delete messages that don't match up with what I require in My profile.  If I say "no males" and a male responds, I delete.  If ask for a certain age or location (local) and they aren't, I delete. If they can't follow instructions on what I need through My profile,  how are they going to serve in person?

Don't promimse more than you can deliver.  I know you're young and eager, but "I will do anything" can get you injured or something you aren't into.  I read your profile and its way long, and very needy in fact, the visual is you on your knees whining and begging for attention-who has the time or patience for that?  Tone it down, state the facts and let your kink list show the Dominants out there what will interest you.  If its a match, it will happen.



LunaVenus -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 6:30:57 AM)

I respond to very few emails favorably these days. I am disheartened by the lack of quality described above as well.

I am shocked that people think that just because they email me saying they want to perform cunnilingus or a massage, I am supposed to say " SURE COME ON OVER RIGHT NOW! whoever you are" But many men DO think that way. If a woman offers them fellatio, many will indeed tell them they will be anxiously waiting by the door... whoever they are. LOL 

So I get many offers from strangers to perform no strings attached cunnilingus on me under the euphemism of "service". I have yet to accept one. Next  in popularity is the request to be raped with a dildo, dressed as a woman, foot service, and finally pain freaks. Clearly most men are NOT looking for the same things that women are. Women seem to be looking for Long Term Relationships, and the men who say they are, are really looking for a regular dependable sex partner to get them off.

If I am going to take a sexual partner though it will be one I choose instead of whoever randomly writes me.




RedMagic1 -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 6:31:00 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressAinCT

I delete messages that don't match up with what I require in My profile.  If I say "no males" and a male responds, I delete. 

A while back, you posted something I really liked, and I wrote you about it, but you deleted my message unread.  I understood why, and wasn't concerned, but I thought you might like to know your filter is preventing messages from men who post to the message boards, if you weren't aware.



thetammyjo -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 6:35:15 AM)

I read every message I get and I reply to maybe 90% of them. 10% of them are deleted for being unacceptably crude or what I consider disgusting which happened once this week or repeated attempts to contact me after I've said "no thanks".




subtlebutterfly -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 6:42:22 AM)

or maybe he happens to send his message to the female submissives. It seems to happen a lot, guys see oh..FEMALE then she's a dominant lets send her a message
their sexuality is also completely irrelevant..so is the information about what the person is looking for.
Amazing[8|]

Also if I deleted a message unread I'd die of curiousity wondering what it said. Whether I answer or not is another story, but I usually answer.



LaTigresse -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 6:46:28 AM)

I read them all. I reply to most. 



YoursMistress -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 7:12:42 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

dude, if opinionated selection wasn't a societal option then everyone at the SuperBowl would have ended up screwing each other. I'm going to assume you didn't meet the Dommy of your dreams in only one day.

Playing in the sand box takes big toys, welcome to the playground.


Damn!  I'm definitely going next year.



MistressAinCT -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 8:04:39 AM)

RedMagic1: I'm not sure how to do that-only accept messages from people who reply on the boards.  I did check the "notify Me via e mail when someone replies" but that hasn't worked and I figured that was only for replies posted to the board.  I like the the boards but I'm still pretty un-savvy about it. 

But back to the OP: I agree with a lot of people on here about weeding out undesireables.  If you just want ANYONE no matter who or what they are or are into to answer you, that's what you're going to get.  The fact that there are people who filter e mails and messages to weed out the the ones who don't match  is really to your advantage.  Natural selection at its finest!

I won't list other sites here, but there are two more you can try if you just want attention from anyone, and you can post all the cock pix you want.  Perhaps that route might be best....



Lockit -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 8:23:03 AM)

I read all and used to respond to all.  Now.. if they don't read the profile or ask for things I do not want because they didn't read the profile... even those emails I want to respond to in a huge bitch way... I don't. I respond only to those who are respectful, offer more than one line and comply with my profile.  Period... but I do read... damn it all sometimes!



joe13sheff -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 8:48:57 AM)

LMAO!!!



PeonForHer -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 8:58:51 AM)

You say you're from Sheffield UK yet your profile says Canada...
 
I heard something about CM's system defaulting to giving your country as Canada, Carrie. 

You talk of searching for a long time for this Mistress and yet your age on your profile is 20....I've heard of men here looking for years, 5...7....more.  
 
At the age of 20, even six months can feel like an eternity.  I remember it well. Nowadays, last winter feels like the day before yesterday to me. *sigh*.



Nikitaa -> RE: Do you even read your messages anymore?! (2/6/2009 9:09:52 AM)

quote:

ORIGIONAL: coloredin
Hmm see I always get replies

Maybe its just you?


LOL You are meanie.



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