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Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... - 2/12/2009 11:35:21 AM

LadyExcrutia

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I just wanted to ask....what would your thoughts be when your husband, who submits to you and tells you everything, who does everything you say and loves to please you, living for it looking for your approval and happiness for years, and whom you think you know perfectly, suddenly shows an skill he didn't have nor learned while at your side, and doesn't give you a credible explanation for it?

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RE: Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... - 2/12/2009 11:38:11 AM

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Carpentry?

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RE: Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... - 2/12/2009 11:39:16 AM

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That he's naturally talented. Sometimes people just have a knack for things.

Without more detailed information, I can't give you a better answer.

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RE: Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... - 2/12/2009 11:43:24 AM

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That might depend on the skill...

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RE: Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... - 2/12/2009 11:58:10 AM

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One too many barefoot romps in the Hamptons with Ina?

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RE: Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... - 2/12/2009 12:00:23 PM

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Perhaps he's recently begun reading Cosmo?

Edited for grammar.

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RE: Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... - 2/12/2009 12:01:22 PM

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A lot can be learned from books, online and just by visualizing doing something. What is the skill ?

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RE: Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... - 2/12/2009 12:34:02 PM

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It does bother me much

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RE: Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... - 2/12/2009 12:35:41 PM

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Why does it bother you?

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RE: Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... - 2/12/2009 12:37:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyExcrutia

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A lot can be learned from books, online and just by visualizing doing something. What is the skill ?

My brother is still in the Army and he took us down to a firing range at a club and showed off on their shooting range. He just took his gun and like it was the wild west, drew it fast and emptied the clip on a target....then he taunted my husband into it and like he is sometimes, he took the gun and did the same, but he wasn't even looking at the 3 target silhouettes he shot at. Untilt hat day, and after almost 5 years together, he had never even said he knew how to fire a gun, let alone like that.

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RE: Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... - 2/12/2009 12:43:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyExcrutia

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A lot can be learned from books, online and just by visualizing doing something. What is the skill ?

My brother is still in the Army and he took us down to a firing range at a club and showed off on their shooting range. He just took his gun and like it was the wild west, drew it fast and emptied the clip on a target....then he taunted my husband into it and like he is sometimes, he took the gun and did the same, but he wasn't even looking at the 3 target silhouettes he shot at. Untilt hat day, and after almost 5 years together, he had never even said he knew how to fire a gun, let alone like that.

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Some people are natural born aces at certain things. Or, it was beginners luck, which happens.

Hmm..I need to learn how to do this editing thing without messing up my posts...anyways....my husband also defended me and beat up 3 street punks who tried to snatch my purse as we took a walk. He did it against 3 young and able men with knives. And he moved like he was one of the power rangers. I don't see how he could learn in the nearly 5 years we have together, to do this, but now I am worried and I see him work out to keep his physique, it makes me thinkt hat he isn't an athlete maitaining his level, but more like a butcher sharpening his culling blade, worries me much.

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RE: Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... - 2/12/2009 12:57:34 PM

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Ooo, I saw this movie... It was Mr. and Mrs Smith right?...

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RE: Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... - 2/12/2009 1:05:49 PM

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Frankly, I think you are making much ado about nothing. Be flattered that he loved you enough to do what he did.

Good grief, what a thing to whine about!!

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RE: Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... - 2/12/2009 1:12:07 PM

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A badass protector man? Huzzah! Be happy and proud!

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RE: Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... - 2/12/2009 2:18:36 PM

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I adore Ina... I want her chained in my kitchen giving me all that love she gives Jeffery...

and when she needs rest, Nigella.. naked... smiling at me all the while...

whooo.. mop up on aisle Madame4a ...

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One too many barefoot romps in the Hamptons with Ina?

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RE: Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... - 2/12/2009 2:21:08 PM

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Survival instincts shouldn't be held against someone. Fear that one they love could be harmed or fear period brings out survival instincts. If you wish to make more of it as if you are threatened, I think you make a huge mistake. The guy did what many would do. I can be a calm lil person until I think something is coming down... then I have amazed people with what I can do, taking on up to four men, not five though. Yet, in love with someone.. I cannot harm them. Period. But the other guys, the threat's... I will take them out by sheer determination alone. When it is me or them... and I have been there... that's how I know the number's thing... I plan on winning and I am still here. I might have been lucky... and might not be so lucky the next time if there is one... but I was then and that is what matter's. You are safe... why not be proud that he was able to take care of you both and them as needed... why make it something dark and ugly?

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RE: Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... - 2/12/2009 2:33:57 PM

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Agree with Lockit... ever hear of the stories of a mother lifting or pushing a truck... or the people who save someone who are stuck on train tracks... it is the same thing... it is a matter of biochemistry: adrenaline.

He is not a monster but a man who loves you and was able to do this extraordinary thing due to the fight or flight respnse.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fight-or-flight_response

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RE: Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... - 2/12/2009 2:51:24 PM

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What you described, to me, is either a big case of "beginner's luck" (which I have seen on more than one occassion), or at some point your husband developed his handgun skill to a certain level and has been taking "mental reps" since that time in his life. If he hasn't been shooting to keep a skill level up, he's been thinking about shooting to take his mental reps.

I think having a loving husband who has some personal defensive skills would be a bonus as well. Not everyone that has learned to shoot has bad intentions - some are "sheep dogs" that only want to keep loved ones safe.

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RE: Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... - 2/12/2009 2:54:33 PM

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What you described, to me, is either a big case of "beginner's luck" (which I have seen on more than one occassion), or at some point your husband developed his handgun skill to a certain level and has been taking "mental reps" since that time in his life. If he hasn't been shooting to keep a skill level up, he's been thinking about shooting to take his mental reps.

I think having a loving husband who has some personal defensive skills would be a bonus as well. Not everyone that has learned to shoot has bad intentions - some are "sheep dogs" that only want to keep loved ones safe.

Actually, she said he beat them up.

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RE: Marriage, BDSM and secrets.... - 2/12/2009 3:11:50 PM

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Well perhaps men who attempt assault with knives deserve a knock on the head. :P

OP, I don't think it's anything to worry about. Your man has ballz (not balls... most guys have those and it's different

) . It's kind of hot!

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