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RE: Treated like a lady - 2/8/2009 1:10:48 PM   
came4U


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RE: Treated like a lady - 2/8/2009 1:46:34 PM   
MidMichCowboy


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Status: offline 		If someone, without knowing anything about your relationshop, makes it his business to stick his nose into it, HE IS NOT TREATING YOU WITH RESPECT. I talk to several ladies who have a Sir. I would not presume to talk them into leaving him. That is disrespectful in my books.

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RE: Treated like a lady - 2/8/2009 1:50:59 PM   
whiteslavebitch


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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

Being submissive doesn't really say much about how I am being treated in my relationship.  However, him treating me like I am his slave is not disrespectful to me.  In fact, it shows his profound respect for who I am.  If he were to "treat me like a lady" and either defer to me or consider this relationship to be egalitarian, then I would not perceive that he respected who I am.

I think that is the problem for some people.  They have this idea of what showing respect looks like and they can't get out of that box.  To treat me in a manner that would ultimately be unfulfilling for me, is showing disrespect for who I am.

Knight's Kyra


Kyra,

You said it better than I could, I agree with you wholeheartedly.

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RE: Treated like a lady - 2/8/2009 2:47:56 PM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		My Sir treats me with respect - for who i am as a whole person.  Occasionally he treats me as a lady - but i much prefer it when he treats me like the wench that i am, and enjoy being. .


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RE: Treated like a lady - 2/8/2009 2:52:40 PM   
ExSteelAgain


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Status: offline 		Who knows what some think, but it is in the Dom book of rules, pg 28, para 3, line 13b that a Dom has to respect submissives. Seriously, isn't that what being a Dom is all about? We understand submissives, play hard with them...always with respect.

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RE: Treated like a lady - 2/8/2009 2:57:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

...but it is in the Dom book of rules, pg 28, para 3, line 13b that a Dom has to respect submissives.


Sooooo when i *ahem* accidentally dunked his rule book in the Koi pond under that big rock i did something... bad?


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RE: Treated like a lady - 2/8/2009 3:02:44 PM   
ExSteelAgain


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quote:

ORIGINAL: feydeplume

quote:

ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

...but it is in the Dom book of rules, pg 28, para 3, line 13b that a Dom has to respect submissives.


Sooooo when i *ahem* accidentally dunked his rule book in the Koi pond under that big rock i did something... bad?



That brings up a visual of a submissive undergoing water torture in the pond as she tries to get the rule book with her teeth. But I won't tell on ya.

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RE: Treated like a lady - 2/8/2009 3:29:54 PM   
CelticPrince


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ORIGINAL: susie

I am currently on a chat / contact site as we are searching for someone (won't go into details) but I am quite often contacted by men some of whom are interested in chatting about the "lifestyle".  Over the last couple of days I have chatted to a chap in the US who saw my profile picture and keeps telling me how "hot" I am. We have discussed how things worked in our relationship and to start with he was interested.

After much discussion he has now suggested that I should leave Master so I can be treated "like a lady" iand with respect in a relationship.

I have never considered that I am treated in any other way by Master. He may control most of my life but I know that he still respects me as a person.

Do others think that being a sub means you are not being treated with respect by your Dom?
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he is a newby!

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RE: Treated like a lady - 2/8/2009 6:52:18 PM   
KnightofMists


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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists
....To treat me in a manner that would ultimately be unfulfilling for me, is showing disrespect for who I am.

Knight's Kyra


and that is why you lick the lint between my toes... It's my way in showing how much I respect you *g*

< Message edited by KnightofMists -- 2/8/2009 6:53:35 PM >

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RE: Treated like a lady - 2/8/2009 7:15:00 PM   
MasterLark


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quote:

ORIGINAL: susie

quote:

I have never considered that I am treated in any other way by Master. He may control most of my life but I know that he still respects me as a person.


you have your own answer from your own experience.

A good Dom cherishes his sub, so disrespect is not part of that. If you are secretly wondering if your Master could be a better Dominant of you if He disrespected you more (as if disrespect increases dominance and submission), my answer to that would be no.

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RE: Treated like a lady - 2/8/2009 7:25:35 PM   
pinnipedster


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Status: offline 		*sigh* No one ever offers to treat me like a lady....

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RE: Treated like a lady - 2/8/2009 10:25:53 PM   
BondageBarbieX


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Status: offline 		I am treated like a spoiled lil princess so I love the way daddy treats me.

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RE: Treated like a lady - 2/8/2009 11:28:50 PM   
Shadow-tiger


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Status: offline 		I've always treated my pet with respect. Even when I happened to be treating her an a means to an end. Yet a long time friend got it into his head that because of how the kinky site went, I couldn't possibly care about her as a person. Apparently it's just not possible to care for someone and treat them like a slave.

All about perspective, as many have said before.

Though I'm of the opinion this fine fellow is playing the respect card in order to get you away from your Master.


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RE: Treated like a lady - 2/8/2009 11:45:37 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		It should be noted that most fem hetero s-types would reject any dominant who didn't make them feel ladylike and spoiled in such ways.  So it makes sense to use that as a lure.

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