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babygirl1065 -> Begging (2/12/2009 7:19:33 AM)

I enjoy reading the replies here and often find some interesting view points. With that said I was hoping that I might ask for some suggestions for my situation. My Dom has asked me to beg at certain times during a scene. I have never really done this before and while I tried...I haven't even a clue what to say. This might seem like something that should just come naturally...but the words aren't there for me yet. I imagine he will ask this of me again and I would very much like to please him next time. For example, I am on my knees and he has my hair in his hands as I suck him...if he pulls me off and asks me to beg. "Tell me how much you want it" . I replied and he said "you will need to do better than that". I agree but I draw a blank. Any ideas? Or even a book/story that you have seen a good example of this?    



Aileen1968 -> RE: Begging (2/12/2009 7:26:16 AM)

The only time I can beg effectively is if I'm actually begging for something that I either want or don't want. If I'm required to do it then I sound like a sucky actress. He was doing something to me the other day....I begged and pleaded for him to stop. It was honest and not planned. The fucker continued to do it harder.... But yeah, begging has to come naturally for me or it sounds like a B movie.



hejira92 -> RE: Begging (2/12/2009 7:48:07 AM)

When we first started, I would try to think of things to say so I wouldn't sound so dumb. It backfired- I sounded worse. Finally, I stopped worrying about the words and concentrated on the feeling. Even if I was only repeating "Please", if it sounded genuine and came from within me, then THAT was what He was looking for.
 
Also, the more I trusted and the less I worried about my own vulnerability, the easier begging became.



feydeplume -> RE: Begging (2/12/2009 8:11:53 AM)

Your D may have some ideas about what he means by begging. Make it a training game to try various styles of begging and see which one's he actually likes and which one's make him laugh. He has the desire to hear "begging" but that comes in lots of forms and styles so find out which one(s) hit his buttons. 



agirl -> RE: Begging (2/12/2009 9:55:25 AM)

Don't worry, you're not alone in this by any stretch of the imagination and it doesn't come naturally for a LOT of people in the situation you described

I will beg, though I prefer the word plead, IF I genuinely want something to stop or for it to continue.

I'm a little curious what people get from this begging lark......it always sounds a little like *Who's a naughty girl then?* ...in a rather dodgy puppet show.

It would be interesting to hear from doms that like it or want it, whether it's genuine or not.

agirl



chainedgirl -> RE: Begging (2/12/2009 10:38:12 AM)

I've only begged once. A situation came up with terrified me and I begged not to have to do it. The emotion behind it was genuine. It seemed to turn Master on because of the vulnerability shown in the fear.



beltainefaerie -> RE: Begging (2/12/2009 11:49:33 AM)

I have a very hard time begging too.  Partially due to the perfectionist desire to be pleasing and do it "right" and partially because what I want is for him to do as he pleases with me, so it is hard to ask for anything, let alone beg.  I am slowly getting over this as I realize that hearing me beg is what he wants. 



hejira92 -> RE: Begging (2/12/2009 11:54:58 AM)

I so understand this. I am finally getting to where I can beg for something to stop- it is part of His enjoyment of "the damsel in distress". 
 
I've even asked if I could resist and yell "no!"- not because He would, or I think I could have any effect, just because I think it would be part of the cathartic experience for me and just reinforce how little control I have. He has said maybe in the future, but for now, He enjoys too much how I try to take anything He gives.



BigSi2009 -> RE: Begging (2/12/2009 12:30:35 PM)

I love to hear a girl beg me to do something.  To me its just a form of dirty talk, but one that emphasizes the content more.  So consider "I want to feel your cum on me Sir" as dirty talk vs "Please Sir, cum on me" as begging.  Obviously it also has a lot to do with the tone of the voice which has to make it sound so sincere that it comes across as the most important thing in the world at that particular moment (kinda like you need it to survive).  I think the Oliver Twist line "Please Sir can I have some more" is a good example of how to beg well (though I can't recall which actor performed it best in my opinion).



littleone35 -> RE: Begging (2/12/2009 1:11:47 PM)

Master never asked me to beg but sometimes when he is teasing me i will.  Usually all i can get out is please, please Master.  It is not a big thing for us but he loves to tease me and i love to be teased to a point.  When that point is reached is when i start to beg and plead.  of course that has no effect on what he is doing he will keep doing it as long as he wants.  So i beg and he does whatever makes him happy. Which makes me happy.

