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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/11/2009 10:26:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well i can only speak for myself but i think the truth is that i wouldn't have wanted to believe after making a connection as this woman obviously thought she had, that he just wasn't that into me.
So instead i would have thought something along the lines of he accidently erased my number, he didn't get my text, he's busy blah blah blah.
I'm a bit of a dunce when it comes to this kind of stuff if i'm honest. I really am only just starting to get my shit together in the how to and understanding relationships department. Kind of tragic that it took me until the age of 35 to do so but at least i'm getting there now.

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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/11/2009 10:27:04 AM   
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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/11/2009 10:32:57 AM   
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"A bit flaky"?  Not since the acupuncture!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             Anyways, not to compare apples and oranges, but a vague suggestion about meeting up with a person you've never met and a random chick assuming that because she's interested; you're also interested, are two very different things.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Best wishes to you both. 


Agreed but in the story you shared you said your friend gave her your number. She may well have presumed you had asked him to give her it and therefore her interest was reciprocated.

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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/11/2009 10:36:36 AM   
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Well i can only speak for myself but i think the truth is that i wouldn't have wanted to believe after making a connection as this woman obviously thought she had, that he just wasn't that into me.

                                                                                                                                                                                 To be fair, if I had felt the slightest  connection, why wouldn't I have asked for her number at the time?  It's not that I'm the greatest thing since sliced bread or that she's so awful - but you just don't fancy every woman on the planet.  Some women assume that they can pick and choose and that any guy will want them, maybe - I don't know.

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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/11/2009 10:40:37 AM   
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Well i can only speak for myself but i think the truth is that i wouldn't have wanted to believe after making a connection as this woman obviously thought she had, that he just wasn't that into me.

                                                                                                                                                                                 To be fair, if I had felt the slightest  connection, why wouldn't I have asked for her number at the time?  It's not that I'm the greatest thing since sliced bread or that she's so awful - but you just don't fancy every woman on the planet.  Some women assume that they can pick and choose and that any guy will want them, maybe - I don't know.


You miss my point. She was given your number and assumed her interest in you was reciprocated.
 

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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/11/2009 10:46:07 AM   
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Well i can only speak for myself but i think the truth is that i wouldn't have wanted to believe after making a connection as this woman obviously thought she had, that he just wasn't that into me.
So instead i would have thought something along the lines of he accidently erased my number, he didn't get my text, he's busy blah blah blah.
I'm a bit of a dunce when it comes to this kind of stuff if i'm honest. I really am only just starting to get my shit together in the how to and understanding relationships department. Kind of tragic that it took me until the age of 35 to do so but at least i'm getting there now.


I always think as I do.  So if I really wanted to get in contact with someone and I lost the number, I would find a way to get it.  Friend of a friend of a friend - its still findable.  So, my first thought on that scenario is, he just isn't into me or he would find it.  If someone did lose the number and didn't have the ability to find it, then I just wouldn't be bothered because that would show me they aren't smart enough anyway.
 
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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/11/2009 10:48:15 AM   
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So, my first thought on that scenario is, he just isn't into me or he would find it. 
 
My thought too ..........now.
I have been very slow on the uptake with this stuff.

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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/11/2009 10:48:56 AM   
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"A bit flaky"?  Not since the acupuncture!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             Anyways, not to compare apples and oranges, but a vague suggestion about meeting up with a person you've never met and a random chick assuming that because she's interested; you're also interested, are two very different things.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Best wishes to you both. 


Hehe... sorry RL... I just meant that if they wanted to date, then they would find it.  If they couldn't, to me that's flaky and vague and so nothing to worry about.
 
Yeah, we are well.  If a bit cold!  Hope you are well too!
 
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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/11/2009 10:49:33 AM   
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Agreed but in the story you shared you said your friend gave her your number. She may well have presumed you had asked him to give her it and therefore her interest was reciprocated.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Yeah, I didn't describe that too well.  Now I see the confusion.  She asked about me after I left and he - knowing she was just not my type - thought it would be funny to pass it on.  Hopefully, he went no further.                                                                                                                                                                                To be fair to him, he didn't think she'd get ignored totally and that I'd do the gentlemanly thing and show her around but what can I say, he thought wrong!  And to be fair to her, he probably said I was single, when I was actually dealing with someone.  But I never asked her out or gave her the idea I was keen.                                                                                                                                                                                          I heard something on the radio the other day which strung me as quite true:  That dating isn't very "British" because it's too openly judgmental.  As teenagers we hang out in packs and then pounce on each other - Aussies are like that, too - and maybe it's a better way of doing things?

