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training question for all orentations - 2/22/2009 4:21:23 PM   
devotedOwner19


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Status: offline 		Howdy, im doing a four day training with my sub similar to training of O to mark her introduction as my perment alpha slave, however im at a lost for ideas of what i should do,not do,what works best or not for breaking/training of a slave any idea would be awsome
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RE: training question for all orentations - 2/22/2009 4:29:36 PM   
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RE: training question for all orentations - 2/22/2009 4:33:48 PM   
dreamerdreaming


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Status: offline 		Take time.
 
Don't expect to do it all in four days.

Trust takes time, to grow.

You may get better results if there are days you don't see each other at all, in between each of the four days. Time to decompress, and put things in perspective.

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RE: training question for all orentations - 2/22/2009 4:38:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		She's yours why ask us how we would handle her. If you want ideas go to www.bdsmlibrary.com and read some stories. That should give you the jump start you're looking for. Just realize what is fiction and what is viable.

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RE: training question for all orentations - 2/22/2009 4:52:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		If you have absolutely NO CLUE where to begin with your four day, ceremonial breaking, what exactly makes you think you're qualified to do this? I'd reccomend spending some time working with or watching other Dom/mes with more experience than you, and then just take your time with your slave. If it's going to be a long term thin between the two of you, then there's no need to rush. Learn and grow with eachother, and then when you've both got some experience under your belt, go ahead and do the ToO thing.

Right now, though, it doesn't sound like you're qualified to train goldfish, so no ammount of 'ideas' or 'techniques' from us is gonna turn you into the slave whisperer.



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RE: training question for all orentations - 2/22/2009 4:59:17 PM   
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quote:

im doing a four day training with my sub similar to training of O to mark her introduction


Ah. Sheesh. You have committed to training someone, except you have no idea how to? If I said that to you, wouldn't you think I had it assbackwards, that I was a complete idiot getting into a car without knowing how to drive?

Anyway, I will be glad to help and show you the ropes, I charge $150/h.

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RE: training question for all orentations - 2/22/2009 4:59:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		Training and changing behaviors is a long process along with bonding and building trust.You have four wonderful days to spend together so decide on a reasonable goal or area in your relationship you want to make stronger and work around that.

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RE: training question for all orentations - 2/22/2009 5:00:24 PM   
dreamerdreaming


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Thank you, Sfortzando. There seem to be a lot of clueless "dominants" around here lately. At least this one didn't send his sub to gather ideas for him, I'll give him that.

OP, what Sfortzando said. I really wanted to say something like that as well but I guess I'm not in a snarky enough mood (yet) tonight.

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RE: training question for all orentations - 2/22/2009 5:00:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		it seem i need to clarify myself i already have a good amount of ideas however i was seeing if there were ideas or technigues that i might not know about soemthing of a depature from my usal. i was taking the opportunity to try something new and diffrent perhaps to both of us

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RE: training question for all orentations - 2/22/2009 5:08:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		Watching a movie and seeing something you like isn't the greatest way to conduct your real life experiements.  And at best... this is an experiement or you would know what to do before you decided to do it.  Bring in 'breaking' a submissive in four days... whoa dude... step away from the submissive... very slowly... move back... and do not return until you do have a clue.

Run submissive, run!  (Stolen from a line in a movie... sorry Forrest) lol at my kettle...

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RE: training question for all orentations - 2/22/2009 5:10:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		OP,
The slave you refer to, is it the "primary" you mention in your profile or a new one that you mention you're looking for?  If this is the girl you speak of, I would suggest that both of you get involved in a local bdsm crowd. Go to some munches...classes....find a mentor....cpr/first aid training (I mention this last one because I'm just a bit concerned for the welfare of your girl if you're as inexperienced as you appear).

Why the rush to establish permanency?  The rush to train.....to break (I agree with Lockit....don't break your toys)? 
Allow me to quote a couple of "Masters"......

"Slow down, you move too fast.
You got to make the morning last.
Just kicking down the cobble stones
Looking for fun and feelin' groovy."

