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Help define me... - 2/14/2009 6:27:16 PM   
Ajime


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Status: offline 		So in my profile, I'm asked whether I'm a sub, a dom or a switch.  The truth is, I'm not sure.  I know I'm curious about exploring.  I know I prefer to be in control if there's any kind of power play.  I'm not a masochist, and don't really enjoy pain (I don't think). 

However, I do like strong women.  I don't think I would feel comfortable having a long term partner who considered me her master.  I tend to be equal and fair in relationships, and like a partner rather than a tag-along.

What do you think ... dom?  switch?  confused?

J.
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RE: Help define me... - 2/14/2009 6:33:02 PM   
FullCircle


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Status: offline 		My preliminary assessment lead me to believe that you be Switch and now you have been defined you shall never change!

< Message edited by FullCircle -- 2/14/2009 6:38:43 PM >

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RE: Help define me... - 2/14/2009 6:54:35 PM   
oceanwynds


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Status: offline 		cant help. Perhaps in time you will find where u are more comfortable at. i cant tell if i am a sub or slave, and so i just an s-type

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RE: Help define me... - 2/14/2009 7:02:38 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		You've expertly defined yourself as an explorer.  Try things and see how they work.  Then you will know.




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RE: Help define me... - 2/14/2009 7:07:51 PM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		You're a curious bloke. Carry on.

agirl

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RE: Help define me... - 2/14/2009 7:18:30 PM   
oceanwynds


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ORIGINAL: agirl

You're a curious bloke. Carry on.

agirl



Okay educate me what is a bloke?

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RE: Help define me... - 2/14/2009 7:24:04 PM   
Huntertn


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Status: offline 		Your just a Man...maybe you need strong girls in your life..so what? I know plenty of strong girls in my life too,,grins maybe you need a Dommie in yours as a equal..again so what..Not all Dommies are into pain..and for that matter either are all Dom's.and there are Households where this has happened...Huntertn

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RE: Help define me... - 2/14/2009 7:36:18 PM   
Ajime


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Status: offline 		Thanks for the replies so far!

Curious seems appropriate.  Explorer also seems appropriate.  I guess the next step would be finding someone to explore with!  It seem like with any singles site, there's limited success rates.  Where should one go to meet people with this interest in common?

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RE: Help define me... - 2/14/2009 7:47:21 PM   
feydeplume


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Status: offline 		bloke=Brit for guy or dude

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RE: Help define me... - 2/14/2009 8:01:45 PM   
Ajime


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Status: offline 		I know that!

We don't get called blokes often here, but we know what it means  ;)  We were a colony, after all!

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ORIGINAL: feydeplume

bloke=Brit for guy or dude


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RE: Help define me... - 2/14/2009 8:09:13 PM   
feydeplume


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Status: offline 		I was answering oceanwynds dude.

for easy of the little check a box thingy on the profiles, maybe switch and then IN your profile use those great words of explorer and curious. let your enthusiasm show.


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RE: Help define me... - 2/14/2009 8:12:30 PM   
oceanwynds


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Status: offline 		Awe, thanks Feydeplume
A block is a man..cool

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RE: Help define me... - 2/14/2009 8:16:22 PM   
RedMagic1


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Status: offline 		A good friend of mine once said to me, "You're definitely a Top, but I don't know if you're a Dom.  You're more of an erotic frontiersman."

Definitions.  Heh.  Meet people you like and do fucked up kinky shit with them.  I'm smiling as I type this.  Nuff said.


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RE: Help define me... - 2/14/2009 8:18:46 PM   
Ajime


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Status: offline 		Hey Fey,

Thanks for the advice and DOH!  Sorry, I didn't see Oceanwynds's reply .  I get it now!

J.

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RE: Help define me... - 2/14/2009 8:19:45 PM   
Kalista07


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Status: offline 		Guess what? i'm going to tell You a secret okay? But, You musn't tell anyone else...Ready? Here it is: You do not have to decide tonight.....

Kali


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RE: Help define me... - 2/14/2009 8:23:07 PM   
oceanwynds


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Status: offline 		You know was thinking about defining myself. I not sure what label fit the best, but i am more comfortable with being a submissive. This though carries over in other parts of my life. Now raised conservative Jewish, but follow the path of the Goddess, i not sure how to define me there either. To some i just say I am a Jewish witch:)

Explore and see where it takes you. Welcome to the boards Ajime

oceanwynds

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RE: Help define me... - 2/14/2009 8:29:55 PM   
dcnovice


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Definitions.  Heh.  Meet people you like and do fucked up kinky shit with them.  I'm smiling as I type this.  Nuff said.


This may be one of the best points made on the entire site.

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RE: Help define me... - 2/14/2009 8:47:02 PM   
Ajime


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Status: offline 		Kalista,

Thank you for your secret.  Mum's the word!

I don't really feel pressured to decide.  Obviously, I think that experience will be the teacher, and it might totally change my perception! 

Thank you Oceanwynds!

I like the advice about meeting people and doing fucked up kinky shit as well  :)  Here's hoping, anyhow...

< Message edited by Ajime -- 2/14/2009 8:48:44 PM >

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RE: Help define me... - 2/14/2009 9:49:29 PM   
chainedgirl


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Status: offline 		There are plenty of people in this scene who are fluid.  They start as a sub then become a dom or vice versa.  If you need to have a label, then at this point switch is probably best to go with as it leaves things open.

Have to say one thing on this, most doms who are good at it and natural prefer a submissive/slave who is a very strong independent woman in her own right and knows her own mind.  It means she doesn't bow down to just anyone, but takes an equally strong man she respects, which is a huge compliment to the dom (he was the one to tame her in a sense).  It also means he can trust her to look after herself if he's not around and to be able to look after herself if anything should happen to him.  Also, where is the challenge if she's 'yes' to everything all the time?

As for bloke, it men's a man in Australia too.

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RE: Help define me... - 2/14/2009 10:39:15 PM   
GoddessTeaze


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From: The Netherlands
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Ajime

So in my profile, I'm asked whether I'm a sub, a dom or a switch.  The truth is, I'm not sure.  I know I'm curious about exploring.  I know I prefer to be in control if there's any kind of power play.  I'm not a masochist, and don't really enjoy pain (I don't think). 

However, I do like strong women.  I don't think I would feel comfortable having a long term partner who considered me her master.  I tend to be equal and fair in relationships, and like a partner rather than a tag-along.

What do you think ... dom?  switch?  confused?

J.


Hello J,

What I don't get is ..
Why do you want to b put in a box?
you're A, B or C..?

What does that matter?

I've always hated that people wanted to put
Me in a box.. to b defined.

Why ?

Just be Your happy self and enjoy life !

Those are My two cents.

I wish You enough.

GoddezzT`


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