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ORIGINAL: rubberpet


While I agree with you that he is technically owed nothing in regards to an explanation why, I do believe he, as well as anyone else, is entitled to an honest reply.  Lynnxz, I think if you wrote to someone that really interested you and they completely blew you off with what you thought was a lame excuse, I think you'd be annoyed and would certainly appreciate an honest explanation why.  I think anyone that gets blown off feels the same way.  I know I would.  It's just common courtesy.  Unfortunately, not everyone on here seems to have manners.
 
I think it's just human nature to question why you are turned down or rejected.  The guy has a curiosity.  I don't think it's unreasonable.

I don't want to hijack this thread but I completely disagree with you. If someone writes to me on this site, I feel no obligation to reply. I didn't ask them to write to me. So if I answered ever single lame email I recieved that said "hi", I would be spending hours and hours answering emails. I also don't feel I owe anyone an explanation if I am not interested in them. For one, I don't want to be rude or hurt their feelings. I simply say "I am sorry I am not interested". Unless they really want to hear the truth, that they are too old or too fat or not domly enough. If someone says to me they are not interested, I leave it at that, because I don't really want to know the reasons.

It is not common courtesy for me to reply to any honry net geek who feels the need to contact me. BTW it clearly states on my profile that I am not seeking anything, and I probably get 20 emails a day, sometimes it doesn't matter what you write in a profile does it?

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ORIGINAL: rubberpet

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ORIGINAL: lilgirl2008

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ORIGINAL: rubberpet


While I agree with you that he is technically owed nothing in regards to an explanation why, I do believe he, as well as anyone else, is entitled to an honest reply.  Lynnxz, I think if you wrote to someone that really interested you and they completely blew you off with what you thought was a lame excuse, I think you'd be annoyed and would certainly appreciate an honest explanation why.  I think anyone that gets blown off feels the same way.  I know I would.  It's just common courtesy.  Unfortunately, not everyone on here seems to have manners.
 
I think it's just human nature to question why you are turned down or rejected.  The guy has a curiosity.  I don't think it's unreasonable.

I don't want to hijack this thread but I completely disagree with you. If someone writes to me on this site, I feel no obligation to reply. I didn't ask them to write to me. So if I answered ever single lame email I recieved that said "hi", I would be spending hours and hours answering emails. I also don't feel I owe anyone an explanation if I am not interested in them. For one, I don't want to be rude or hurt their feelings. I simply say "I am sorry I am not interested". Unless they really want to hear the truth, that they are too old or too fat or not domly enough. If someone says to me they are not interested, I leave it at that, because I don't really want to know the reasons.

It is not common courtesy for me to reply to any honry net geek who feels the need to contact me. BTW it clearly states on my profile that I am not seeking anything, and I probably get 20 emails a day, sometimes it doesn't matter what you write in a profile does it?

I see your point.  No one is under any obligation to give a reason why they aren't interested.  I agree with that 100%.  The point I was trying to make was if he took time and put effort into writing a nice, well-written intro letter to someone that was clearly looking with similar interests, I feel the least the recipient can do is have the courtesy to offer a gentle letdown instead of a blow-off if not interested.  I've had a few dommes respond with a gentle rejection, so when I did receive their replies, I was OK with it and moved on.  When I did get blown off, it hurt my feelings and upset me a bit.  Courtesy and compassion aren't difficult to do, but I guess some people are more courteous than others.
 
Now if he sent a letter to someone who isn't looking like the rest of the horny trolls out there just looking for jerkoff material, then I don't think a reply is even necessary.  Delete and ignore, easy as that.
 
I just think a little common courtesy to those sincerely looking isn't such a bad thing.  Put yourself in their shoes and see how much you'd like to be blown off.  I can tell you it isn't a nice feeling.  Being rejected is not a pleasant experience to start with.  Being rudely blown off after a sincere intro hurts worse.

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ORIGINAL: Morniel

Well for one thing, keep in mind that LATEX is not the same as RUBBER.  I know a lot of people who are horrendously allergic to latex (as someone above mentioned, allergies of many kinds are on the rise, possibly as a reaction to the way we manufacture things and so forth) but I know only a few people who are allergic to rubber.

Just something to keep in mind; the words may be "interchangable" when discussing fetish and scene play, but the SUBSTANCES are not interchangable, and are two different things.

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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

Most wearable rubber does have latex, but there are some kinds of rubber that do not. There are lots of rubber toys which are made of silicone or other hypoallergenic rubber, but most of them don't have the "stretchiness" needed for rubber clothing. I suppose they could make nitrile clothes, but so far, I've only seen gloves. I have seen rubber bondage tape that is non-latex.

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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

Most wearable rubber does have latex, but there are some kinds of rubber that do not. There are lots of rubber toys which are made of silicone or other hypoallergenic rubber, but most of them don't have the "stretchiness" needed for rubber clothing. I suppose they could make nitrile clothes, but so far, I've only seen gloves. I have seen rubber bondage tape that is non-latex.

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ORIGINAL: Morniel

Well for one thing, keep in mind that LATEX is not the same as RUBBER.  I know a lot of people who are horrendously allergic to latex (as someone above mentioned, allergies of many kinds are on the rise, possibly as a reaction to the way we manufacture things and so forth) but I know only a few people who are allergic to rubber.

Just something to keep in mind; the words may be "interchangable" when discussing fetish and scene play, but the SUBSTANCES are not interchangable, and are two different things.

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Latex is technically the sap from the rubber tree.

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Rubber on the other hand can be made via petrochemicals sythetically without latex.

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Latex allergy is a reaction to a protein in the sap of the rubber tree.

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There's one other thing to keep in mind as well, and that's that a lot of people in the health industry will avoid latex as much as possible because you can develop a latex allergy, so they put themselves into minimal contact with it. I never knew this until I actually worked for a hospital system where I saw this firsthand.

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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

I consider "rubber" to be a generic term which encompasses natural latex rubber from trees, and synthetics with a rubbery texture. YMMV. Anyway, some people are very sensitive to products which are billed as latex, but do not react to the more inert form, even of natural rubber. So, they say they're allergic to latex, since they can touch their car tires to inflate them, but can't wear a latex hood or whatever. Sure, it isn't scientifically accurate, but most people understand that usage.

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Her sensitivity to latex may have developed in the years since she filled out her profile.