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StrictnSaucy -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 4:48:56 PM)

Thanks for the translation Vendaval and sorry for confusion Nikitaa



Nikitaa -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 4:49:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Vendaval
If a husband who has been neglectful suddenly starts being very attentive it is also a sign that he is having an affair. 


Oh I am aware of this. I know wife think of affair, I would also. I say dominatrix as funny joke. I was attempting sarcasm but I not succeed.

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Vendaval

"Tongue in cheek" means you meant it as a joke and were being ironic.



*looks up ironic* LOL

Stop it!!!

Please use frequent words not rare words.

^joking. Write as you please. I learn this way.



LadyConstanze -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 4:50:00 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: StrictnSaucy

Nikitaa,

I have been really enjoying your posts. But

1. What do you get from this service to his wife
2. Do you think his wife would appreciate getting gifts at the direction of his Mistress

Maybe you said it tongue in cheek ?



I do understand that in some circumstances they can't be open, but I also like to remind them that their duty to their family and the wife comes first and that by doing things for her he is pleasing me.

She might not appreciate getting gifts at the direction of a domme, but often him being a bit more thoughtful goes a long way, not really gifts but just doing things for her and by doing it for me, it gets a kinky slant for him and the relationship benefits from it. One guy (now a great friend) loves his wife but she simply doesn't understand his need, she is too worried that the relationship would change, we often talk on the internet or the phone now (I have moved) and he sees simple stuff like housework, drawing a bath for her, etc. as a service, he does love her, but that added bit just helps the relationship as he is more content and she enjoys the attention. I can't see anything wrong with that.



Vendaval -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 4:54:04 PM)

Sarcasm does not always work well in print, we see that all the time here on the Forums.  No worries.  [:D]


quote:

ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

quote:

ORIGINAL: Vendaval
If a husband who has been neglectful suddenly starts being very attentive it is also a sign that he is having an affair. 


Oh I am aware of this. I know wife think of affair, I would also. I say dominatrix as funny joke. I was attempting sarcasm but I not succeed.

edit.....


quote:

ORIGINAL: Vendaval

"Tongue in cheek" means you meant it as a joke and were being ironic.



*looks up ironic* LOL

Stop it!!!

Please use frequent words not rare words.

^joking. Write as you please. I learn this way.



thetab -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 5:20:58 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

I attempt sarcasm once a month and I never use correctly. People always assume I am serious. Even when speaking and not just in writing. I use sarcasm frequently in Polish but I can not make sarcasm work in English. Friends say I emphasize wrong words when I speak with sarcasm.


I realized it was a joke, but that might be because I spend so much time on the internet that I have a pretty refined sarcasm detector.  It's hard to do sarcasm in text such that everyone will know you're joking.



DominaSmartass -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 7:44:05 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

With that said, there really are some married men out there who do have the consent from the wife to play, serve, etc.

(...)

I do realize this makes our little family the exception to the rule, but please remember that we do exist.


Absolutely! And given that I already have a partner myself, I am totally fine with someone coming into my service - or just playing - with someone who has a partner or wife or what have you, as long as everyone is ok with it. My rant is completely and totally due to the fact that the married and secretive ones seem to think the dominant women are the ones with the "problem" because we won't let them serve us when they are doing it dishonestly, behind their wife's back, i.e. cheating

That's all. I have always been cool with people who are poly or "play-only" poly, (no sex.)



DominaSmartass -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 7:51:11 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

quote:

ORIGINAL: StrictnSaucy

Nikitaa,

I have been really enjoying your posts. But

1. What do you get from this service to his wife
2. Do you think his wife would appreciate getting gifts at the direction of his Mistress

Maybe you said it tongue in cheek ?


I said as joke.

When my dorm mate returns I will ask what "tongue in cheek" means.

edit.....
I attempt sarcasm once a month and I never use correctly. People always assume I am serious. Even when speaking and not just in writing. I use sarcasm frequently in Polish but I can not make sarcasm work in English. Friends say I emphasize wrong words when I speak with sarcasm.


Actually, I got your sarcasm right away. You should attempt it more often. Practice makes perfect!

And tongue in cheek, basically means like sarcasm, it's slightly different but hard to really explain without pulling out the dictionary.



OneMoreWaste -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 9:15:13 PM)

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn
If my wife wasn't interested in domination or in me serving her, chances are pretty good that we wouldn't be married in the first place. I've never put in a lot of stock in the old "I discovered I'm a sub after we were married" or the ever popular "I don't think I can tell my wife about my submissive tendencies."


What about the ever-popular "She *was* Dominant once upon a time, but can't be bothered anymore"? [8|]



4u2spoil -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/8/2009 2:07:53 AM)

I can understand being in love with someone, but having interests that they don't share/aren't compatible with. Even in vanilla situations, I mention my interests - even if just a general sense. But I don't force them on anyone, and I have liked guys who weren't interested in submitting. If things ever developed to the point of marriage, I certainly wouldn't hide things form them, but if they weren't interested I would pursue those interests with another person/other people (with their knowledge).


quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

I'm always at a loss to understand this. If I was married, finding a partner to play with seems like it would already be done for me. If my wife wasn't interested in domination or in me serving her, chances are pretty good that we wouldn't be married in the first place. I've never put in a lot of stock in the old "I discovered I'm a sub after we were married" or the ever popular "I don't think I can tell my wife about my submissive tendencies." This is the person you decided to spend the rest of your life with. If you're too ashamed to tell her what you really need, then something went wrong long before those submissive tendencies emerged.



sirsholly -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/8/2009 2:25:55 AM)

quote:

I attempt sarcasm once a month and I never use correctly. People always assume I am serious. Even when speaking and not just in writing. I use sarcasm frequently in Polish but I can not make sarcasm work in English. Friends say I emphasize wrong words when I speak with sarcasm.

you are doing just fine, Niki. [:)]




SylvereApLeanan -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/8/2009 9:53:35 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

I attempt sarcasm once a month and I never use correctly. People always assume I am serious. Even when speaking and not just in writing. I use sarcasm frequently in Polish but I can not make sarcasm work in English. Friends say I emphasize wrong words when I speak with sarcasm.


