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RE: Questions..right or wrong.. - 2/20/2009 3:33:07 PM

PanthersMom

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seriously, you believed his bs about a "greater purpose"? and what was that supposed to be? lining his pockets? be glad all you got was ripped off for a little money and listened to his crap. think of how much worse it could have been if you'd lived with him. use more common sense next time honey, submissive does not mean doormat! find a man who values you for the person you are, not what he wants you to become.
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RE: Questions..right or wrong.. - 2/20/2009 3:50:18 PM

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I know where your coming from, before pet I 'dated' a 'guy' (I use that term loosely) that stated if I wanted him to keep me around I'd have to lose weight. I've always been on the chubby side since 2nd grade....most people in my family are in muli-digit hundreds when on the scale. I'm trim at family reunions but chubby. the idiot wanted me to lose weight so be as thin as the girl he was cheating on me with. he was a fat slob to start with but for some reason I agreed, when enough weight wasn't lost we had arguments. somehow I felt at that time I would never find anyone who would love me or who was "worthy" of me. I had low self esteem from being down trodden so much. Trust me there are many other fish in the sea, ones who will love you for you, no change needed. I have really good self esteem and know even though I'm squishy I'm also sexy because of who I am, my personality, the way I hold myself, and yes my curves are sexy. I've learned that there is more than meets the eye than trying to conform to the 'norm' that society attempts to fit everyone into.

Don't get me wrong I know there are many slender girls who are great as well and thats good too. But don't sell yourself short if you've got some curves and a few extra numbers on the scale. I've learned to hell with that. As long as I am able to look in the mirror and am happy with what I see and who I am then that's all that matters. What a guy says shouldn't mean anything if its degrading. It takes work and some time but its definately worth it. ~Lorelei

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RE: Questions..right or wrong.. - 2/21/2009 4:29:28 AM

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At 5'5" and 187, you are not that much overweight. Not at least in a health-medical sense.

It sounds like you are so hungry for a relationship that you put yourself last, downplay your needs, and stop thinking for yourself.

Is this the same guy you posted about wanting to collar you online before meetings?

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RE: Questions..right or wrong.. - 2/21/2009 1:15:05 PM

MARIEL

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No it is not the same guy. The other guy and me had discussion about the other topic last night. Well I have always been robust as a person, and I have exerised alot and I still do and now its even worse. I had a long relationship with this guy. He did complain,but he still accepted me until the episode. How can a person switch off their feelings(deeply in love) just like that,just because of something so plain? Or it mustve been an act?? Just did not get he wanted me to save money again. Well it IS easy to get into subfrenzy. Im not there all the time, but it do happens. I thought about this guy.. he was not around enough. He was working alot and we talked kinda like two times a week at last. So I recently discovered I totally went out of it.. not having him around making me feel like he wasnt there,at all. How on earth am I so able to fulfill his orders,I just wondering. Because Ive discovered if I just feel,that hes there, I have no problem! That was kind of an eyeopener because this guy made me believe he had to be away for work this much and had no time to be online(we were not living together,yet). Not even phone. But he just.. blamed me. I guess thats the deeper answers. But I mean,he shouldnt been doing what he did.

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RE: Questions..right or wrong.. - 2/21/2009 1:45:05 PM

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RE: Questions..right or wrong.. - 2/21/2009 1:48:26 PM

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In my opinion, he seems like an idiot and you should get rid of him as soon as possible. The money issue also seems highly suspicious. You need to find someone that accepts you as you are now. If they want to give you support for your weight loss, that's great. There is a difference between support and being an idiot who seems to have no idea the implications of weight loss.

Weight loss is hard. I've lost 50 and at my lowest, I lost 80 pounds. If you really do want to lose weight, you need to buy one scale and only use that scale for your weight ins. If you want to make sure it is working, you get your weight and grab a 5 pound weight. Step on the scale and if it says within 5 pounds or whatever size your weight is, it's working. For instance, my personal scale weighs me lighter than the WW scale and my doctors scale weighs me heavier than the WW scale. Although, the only number I take is the WW scale number. Now, everyone fluctuates their weight hour by hour, day by day. It gets worse if your muscles are sore or if you are near your TOM. It's best to weigh in once a week because of these fluctuations. If you are serious about losing weight, I know a GREAT weight loss support forum that can help you on the weight loss side of things. Just PM me for the addy. Don't know if I'm allowed to post other websites.

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RE: Questions..right or wrong.. - 2/21/2009 2:37:35 PM

MARIEL

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Well it was really weird everything about it, the guy were madly in love with me, and snap out of it at the drop of a hat, saying all this and ceased to communicate,exept brief mails where i was told all this about weightloss and accounts. Im really stunned if it all was a game to gain.. we had a real long relationship.. I had no idea what ever happened to the scales,i just know what I happen to know. Thats all. well my muscles are always sore because of all hard exersise I do. He ordered me to weigh myself each time as much as possible and it was doing my head in,especially when all those probs with the scales. And not only that also the pressure. well at least the other guy im talking to says he takes me as I am. That its not weight. I have told him.
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RE: Questions..right or wrong.. - 2/21/2009 6:03:18 PM

Zechriel

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Good evening!
Everyone is already saying things about this weight thing so I will not even go there. Daddy accepts my pudge the way it is. but I do wanna say something about being left in an airport. Short of an ice or snow storm, if I was ever left in your situation, I would have ended things right there. Your Master is supposed to take care of you, not leave you someplace with no money or anything. Or he should have made arrangements for you to go or be brought somewhere. HUGE red flag for me no matter how long I had known or been with someone. Depending on my feelings toward my Master there would have been some serious explaining on his part otherwise I would be gone. If I am that precious to you, then how do you treat me like this??