Good luck.....to both you and your girl. 

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RE: training question for all orentations - 2/22/2009 5:14:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		Wow have all the wankers and trolls here made us all so bitter that when someone posts here seeking advice we jump all over them.To the OP is it more of a four day long play scene you are looking to create or for contructive ways to maximize the time spent together to deepen the D/s dynamic in your relationship?Feel free to message me on the other side if you want a new friend to bounce ideas off of.

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RE: training question for all orentations - 2/22/2009 5:18:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		Anyone who wants to break train a submissive, I have a hard time taking seriously.  Jaded... you bet!  Bitter... no...

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RE: training question for all orentations - 2/22/2009 5:20:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		i can admit i must have phrased my request badly becouse im suddenly become the clueless idiom of inexperianced Dom, to answear a few remarks  i am cpr trained and  im not so inexperainced to try something dangerouse without alot of prier thought inverstigation"such as this " and advice also i do not appreciate that some of u say becouse i came on here looking for advice means my sub should run or im not fit to be a dom

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RE: training question for all orentations - 2/22/2009 5:24:40 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		So break training a submissive has something to do with cpr?  How about break training in four days being a good idea from an experienced dominant?  And if you have one and are hoping for two... and you need idea's... well... experienced or not... something is wrong with this picture.

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RE: training question for all orentations - 2/22/2009 5:29:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		Even if you are highly experienced and just looking for new ideas or techniques, why would you use them to train another. The purpose of training is to impart knowledge you already have upon someone who does not. If you have no knowledge or experience with using, for example, a nine-tails, it wouldn't be something I'd incorporate into a training session unless I were the one being taught. So sure - spice it up, since it's supposed to be a special scene, but with a new outfit or a toy you made yourself, or a variation on something you're already well versed with. Don't just pick a random thing you've no experience with and expect to rule.

Go with what you know and what you're comfortable with for training sessions. Go with new and exciting when you're experimenting and learning.


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RE: training question for all orentations - 2/22/2009 5:31:25 PM   
devotedOwner19


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Status: offline 		i wanted idea's in the first place becouse i understand u never stop learning or growing or getting better and that no one man,women, or anything in between has all the knowledge or ideas  ill admit im not the most experaince but me and my sub wanted to do this we've been looking forward to it it still months away and i like to prepare hence gather ideas in addition to my own maybe a diffrent veiw or take on things a peice of contructive critism  or advice from someone who knows more then i the reson i cant go to a local bdsm community is becouse i only know of one and it 21 years or older, that why i was asking on here becouse this was a site where u could get advice on the matter when needed not jaded somewhat disheartening and humilating comments noone like to be told there a danger to there sub or for that matter be the butt of unfriendly remarks

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RE: training question for all orentations - 2/22/2009 5:32:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		Oh for christ sakes "breaking a submissive" can mean many different things depending on the person.The fact that he mentioned the O website kinda led me to belive he was refering to that kind of fantasy breaking.Not every Dom who is looking to act out those kinds of scenes is looking to break her in the psychological sense.When in doubt why not ask the person to clarify before you blast them.Quite honestly i will take a Dom willing to reach out and ask help and advice over someone who thinks they know it all and their way is the only right way.

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RE: training question for all orentations - 2/22/2009 5:35:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Seeking advice is one thing - but this guy is looking to 'break' someone and his only background is a french novel and whatever advice he gets on the internet. That's like reading a Gresham novel and googling the US Judicial system in preparation for defending yourself in your own murder trial.

Jaded - yes. Bitter - no. Careful - you betcha!

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RE: training question for all orentations - 2/22/2009 5:37:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		1. Take her to the sex toy store.  Tell her you will buy her anything in the store, and then use it on her later that night.

2. Next day, take her to Home Depot.  Tell her you will buy her anything in the store, and then use it on her later that night.  Take her to the chainsaw section first, for a mutual giggle-slash-mindfuck.

3. Have her go to the kitchen and select five things.  Then blindfold her and play "Name that Implement."

4. Teach her how to draw a hot bath so it is perfect for you.


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