I caught the sarcasm.  You are using it correctly and well in English.  I love your jokes.  I just wish you had an equally witty, bisexual, submissive sister.



Nikitaa -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/8/2009 1:43:25 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

quote:

ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

I attempt sarcasm once a month and I never use correctly. People always assume I am serious. Even when speaking and not just in writing. I use sarcasm frequently in Polish but I can not make sarcasm work in English. Friends say I emphasize wrong words when I speak with sarcasm.


I caught the sarcasm.  You are using it correctly and well in English.  I love your jokes.  I just wish you had an equally witty, bisexual, submissive sister.


I have younger sister. She is witty and pretty. She is bi curious but not kinky. Maybe kinky later but not kinky now. She not dominant or submissive she just sweet girl I love. :-)



SylvereApLeanan -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/8/2009 2:03:01 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Nikitaa


I have younger sister. She is witty and pretty. She is bi curious but not kinky. Maybe kinky later but not kinky now. She not dominant or submissive she just sweet girl I love. :-)



Younger than you?  Yikes.  I think that might be too young.  Of course, with big sister Nikita as a role model, she will turn into another adorable dominant woman.



LadyPact -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/8/2009 3:22:44 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

With that said, there really are some married men out there who do have the consent from the wife to play, serve, etc.

(...)

I do realize this makes our little family the exception to the rule, but please remember that we do exist.


Absolutely! And given that I already have a partner myself, I am totally fine with someone coming into my service - or just playing - with someone who has a partner or wife or what have you, as long as everyone is ok with it. My rant is completely and totally due to the fact that the married and secretive ones seem to think the dominant women are the ones with the "problem" because we won't let them serve us when they are doing it dishonestly, behind their wife's back, i.e. cheating

That's all. I have always been cool with people who are poly or "play-only" poly, (no sex.)

Funny thing is, I tend to be a target for the married and cheating types.  I always have a hard time understanding this since I am so openly opposed to it.

To date, clip has been My only married submissive.  The reason for that is because he was the first and only one who could ever pass My personal screening.  That's the part where I talk to the spouse, tell her exactly what I plan to do to her husband, and then she has to tell Me that she's ok with it.  I don't accept anything less.

By the way, Nikitaa, you are doing just fine.  When you wrote your post, you may have intended it with sarcasm, but those things actually can be a benefit for the wife.  One of the reasons that clip's wife encourages his service to Me is because of the indirect benefits that she receives.  According to her, he is more attentive, thoughtful, and provides her services that he never did before. 

As part of our arrangement, clip does certain things for his wife at My direction.  Before I came along, she had never had a pedicure.  (One of the tasks I had assigned him.)  Or, I'll pick out a night that he's directed to brush her hair.  Give her a bath.  All kinds of things.  She knows exactly where these things come from and why.  Yes, she does appreciate them.  It helps to keep them closer together.



Madame4a -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/8/2009 3:37:21 PM)

I have gotten all your sarcasm every time... please don't stop!  I love it!



nycguy982 -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/8/2009 4:11:14 PM)

Thats funny Nikita. I use sarcasm a lot in English, but I lived in Italy and while my Italian was good, I would try to be sarcastic over there and people just thought I was insane.



Lashra -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/8/2009 4:54:14 PM)

We know the truth that not ALL Domme's on CM are pro's or fakes. He just sounds like the type of person who wants to whine because there is something out there that he cannot have. Wah wah.....anyone have some cheese?

~Lashra



Nikitaa -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/8/2009 5:15:57 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra

We know the truth that not ALL Domme's on CM are pro's or fakes. He just sounds like the type of person who wants to whine because there is something out there that he cannot have. Wah wah.....anyone have some cheese?

~Lashra



Can someone become a professional fake domme?



MsDDom -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/8/2009 5:28:47 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

quote:

ORIGINAL: MsDDom

my response is always..."why are u here...and why are u messaging me"?
i am not a pro, but in all honesty, how can a married man serve?



Gee, would you like to ask the married man who's lived with Me for the past couple of weeks?  Done all of My laundry?  Accompanied Me to every local and semi-local event that I've had the whim to go to and takes care of all of My other needs? 

If you can think of the way he's not serving Me, I'd be glad to consider it.


so, is ur claim that all married men desiring the lifestyle (secretively--b/c most times it is) can serve just as u've expressed above? or is ur claim that u r lucky enough to have a married man that does serve? 

would u consider ur situation typical or the exception to the "norm" as it concern married subs/slaves?

since i dont know what goes on in ur household, i cannot respond to ur last sentence.



Lashra -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/8/2009 6:18:20 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Nikitaa


quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra

We know the truth that not ALL Domme's on CM are pro's or fakes. He just sounds like the type of person who wants to whine because there is something out there that he cannot have. Wah wah.....anyone have some cheese?

~Lashra



Can someone become a professional fake domme?

A person can become anything that they like as long as they try hard enough and the conditions are correct.

~Lashra



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