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ORIGINAL: azjojoba

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

Maybe you should start hiring pro dommes and not the girls on street corners...

As for commodity, with that 'tude most dommes will tell you to take a hike, so you're back to street corners. Hey if you can't afford a pro domme, don't go to one, ask your wife to do it, you wouldn't need to sneak around her back then. And try not be too bitter that there are guys out there who possible can still afford them, while you seem to be reduced to complain about grapes that are too sour.

I take it the "ripoff bitches" were the ones who were only willing to dominate you and not willing to sell their bodies...

I have never hired a girl off the street. The thought of doing so has crossed my mind though. Especially if I could find a young virgin.

You are very wrong -- I'm not the least bit bitter that there are guys that can afford to buy the hottest looking babes. If I find a way to get more income I will buy them also. It's so much less hassle just to buy what you want instead of trying to find real women that actually like playing games and having sex.

The rip offs that I refer to are pros that lead men to think they are going to get a fuck, but don't come through. There should be a way to put these bitches out of business. If they say no sex upfront I don't have a problem with them, although personally I wouldn't waste money on them and don't understand why any man would.

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ORIGINAL: lobodomslavery

maybe i should rephrase some Dommes are interested in nothing but money, other Dommes are Dommes of integrity. Most Dommes are respectable professionals
kevin

I think that about sums it up Kevin. They are all individuals so one cannot lump all Professional Dominatrixes together.

I know I owe a debt of gratitude to the Professional Dommes I saw. I had been out of the scene for 12 years and although I still had my submissive/masochistic feelings, I still had a difficult time trusting and felt re-entering via Professional Dommes would be safest for me. I had researched my first Pro Domme and we had phone contact before my visit, then she sat with me to go over where I was at emotionally that day as well as my desires and limits. All of the Professional Dommes I visited did that. Two even used a form in which you'd put a check in the box for Love it, Like it, Hate it, for the activities. I'd fill it out before each session. Yes, they were there to give me what I wanted, I was paying, but they could have fun too by choosing mutual interests. It was win/win.

You can ask for what you want OP. I would be very clear on what I wanted out of a session. One session I wanted a purging. I needed to cry for I had been trying to be very strong when my mom died. So, the session built up and finally, I cried like a baby and she held my head in her lap. It was so healing.

I saw 5 Professional Dommes over a 5 year period. Some let me pay on a sliding scale for I was a woman who made a lot less than their male clients. (I could only afford one or two sessions in a year.) Another let me make payments for a session. I proved I was reliable so she offered that to me. And, might I add, none ever gave sexual favours. It was on the their websites. Also, I never expected it from them.

I had great experiences with all five. Some I vibrated with on a deeper level, and that I can only attribute to chemistry, not the individual, but all were extrememly professional, caring, honourable and loaded with integrity. Just ask for what you need. And yes, I was totally tongue tied each time I saw them, which is why I loved the sit down sessions before I got into sub space. Although, just being in a couple's presence sent me there immediately.

As with any profession, there are some that are just in it for the money. Take your pick: medical doctors, lawyers, therapists, psychiatrists, interior decorators, the list could go on. Does that mean you won't find professionals with integrity and who actual care in each of those fields? A most emphatic no. I find most enter a profession because they are drawn to it and wish to make a difference. It's the same with Professional Dommes. I researched many before visiting the ones I chose. If I got the feeling one of the Dommes was in it for the money or just assumed I was her toy, I never even went further than reading her add.

I had one negative experience with a Pro Domme I never saw. We set up the time and I was to call the day of the appointment for the location, which I did. I left a message. A week later I got an email saying she was sorry. She went to a conference instead and thought about the appointment but never called. She offered another appointment. I said no thank you.

I was very lucky with the Professional Dommes I did visit. They all helped me to trust again and I never needed to use my safeword with them, but knowing they would honour it.... PRICELESS!

Blessings,
TT

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

You might have better luck if you got a divorce from the wife who won't do you and find a single woman who might if you had a marrital status change and maybe a lil dose of fine tuning on the attitude about a number of things.  The world according to azjojoba isn't a fit all to those around you.