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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/12/2009 3:58:20 AM   
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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/12/2009 4:22:40 AM   
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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/12/2009 7:48:55 AM   
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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/12/2009 7:56:06 AM   
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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/12/2009 8:21:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		ok...so what if the guy calls you all the time...wants to be with you all the time...dates you and spends lots of quality time with you...takes you to family functions and even has you move in with him...sleep together in same bed...hug, hold, kiss, snuggle...but no actual intercourse...just blowjobs?????  what is that?????  he is definitely not getting intercourse anywhere else...and it getting more and more emotionally bonded...almost needy...but still no f#cking??????
 
do you think the 'erectile dysfuction' comes in here somewhere?  lasts long enough for a bj but not long enough for sex? or is he just into my home cooking...lol

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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/12/2009 8:38:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		The entire concept of the book (or movie) on this subject is mere common sense.  There is no miscommunication on my behalf if someone isn't interested I just know it and frankly I don't lose sleep over it. lol

The premise can flop to be gender-blind and a 'she' can not be that into you either. 

Anyhoo, if a person IS interested you would know it. 

Having to second guess if they are is like being in 2nd grade again and wondering if that pigtail tug was cuz the boy liked you or hated you. Eye contact, attention, closeness, sincerity in speech is all one needs to get a true and genuine feeling that he/she is 'into' you.  Without any of these basic subtle yet obvious body language actions you are barking up the wrong tree. 


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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/12/2009 1:54:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		I completely agree that most of what the book says is just plain old common sense. However some people, myself included may not have any dating common sense.
Plus there is the side of the book that drills into you that you are worth so much more than being with a man who may not be that into you. We all know just from reading the boards here that many just put up with shit because they feel worthy of nothing else or they don't want to be alone. Feck i've done it and recently too.

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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/12/2009 2:05:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've read the book and I think for some women, it is necessary reading.  Same thing with "The Rules", some women tend to be needy and over-agressive in the pursuit, then wonder why things don't work out.  If they read these books it may help them understand how the minds of (many) men work.  It will also teach them how to become more attractive to the men they actually want to be long-term partnered with.

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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/12/2009 2:40:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		I completely agree. I'm not ashamed to say i've learnt some things from reading this book and that i'll be ordering the rules to have a read through too.

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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/13/2009 1:44:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well, does he do anything to get you off too?  Does he use his hands, mouth and vibrators or dildos on you?  It could be that he has ED and/or performance anxiety and of course the way to a man's heart is often through his stomch. 



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ORIGINAL: urlittleprincess
do you think the 'erectile dysfuction' comes in here somewhere?  lasts long enough for a bj but not long enough for sex? or is he just into my home cooking...lol


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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/13/2009 4:58:50 AM   
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ORIGINAL: urlittleprincess

ok...so what if the guy calls you all the time...wants to be with you all the time...dates you and spends lots of quality time with you...takes you to family functions and even has you move in with him...sleep together in same bed...hug, hold, kiss, snuggle...but no actual intercourse...just blowjobs?????  what is that?????  he is definitely not getting intercourse anywhere else...and it getting more and more emotionally bonded...almost needy...but still no f#cking??????
 
do you think the 'erectile dysfuction' comes in here somewhere?  lasts long enough for a bj but not long enough for sex? or is he just into my home cooking...lol

A) A lazy selfish prick?

B) Saving intercourse for his marriage night?

A is 99% more likely

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Edited to say: I was making an attempt at light-hearted humor, and my second thoughts are:
Maybe he is satisfying you in other ways.
Have you asked him why?
Have you said you needed more, or different?

Needs and wants: It is super important to communicate these.



< Message edited by MissEnchanted -- 2/13/2009 7:11:25 AM >

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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/13/2009 5:13:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: urlittleprincess

ok...so what if the guy calls you all the time...wants to be with you all the time...dates you and spends lots of quality time with you...takes you to family functions and even has you move in with him...sleep together in same bed...hug, hold, kiss, snuggle...but no actual intercourse...just blowjobs?????  what is that?????  he is definitely not getting intercourse anywhere else...and it getting more and more emotionally bonded...almost needy...but still no f#cking??????
 
do you think the 'erectile dysfuction' comes in here somewhere?  lasts long enough for a bj but not long enough for sex? or is he just into my home cooking...lol


Have you tried asking him why?

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RE: He's just not that into you........loving it !! - 2/13/2009 4:19:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: urlittleprincess

ok...so what if the guy calls you all the time...wants to be with you all the time...dates you and spends lots of quality time with you...takes you to family functions and even has you move in with him...sleep together in same bed...hug, hold, kiss, snuggle...but no actual intercourse...just blowjobs?????  what is that?????  he is definitely not getting intercourse anywhere else...and it getting more and more emotionally bonded...almost needy...but still no f#cking??????
 
do you think the 'erectile dysfuction' comes in here somewhere?  lasts long enough for a bj but not long enough for sex? or is he just into my home cooking...lol

A. He prefers oral to regular sex.
B. He doesn't want to wear a condom and you're not on birth control
C. He's lazy.

I'd lean pretty heavily to C but ask, I know I'd rather get a bare BJ then fuck while wearing a condom.

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