I am sure there is more to this airport story but this is what came across for me. Both Master and slave are obligated to each other. Sounds like he's not doing his part. Time to find a grown up Master, not a player on a power trip. Just my opinion. Goo luck.
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RE: Questions..right or wrong.. - 2/21/2009 8:36:28 PM

MARIEL

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About the airport, he had to drive back home,because he would be at work very early,and it was four hours drive. We were at a hotel together. I did not succeed contacting him either by phone or mail. I dont know,if he just didnt answered, or what. I asked him to transfer the money we agreed he kept for next time,we were together,but he never answered that either. And all he did was to be mad at me when I finally got contact.

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RE: Questions..right or wrong.. - 2/22/2009 7:00:45 AM

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RE: Questions..right or wrong.. - 2/22/2009 10:34:42 PM

MARIEL

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It was him telling me that, after I got home, and he accused me of lying.
I couldnt get him on either phone or mail before I got home. It was a horrible time alone at a hotel room,alone among strangers, alone in the airport waiting for a plane.
And when I finally got him, he didnt say a word about it,but started to accuse me.

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RE: Questions..right or wrong.. - 2/25/2009 2:30:01 PM

angelinamaddox

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You shouldnt be treated like that. All slaves should be treated well, and Masters are to take care of their slaves. He didnt take care of you, and no good relationship has someone in it that doesnt trust the other. Get your money out of the account and get out of the relationship, and find someone that will love you for who you are.

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RE: Questions..right or wrong.. - 2/25/2009 2:43:00 PM

camille65

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MARIEL

It was him telling me that, after I got home, and he accused me of lying.
I couldnt get him on either phone or mail before I got home. It was a horrible time alone at a hotel room,alone among strangers, alone in the airport waiting for a plane.
And when I finally got him, he didnt say a word about it,but started to accuse me.

During this long term offline relationship he has accused you of lying about the scales, lying about the airport situation, has badgered you about your weight etc.

Why on earth are you still with him?

From the questions of "is this the same guy" posted by a few others I have to ask, where is your focus? You apparently have posted about more than one guy including the one living in Turkey. I think you need to step back from this seeking until you are a bit more balanced within yourself and capable of seeing when things start to go wrong, not when they have gone very wrong.

I don't know if you have made this a lifelong habit but it is not healthy for you. Please prioritize your needs and go from there, your needs. Not how some random guy makes you feel during a first conversation.

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RE: Questions..right or wrong.. - 2/25/2009 3:32:38 PM

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I think that there is another thread going on elsewhere on the boards called something like "The s- doesn't stand for stupid". If you go back for more, in your case it will. There are others.
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RE: Questions..right or wrong.. - 2/25/2009 5:41:04 PM

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Ok Mariel i am going to try this kindly and calmly. First off if a man any man that is not your Husband or Life partner demands that you put money in a joint bank account is a RED FLAG! Second if any one ever leaves you stranded after a meeting and could care less about your saftey is a RED FLAG! I know how hard it is to lose weight i have been heavy for years and sir Loved me at my heaviest of 360 i am now 200 to 215 depending on the scale. But the point to being a Master is to be in control not a control freak. Your Sir seams like the type to be a control freak. Granted i do not know him i am just going on what you wrote. I wish you the best of luck in all of your choices. Please always remeber to be safe and always have a way out. ~Sub K~

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RE: Questions..right or wrong.. - 2/26/2009 3:41:08 AM

MARIEL

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Just remember, this guy ask me to marry him, two,he was planning long time ahead, and that was "the purpose" of account, and three, he didnt know about me stranded,apparently-or I dont know-but at least I did not catch him on phone or mail before I got home. I dont know,if that counts or not, but anyway. Just some details.
What I dont understand is,how anybody can go on for along time,obsessing about someone elses weight,no matter what you think,lie or not. I mean,he delivered the message dont have to go on for months! No loosing weight is never easy. If it was easy,everyone would do it. He told me, when you get this or that close to that number,then you have to start loosing weight,but hey, that was ten pounds from my normal weight,my bmi weight. So he doesnt have a clue. well how much control can you actually have,when you dont fucking live in the same country! And talk twice a week shortly. Come on.. it was his own fault,not beeing there.
That is not "mastery" to complain,and not helping.
cant help wondering if he comes crawling back when he discover Ive lost weight. Then he would still have the issues. They cannot be lost,just like that.
I wont go into details, but some ppl actually have a hard time when someone mess with their hearts. its easy to say leave when you are not in the position.
well if it was so easy why does it happen so much,with other ppl.
And,Im not talking to him almost anything anymore.But it hurts just the same. well maybe he thinks he can come crawling back..
Ill tell you not even the turkish guy acts like he does in certain areas, he listens he didnt even listen he just freak out as soon as you say something or ask question,thinking questioning him sort of. How weird is that.
Like Ive said,we dont talk barely. He put me in limbo.

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RE: Questions..right or wrong.. - 2/26/2009 4:21:58 AM

KatyLied

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Huh? If some guy asks you to marry him you automatcially set up a joint account?

You seem to be all over the place with posts about dominants. Perhaps you should slow down the process. Don't get so excited over guys you talk to on-line.

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