Matt's littleone



akisha -> RE: Begging (2/12/2009 3:46:27 PM)

I sound like a complete dork when I'm begging cause he told me to. If he says "You need to do better then that" my knee jerk reaction is to say "fuck it I didn't really want it that bad anyway"

Like Aileen, begging only works for me if I'm truly in need of something to start or stop. The rest of the time being told to beg is a total mood killer for me. IF asked I'll give it the ole college try, if I'm told it's not good enough I tend to shut down and then all the fun stops anyway cause I really just don't give a damn and he can feel that.

I'm a terrible liar and faking never has worked for me either. It's either there or it's not. [:o]

So as for how to better improve your begging skills..... you could try practicing in front of the mirror everyday until you come up with something that sounds convincing instead of like a badly said line in a school play I guess.

Sorry not very helpful I know [:D]



subangi -> RE: Begging (2/12/2009 3:52:42 PM)

I am in the same boat as you are....need some hints, examples....please?



persephonee -> RE: Begging (2/12/2009 3:55:13 PM)

i had a dentist like that once....well, sort of like that[8D]



hejira92 -> RE: Begging (2/12/2009 3:56:37 PM)

Reach deep, deep down and be totally vulnerable- say anything that you find down there- no matter how dirty or dark you think it might be- that's usually what he wants- the unvarnished truth of your helplessness and desire.



sensura -> RE: Begging (2/12/2009 4:43:43 PM)

I am surprised at how many have a hard time with begging. For me it is easy and I enjoy it. Your words and tone are what will get him. Of course sincerity helps. Begging gives a Master/Mistress a feeling of power which is what they want naturally. I also shows your vulnerbility. Begging is a definite turn on,  The more you do it the more natural it will become

kind regards

sensura



DesFIP -> RE: Begging (2/12/2009 5:03:29 PM)

Since I go very nonverbal during good play, and if I am verbal I really don't want anything badly enough to beg, we have had this same problem. Our solution was for him to tell me what he wanted to hear. "You really want my cock down your throat, don't you?" gets a response of "Yes, please, shove it down my throat". This way I don't freeze up being unable to think and I don't get pulled out of headspace abruptly. And the next time he asks, I have this sentence memorized.

Going like this, after a while, I have rote answers which come to mind when necessary and he gets to hear the exact phrases that turn him on.



sravaka -> RE: Begging (2/12/2009 6:20:33 PM)

I'm so with Akisha on this--  being commanded to beg when I'm not independently inclined to do so jolts me out of the moment and turns me into observer rather than participant.  I try...  but it never feels right or convincing.  It also turns the whole business into role play, which is not my thing. 

It's a problem.  Nice to know it's not just me, though.





slaveadora -> RE: Begging (2/12/2009 6:37:45 PM)

That's exactly what happens to this slave when Master tells her to beg...its comforting to know shes not the only one.



CatdeMedici -> RE: Begging (2/12/2009 7:43:00 PM)

begging=whining, can't abide whining-- the boy would end up gagged and not in a nice way.



MarcEsadrian -> RE: Begging (2/12/2009 8:32:58 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: babygirl1065

I enjoy reading the replies here and often find some interesting view points. With that said I was hoping that I might ask for some suggestions for my situation. My Dom has asked me to beg at certain times during a scene. I have never really done this before and while I tried...I haven't even a clue what to say. This might seem like something that should just come naturally...but the words aren't there for me yet.


In my experience, it's often more fascinating to see it silently conveyed, in whole-body gestures and expressions. Verbalization has its place, but tends to be overrated.



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