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feydeplume -> RE: Tell the truth............ wink (2/14/2009 4:26:46 PM)

It is always nice when it can start and go well and end gently for all parties. That is the way best. Every now and then someone gets past our "has issues that are so not going to be helped by being part of poly love", i think that is a nice way of putting it. 



clearlightblack -> RE: Tell the truth............ wink (2/14/2009 6:04:07 PM)

<------ way too jealous for that kind of play......



feydeplume -> RE: Tell the truth............ wink (2/14/2009 6:12:43 PM)

Then you probably wouldn't go hitting on my M and if you did, the radar ping of "bad idea" would go off (alarms and red flashing lights and all) and we would buy you some coffee and sit with you til you sobered up enough to get home safely in a cab. I can only assume that you would even entertain such a thought if you were so drunk that you were seeing 3 of him or me.

And Kudos for knowing what you want and don't want. Seriously, way too many people try to make themselves want things for bad reasons. Rock on with your monogamous lifestyle and I wish you a lovely, wonderful like-minded lover!



Huntertn -> RE: Tell the truth............ wink (2/14/2009 7:44:14 PM)

If the original couple is strong...add another will not hurt...sure, there are times a 3d might want the Dom partner for herself, but they usually only end up hurting themselves with self delusions. I agree if the original partners break up it just was Not strong enough to begin with



chainedgirl -> RE: Tell the truth............ wink (2/15/2009 8:04:11 AM)

In one relationship, I suggested my Dom play with a transexual friend of ours, who had come out of a bad relationship. Not long after, he informed me he was also into cross dressing and 'Domme-ing'. I said it was fine, just not with me, go ahead and do this with someone else. He did and as far as I know, he and the transexual friend are still together.

With my Master now, i have suggested he play with others and even found some profiles for him to look at. Our relationship is rock solid. We fully trust each other, but he has also seen the side of me if I think things are getting out of hand. We both want to have another girl join us one day down the track, but she has to be someone we both agree to. And there will be very strict rules put in place about what each person's role is and what we can all expect out of this and each other.



sparkyRBF -> RE: Tell the truth............ wink (2/15/2009 2:19:04 PM)

We have had 3 different women join into our relationship.   Master met these women and introduced them to me and then i welcomed them into the relationship.   Two of the three are now out of our lives completely, one on bad terms, the third is still a very good and dear friend.  i believe each of these relationships has helped to make the relationship with Master stronger. 

I have seen two seperate marriages that have ended when the new girl came into the relationship.    But i can't say they ended because of the new person.  Who knows if they ended because of lack of communication, or grew apart, or realized different goals, or the million other reasons relationships end.



monywildcat -> RE: Tell the truth............ wink (2/15/2009 5:23:44 PM)

In my previous relationship, a third was brought in, and it was like opening up a Pandora's box.  The shit totally hit the fan, flaws in our what we thought was a strong relationship came boiling to the surface, the ulterior motive for adding to our numbers was brought out and needless to say we are divorced now.  But, even if we had not done so, I'm confident that the end was a long time coming anyways. 



cravesdom -> RE: Tell the truth............ wink (2/16/2009 12:37:23 AM)

I was once the third brought into an existing relationship. At first it went well. She told me how much she wanted a sister sub and acted like my friend. After I moved in and was there all the time, she started getting really jealous of any attention that was given to me. She would pout and whine until he was forced to give her attention instead. I tried to put myself in her shoes and be understanding, but eventually I told him that I could not handle the situation any longer and if he couldn't fix it, I was leaving. He chose to do nothing. I left. Then she left him soon after.

I know some people are very successful with poly relationships. He was not one of those people. I am not a jealous person at all, but I have a hard time dealing with jealousy from someone else, especially if I feel it is not warranted.



antipode -> RE: Tell the truth............ wink (2/16/2009 2:16:32 AM)

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How many sub/slave females here brought another female in the mix for her master and that situation ended up ruining your relationship?


Another oneliner. It is so much nicer if the question is part of a conversation - there must be a reason for your asking..



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Tell the truth............ wink (2/16/2009 5:51:06 AM)

the direct opposite happened to me 3yrs ago.

former dominant wanted me to find a 3rd, 4th, 5th, et al to add to his stable of women (single/married - he didn't care) despite my objections.  i walked away the relationship and never looked back.

he did contact me about a year ago demanding why i left without his permission and that i complete the task he gave me. i replied that he wanted this more than i did despite knowing i'm not interested in women and then i blocked him.



Lynnxz -> RE: Tell the truth............ wink (2/16/2009 6:03:51 AM)

I was playing around with a couple around a year ago, their relationship blew up shortly after, but it was due to (surprisingly) the male's jealous attitude, he couldn't even deal with her leaving the house.

*Edit*

What's with the "wink"?



ranja -> RE: Tell the truth............ wink (2/16/2009 1:07:32 PM)

If it is to spice things up or just a bit of fun i think maybe hire a professional or get a blow up, best not fool around with friends or neighbours...unless that is exactly your thing



Lynnxz -> RE: Tell the truth............ wink (2/16/2009 1:35:31 PM)

I cannot tell if you are responding to me, or the OP, as friends and neigbors has nothing to do with anything anyone said.

That being said, I already am a pro-whatever. I cannot hire another one, I think it cancels out or something. And why not play around with your friends? They are, after all, your friends- you should know if they're into it or not.

*You* may be too ashamed to play spankie with a close friend, but I am not.... [8|]



ranja -> RE: Tell the truth............ wink (2/17/2009 1:12:52 AM)

oh, having some problems with this system at times, computer illterate and all.
Poly in reality does not hold any interest for me, for others it might be a need.
As for a couple fooling around with a third...



ranja -> RE: Tell the truth............ wink (2/17/2009 1:30:25 AM)

Soz Lynnxz, I was indeed reponding to the op, i thought that was obvious alltho indeed i pressed the wrong button.
I do not see why a pro could not hire another one but it might be indeed a bit uneccesary, and you play spankie with your friends anytime you like...why not, like i said: if it turns you on.
Personally it is not me feeling ashamed as you assume, that prevents me from playing so, as the shame would rather add to the experience if you get my drift...i just prefer not to jeopardise my friendships thus, some things in my opinion better stay in the imagination.
Then again everybody to their own. I know of several people who have 'played' with their neighbours as they can become such good friends and i have witnessed the disasterous consequenses alltho i suspect some even enjoy the drama of the whole jealous splitting up stuff.
Do what ever rocks your boat but i stand by my earlier observation



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