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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/11/2009 10:54:09 AM   
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Yeah, I didn't describe that too well.  Now I see the confusion.  She asked about me after I left and he - knowing she was just not my type - thought it would be funny to pass it on.  Hopefully, he went no further.   

Ok i see. If he went no further than saying heres his number then she should not have been so offended as not to recieve a call. However if he went further with it then i can understand her frustration that you ignored her. Not to the point of her going mentalist on your ass though lol.
 
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I heard something on the radio the other day which strung me as quite true:  That dating isn't very "British" because it's too openly judgmental.  As teenagers we hang out in packs and then pounce on each other - Aussies are like that, too - and maybe it's a better way of doing things?

Huh? Can you explain what you mean here?

                            

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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/11/2009 11:14:57 AM   
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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/11/2009 3:32:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		Everything in the OP is true except the pursuing part.  If I get even a whiff of interest from a woman I'm interested in then I'll let my interest be known but not long ago a co worker relocated cross country and after her going away party she rather angrily and drunkenly complained that I never made a pass. Besides my obvious preferences that kept me from asking her out there was also the fact that she never gave the slightest indication she was interested.

Really speaking for myself, and a lot of others I'm pretty sure, ladies if you are interested, tell the guy. You may think you're sending the right signals but men and women apparently have completely different ideas of what an obvious signal of interest is.

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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/11/2009 4:55:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RL                          I heard something on the radio the other day which strung me as quite true:  That dating isn't very "British" because it's too openly judgmental.  As teenagers we hang out in packs and then pounce on each other - Aussies are like that, too - and maybe it's a better way of doing things?

Huh? Can you explain what you mean here?

                            
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Looking back, it sounds a bit like I was someone developing an interest in crowd scenes!  No, this guy was just suggesting that the "date" is by nature really about judging each other and that being in the company of several others to begin with removes that problem.  They aren't "right" or "wrong" for you, but you get a rounded idea of how they are, in a less inquisatorial way.   It's been a long day and I haven't put that all that well but you get the idea, I'm sure.                                               

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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/11/2009 4:59:18 PM   
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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/11/2009 5:00:20 PM   
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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/11/2009 8:10:37 PM   
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...It starts with 'if he's not asking you out'.

I'd say "bullshit" to this one, along with the whole "guys need to pursue" crapola.
In the past I've lost the girl because I have been slow as molasses, especially if I worked or went to school with her. Never felt there was a rush and thought there was plenty of time to get to know her.
(Maybe that's part of what I like about meeting people on line: intentions are so much more up front, generally.)
I think the premise in question is generally inept and lackadaisically sexist thinking.
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If he's not calling you.

If you already are dating, then yes, he should be considerate.
If you don't really know each other yet, then who knows.
While the signs may point to "No", I don't know if you can conclude definitively.
I've heard rules like "he should call within 3 days" but things could happen...
Maybe this is just me, though, as I'm probably the last person in North America not to have a cell phone.
Like Ishi the Last Yahi.
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If he's not dating you.

If you are dating and he's not dating you, then I would agree that this is a bad sign.
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If he's not having sex with you.

Yup.

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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/12/2009 12:55:15 AM   
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This is so funny!  Especially the accidental sex bit...


Yup and yet slightly sobering for those of us or me lol who has accepted 'it was an accident' as a valid reason in the past.


Here I am talking to a girl I know wants to fuck me. She is telling me how I will be hers. I tell her I'm taken and not running around on my girl. I get a text on my phone i pick it up to check it. In the time It take me to look down at my phone she has unzipped me and stuck my dick in her mouth. Game over for me. No matter how much I tried to prevent this once the dick is in her mouth my options are none. Not like I can just punch her in the face til she lets go. And you got those teeth to worry about. Not something that's likely to happen to a guy. But if it did, he has no options.

Or maybe you go to a party and drink and go to a room to sleep. You wake up in the morning and some girl is blowing you. Soon as you recognize what's going on guess who walks in? Or switch it. Maybe one of you girls wake up to some guy licking you into oblivion. And in walks your man as you come into full consciousness. Even though it's not your fault, how do you explain that?

Sometimes accidents do happen. And sometimes you accidently on purpose fucked somebody.

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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/12/2009 1:16:23 AM   
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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/12/2009 2:02:21 AM   
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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/12/2009 3:01:00 AM   
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